Do you think that teenage dating is toxic?

[JohnGarcia]

I don’t necessarily believe, but I think that mind games are one of the most common thing when teenagers date. Exploring people is what they usually do so that means they’re not ready for commitment yet. But maybe that’s just my perception. Have you ever dated during your mid to high-school times?

[AmandaYVR]

Teenagers are mostly idiots. It's part of the learning process. I wouldn't necessarily call it toxic. Bullying is toxic. Dating each other is just sort of a... hot mess, I guess.

I think of them as like teenaged animals. They're playing, exploring, roughousing, but they are telling each other, "Hey! Watch it! Shut up!" and stuff like that. (The problem is pregnancies and STDs happen with such recklessness, which is not okay. There are bacteria-resistant strains all over the place now.)
But none of them really know all that well, what they are doing. They will figure it out eventually, and 'school' each other, in the process.
The one thing that teenagers shouldn't do (but will) is ignore all advice from the older people in their lives. Arrogance and lack of humility is more of a problem. Of course older people know more than a teenager does. But their burgeoning sense of an inkling of newfound independence, drives them to detach, and learn the hard way.

[FictionalCharacter]

I don’t know how dating is NOW for teenagers. But I definitely know allll teenagers are not serious about relationships. They’re young, they’re still kids in the mental way.

I see teenagers now testing everyone they hook up with and justify their actions and sugar coat all their excuses through texting and social media.

Back then in 2005 when flip phones were around. In high school, teenagers told you things to your face. Very harsh and bluntly. I’ve had guys reject me cause of my looks and told it to me to my face or yelled at me over the phone cause of it. But I still had to bottle it up and show up to school like nothing happened.

[Pj1981]

I believe it can be. My personal experience though I feel was not. My ex wife and I started dating at 14 years old and I was kind of a bad kid, did what I want hung out with gang members and was going down the wrong path. she got good grades, had a bedtime, and was very responsible. I decided I liked spending time with her more than anything and I changed to be a better person with goals. Because of her I went to college got a good job and had a good life. I divorced her and the teenager came back out of me and I fucked it all up. Dating as a teen was good for me though.

[weeee]

I find that too yeah. Also the whole like wait x amount of time before replying or purposefully playing hard to get because the chase is fun (wtf?).

I've seen some people, especially women, outright lose interest because the guy "was too easy to get". Like what.

[JohnGarcia]

I know right? Childish.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Most teenage dating is toxic because 1) they date to win 2) they aren't yet okay with not knowing who they are 3) they often lack healthy conflict resolution skills.

To be fair, this isn't always a teenage thing, a 30 year old who has never dated can be just as lacking. With experience, and I note, positive experience, we learn how to express boundaries and elevate others via constructive criticism.

If you want your partner to improve, you need to get out of your own perspective. You can't call them lazy if you want them to work harder. You sit them down and tell them you want them to work harder in actionable, measurable ways.

[kyleelyn199723]

100% yes because their brains aren’t developed enough to be able to handle adult situations correctly and properly. Sex during teenage years is not treated as sacred and from my experience , I had the gut pressure sex onto me when I 100% really don’t know how sex worked yet. It kind of made me feel like I had to do it in order for us to continue to date , and I really didn’t think there was an alternative idea.

[dragoblack]

Oh definitely toxic with raging hormones. But the manipulation tactics with dating isn't just kids, it's adults too, because being straight forward about your intentions is considered boring compared to the toxic drama caused by hinting, manipulation, seduction, ... etc.

[Mofunfour20]

Yeah, the guys that want the girls have to try too hard because most females have far more options than guys. Social media ruined it because women never know what they want. So guys usually get strung along by an indecisive female.

[exitseven]

I never dated in high School. There was a girl I use to hang out with where I went on vacation. It was nice hanging out with her because we were not in the high school bubble. We just did our own thing and it was very relaxed and no pressure.

[Apple1996]

Nah a lot of the couple's I knew in high school are still together today. I met my husband in high school too so maybe my school just had some good relationships

[wkozak]

Yes, i had a lot of toxic girls in my mid and high school life and i'm an expert with this things.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nah dating was great in Primary and Secondary (High) school.

it was more of swapping partners than dating tbh.

[slatyb]

It’s no more toxic than adult dating. Of course they aren’t ready for commitment. That’s not a reason not to date.

[MrJMM]

Technically I can say that from my personal experience it is toxic. Especially in my school... Those people seriously are just trying to make each other miserable. I'm about to become a Senior and I have always seen toxic couples there.

[Xoxo3rach3xoxo]

I mean not all I’m in a 3 year relationship and I was 14 when I first got into it and I know my self worth and I wouldn’t stay in a toxic relationship

[kinggeorge007]

Mind games are toxic at any age, period. That being said, you can't generalise teenage dating as a whole is toxic.

[FilmGuy93]

I don't think it needs to be; but it often is, yes.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. I had an awesome relationship in high school. Learned a ton about love and relationships. Wouldn't trade it. HIGHLY recommend to anyone.

[OddBeMe]

Only toxic if it’s outside their age zone. Then it involves manipulation, etc.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

No. Women under 30 are toxic if they don’t have a good interact family.

[karaspara]

It's always been difficult and a learning curve

[fr44c3iqqs]

Nope. Not at all. It is more based on personality.

[In_Trance]

for some it is, but not for all

[Anonymous]

Only in regards to the way young females are.

[IncognitoBandito]

It serves a purpose

[anylolone]

Yes.