Why do you think dating in America is so toxic?

[cth2188]

What caused it?

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I keep hearing men complain about feminism- serious entitlement issues while overasserting dominance in an unhealthy way. I'm not about equality the issue with American men too selfish, too controlling, and seeking slaves instead of wives. The issue a woman will not submit if you lack in patriarch as MEN.

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+1 y

All I'm reading is sexism , misgonism, and abuse , " hey look at me I have a penis and I'm a man / I will overassert over women " RED FLAG... YOU DON'T CONTROL/ FORCE WOMEN INTO SUBMISSION BY AUTHORITY. Where are the gentleman at? I will continue this post 📫 this is crazy what I'm reading.

[stepyo99]

Feminism is a destructive force. The biggest complaint from women in this thread is that they can't find a man who wants a relationship. The reason for this is that women don't offer anything anymore but demand everything in return. Many women can't cook, can't clean, aren't loyal, and are unsupportive naggers. And on top of that women have little respect for themselves so they have sex outside of wedlock and men start to realize why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? And then even moreso, the high body count is a huge turnoff for prospective men looking for a relationship.

Feminism has created this brain worm in the minds of women that taking orders from your husband who loves you is a horrible thing and instead the pinnacle of life is taking orders from their boss.

Also, relationships are incredibly risky for men these days. A successful marriage is a coin flip. And of those 50% of marriages that end in divorce, the majority of those divorces are initiated by women. These factors heavily disincentivize men from pursuing relationships so they end up checking out of that part of social life altogether.

But all of these issues I've pointed out are common knowledge. The women who take them to heart and apply them to their lives will find a good relationship. The women who are too strong and independent for these words of wisdom can look forward to their wine-filled life of popping benzos with their cats.

Ultimately these massive cultural problems will solve themselves as the men and women who are unwilling to reject feminism, mgtow, hedonism, and all other modern toxicity will self-select themselves out of the gene pool and be replaced by people with "ancient" or "backwards" ideas of gender roles for men and women because they reproduced.

[Schwartzisbae]

Babe this is so misogynistic it’s almost funny. You realize you just described yourself and all other men as toddlers who can’t take care of themselves. You meet a girl, marry her and expect her to submit, do your chores, boost your fragile ego, let you be free and autonomous while she waits patiently for your next command? Dang straight she’s hiring a divorce lawyer!! You take no responsibility that you use the patriarchy to enable you to act like an incompetent teenager your entire life. 10/10 will take care of my cats and a wine vineyard before I take care of a grown ass man like he’s an infant. Yikes. You should be embarrassed as a man submitting this opinion publicly. Also, your lack of knowledge about feminism really shows bro. Do some research before you start complaining about women’s sexual freedom. Poor baby

[cth2188]

American men are out my pool entirely and this doesn't speak to me sadly women like me get lumped in.. I'm so glad I date internationally as I'm not about to prove myself to a man who can't see my value. Celibacy has been my greatest leverage and peace of mind.

[stepyo99]

@Schwartzisbae Like I said, this problem will solve itself. The ultra conservative religious groups with chaste women who submit to their husbands and pop out 7 babies by the time they're 30 will inherit the earth while strong and independent feminists and their toxic misandrist, anti-natilist thinking will die miserable and alone. #girlboss

[Schwartzisbae]

Blah blah blah and the misogynists will die in prison for rape and murder because women don’t find submission to unstable men attractive. Or you’ll just kill each other off first. Women who are pro misogyny will wake up one day and simply divorce you and leave with half of your “hard earned cash”. Right?

[Schwartzisbae]

You’re so delusional bro. Feminists don’t submit to idiots like you, they find high value men who aren’t closeted gay and they share a happy life with them. Grow up

[stepyo99]

@Schwartzisbae lmao I really struck a nerve with you. Hopefully you'll realize what a bitter and resentful person feminism has turned you into before it's too late.

[Texaskid1]

@Schwartzisbae Why all the anger. The man is just speaking plain facts.

[Schwartzisbae]

Lol! Yea dumb little boys who use misogyny as an excuse to never grow up really annoys me. Honestly I feel bad for you. Why is the male suicide rate so high again? Oh yea.. cause y’all are delusional and thinks you’re Kings until you get old and start noticing women find you creepy. Wake up now and you’re life might eventually be of value. Good luck mr pedophile rapist

[D_Bone_Steak]

The feminism mind virus. I mean it's not even feminism anymore... it's like BLM, trans this and that, now trans the kids. It's like this mind virus that just keeps morphing into different things that jumps around from race or gender like it doesn't care. It's gone into this body positivity movement where I guess it's fantastic to be obese. Oh god these people have so many "movements" like ableism... cripple people time or something like that?

If I can break down what I think I'm seeing here now that I'm back in America... everyone thinks they are, or they actually think they're "special." Not joking... this is like the only place I've been where someone will basically brag about being "retarded." Like "Oh, look at me, I have autism, I'm overweight, I think I'm a different gender, and I hate wuuuughite people. Don't you think I'm special?"

This has become a clown world... wtf was going on here when I was gone? I still want to call fags, fags, but you people have put fags on some sort of high horse.

[kosmische]

Bc men think they can have a traditional wife while having a hot side piece -.-

Men in America are falling behind in most aspects in life including love and relationships bc they refuse to look inward and become better men. Social and emotional deficit. Women are seeking better or purposely choosing to be single (single women are happier than married women)...


I've tried dating and most men just want to get laid and they have sex with you even when you're not their type. They use you until they get someone better or as passtime.

Also all those male podcasts are trash too.

[cth2188]

Agreed American men are behind ! Exactly why I'm not enthusiastic on dating the as potential suitors ! I'm so glad I date internationally!

[cth2188]

Them ! They are seeking wives and don't know how to approach or talk to women! They're trash 🗑!

[cth2188]

What happened to chivalrous men 😕

[Rosexøxø]

Well, I’ll show it in that popular school-aged song:

🎶-

💕❤️‍🔥❤️‍🩹 ‘Freedom of Speech’ and ‘Bitter Hurt’ ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🔥💕

sittin’ in a tree. 🌳

K-I-S- (sos! 🚨 Sos! Lol) S-I-N-G 💋

First comes love 😍 then comes hate, 😡then comes

‘American Dating’ 👥 with a

poor

success rate! 🤝😃📈📉

————————————————————

(But as the case with all, and most issues, problems can be solved).

Just as free speech and hurt grudges got married-

Problems have their “soul mate,” called solutions. They really ought to meet up soon. 🔜

[Saramad_Hill]

I haven't really considered this issue, but I can share my experience with my exes?

1st: 3 years starting when I was 20. The spark died for both of us, and I developed a low libido by this point. We were engaged. The guy who helped her move out is the guy she married. (Lame, but whatever. Hope she's happy, honestly.)

2nd: A month or two. I resisted her advances for sex a few times. Eventually she kinda coerced her way on top of me on a couch. Technically that's rape but I don't really have any harsh feelings about it. Again, she broke up with me telling me we didn't fuck enough. That's fine, just not a fit for me.

3rd: I can't really remember my third right now.

4th: I thought she was the hottest thing in the world. I didn't enjoy this relationship at all I think I cried three separate times. Long story short she kept visiting her ex for drugs. And I was never allowed to meet him cause he might "get mad."

5th: She cussed out ex #4 and found me on tinder. Mainly she was just down to bang, and a few declined advances on separate nights and she ended it in a neutral way.

6th: I broke up with her within a week because I wasn't feeling it. But we're actually way better friends than lovers and I see her often just to game or vibe. She's got BPD so not every day is sunshine and rainbows.

That's all I can think of... I don't consider myself attractive or perfect. I'm sure I've got issues of some sort, but I generally think I'm an okay person even if I'm a bit boring. I don't do online dating because it just doesn't work for me. Just kind of waiting on the next one to pop up somewhere. Sorry for the rant.

As for other people dating in America, I don't pay attention to them. I think people would benefit from therapy if it was cheaper.

[TooHot2Care]

Girl number 4 was Dominican, wasn’t she?

[Saramad_Hill]

Loool

[lightbulb27]

I saw corrupting coming in early 2000's with hookup culture, that maybe started before in the 1990's.

Online dating introduced more messes like ghosting and distrust, etc..

Social media and internet.

Something lead to this "easy women" culture... who lead that? I don't think it's the players that advertise, I think it's women corrupting men. women hold the keys.

Beyond that, don't know... our morals have been declining with "must see TV" junk fed out of hollywood.

Lastly, I think a lot of guys are "lost" or feel hopeless and a small % get what they want.

[PragmaticProfit]

The decline in religious influence within society is directly linked to such issues. There is a growing fixation of valuing individualism and self-determination. Or in other words, being your own God. The Bible cautions against promiscuity and provides clear guidance on how men and women should manage a household. Although these teachings are present in the Bible, they are not always considered fashionable. As our society's cultural fabric continues to weaken, it is indeed concerning for single men and women navigating this landscape.

[Adam1978]

Lack of religion isn't the issue. Good values has nothing to do with religion. Neither is being a individual. It's the lack of good parenthood and lack of consequences for bad decisions. Ie women in society where the harlots and the single mothers are at the bottom of society. So they avoid ending up there.

[PragmaticProfit]

@Adam1978

Ephesians provides guidance for men and women on managing their households/parenting, and following these scriptural instructions can lead to a stable family life. Many individuals may incorporate these values into their daily lives, even without realizing their biblical origins. When people prioritize their personal desires over the time-tested structure offered by these teachings, the outcome can become uncertain. Without adherence to these principles, the support system and moral obligations that once held people accountable may no longer be present.

[PragmaticProfit]

@Adam1978 Values and morality are created by God, the Logos. In this view, individuals live within God's world and follow His structure, whether they consciously recognize it or not. This belief emphasizes the importance of divine guidance in shaping human behavior and understanding of right and wrong.

[Adam1978]

No it's not it's shaped by biology, actions and reactions and lesson learned over generations. Religion is irrelevant it's just a tool to control the masses. And in general contain as much bad values as good ones. If the controllers could they would make it all bad for the masses and good for themselves.

[PragmaticProfit]

@Adam1978 You're entitled to your opinion, and it's okay to disagree. It's important not to dismiss religion as wholly negative without considering its complexities. As for reading the Bible, it's a valuable source of insight and can contribute to a more informed understanding. I'd suggest you read it before dismissing it.

[Adam1978]

You know that the world has many cultures and religions right. So you can't go to the Bible and claim it's the solution since society has worked without it in the majority of the world. So yes you can dismiss religion. If all religions has the same values it's because they all learned the same lessons through history. Not because of religion, independent of religion.

[PragmaticProfit]

@Adam1978 Let's contemplate the idea that we originated from nothing without the involvement of a creator. In such a scenario, do you believe that following the moral and structural guidelines of the New Testament would be advantageous for society? Depending solely on one's own moral code can be precarious. However, if people attach themselves to and commit to a perceived divine authority, such as God, it increases the likelihood of them adhering to these principles even during challenging times when they may not feel like doing so.

[Adam1978]

No I don't think any religion is advantage to a society because it encourage stupidity and not thinking. A good set of rules should easily be explained and reasonable. It's not hard to explain why killing people are wrong from a society perspective or even a personal. No god or punishment after death is required. Same goes for stealing, rape and many other crimes. The law book needs to be something a person can agree to follow. And it shouldn't be changed without a majority democratic vote. So the ruling class can't make special rules for themselves.

[PragmaticProfit]

@Adam1978 Reading sacred texts can yield a similar effect as delving into any form of philosophy, as the more you engage with them, the more enlightened you become. It is unclear what you mean when you suggest that religious individuals are not thinkers. Those who practice a faith often contemplate profound subjects on a regular basis, especially during communal worship. A single chapter from a religious text can be rich enough to inspire extensive interpretations and analyses, demonstrating the depth and complexity of these works. Thus, it is difficult to understand your assertion that religious people do not engage in thoughtful reflection.

[PragmaticProfit]

@Adam1978 It is hard to envision a situation where individuals engaging in regular, structured reflection on their values, character, and morals would be detrimental. If everyone in the world participated in such contemplation, considering the challenges of our world and how to respond to them, it would likely contribute to making the world a better place. Would you agree with that?

[Adam1978]

I don't think you can get everyone to join anything. But you should have the option to be a gatekeeper of society and not have things forced upon you. But it also must be limited in scope, so only the really important stuff bubble to everyones affecteds attention. Let say we should expect people to spend an hour a week reading current issues and put in their opinion. More than that and the system will be to heavy burden.

[Katebfun]

Let's me real honest nowadays days women have to compete with woman and now MEN!! Everyone seems to have lost their moral compassion and too many are bi or gay. Also there's 20% of men getting most the women and those Alpha men don't want to commit because they may have women chasing them or prusing them.

Also women are the gate keepers of sex men gate keepers of relationships. Online dating sucks. I've noticed men do not prusue women and or flirt.

[cth2188]

Ikr I'm tired of it all I find a lot of men don't want to date or commitment less more actually court or get married

[Katebfun]

Yep. Dito. Dating is more difficult as you age too.

[cth2188]

Yes I'm 34 and noticed a change in dating after 25.. so glad I stopped dating 10 years ago

[BCA6010]

The two biggest contributors are online dating, and the mass proliferation of, and ease of access to pornography and sexualized content.

Online dating heavily encourages hookup culture over building relationships organically, and also turns dating into basically shopping. It creates an illusion that something better is just a swipe away, and discourages working out problems in favor of just moving on.

Pornographic material goes without saying, but it is ridiculously easy to find, even without trying to. It's also being pushed into content aimed at young teens and children, which has largely normalized abusive relationships, sexual obsession, and masturbation as an alternative to actual relationships as early as 10-12 years of age.

Modern feminists and similar movements that promote brazen sexism and/or promiscuity aren't really doing any favors here either, but they're not even close to being in the same league as what apps and porn have done.

[JustBeingReal727]

Pursuing toxic people AKA the bad boys or visa versa and people getting out of prison under the notion that the other person can change whomever it is that is getting out. Or that the person already changed because they got released from person. So it becomes a trend people would do anything to fit in. So often times it is ignored that person's has to want to change you can't change other people. They are all sorts of factors as to why. You can guide them but it's up to them to decide if they want to take your guidance.

[Msputiton]

Tbh.

Most Americans are very self absorbed.

Americans are more interested in filling their own needs and just hope it matches their partners needs, and if not. Too bad too sad.

That's how I see it

[cth2188]

Yes they are ! Serious entitlement issues

[Msputiton]

I do see this. Even the users on here are like that.
They literally will tell us we have to change our preference so they are included.
Like umm no

[cth2188]

Right its a no in my book

[marrk]

What do you mean?

[TooHot2Care]

Go back to Canada, Maputition!

[Msputiton]

@TooHot2Care American born dummy🤣

[TooHot2Care]

Orly? Which state? I’m a NJ for now.

[Texaskid1]

American culture has been toxic for some time now.

The hyper -individualism , the obsession with money and material gain , the overall superficiality, the love of presentation over substance, the morphing of true Christianity into our current version of "Christianity" ( which values all the aforementioned negative traits - think mega Churches and millionaire pastors), the rise of smartphone zombies, the disdain of the intellectual and philosophical life... all of these things have morphed into a certain toxicity that have driven many Americans into depression , loneliness, suicide, rejecting the opposite gender, etc.

It's a wonder why we are not even more toxic in this country.

[AlexisDiani]

I am an outsider so this opinion is not well informed but from where I am much of American society appears toxic these days. It used to have such a good reputation so what’s gone wrong?

[Kelly6]

used to?
maybe it was same but we didn't know then, but now because of social media everything is out

[cth2188]

Yes social media destroyed everything I refuse to online date and I have no desire to date anymore

[richardcory]

I think the political divide is toxic. Each "side" no longer even listens to what the other has to say, just to what their own side says the other said.

[cth2188]

Yes politics play a role

[Ben487]

Women's attitudes have changed. Many think they're something they are not, b/c we tell all women they're beautiful snowflakes and can have anything they want. They're basically brainwashed from birth. It'd be like a fat, short bald guy with a bad attitude walking around thinking he's the shit and wanting to date 10's only. If it weren't for the biological need for sex these peeps wouldn't be so deluded.

Hook up culture and porn and feminism and antiquated divorce laws have taken care of the rest

[cth2188]

You sound hateful towards American women.. what I've noticed about American men all toxic and negative perspectives about women. I've come across toxic , bitter, misgony, and sexist men. If these women have attitudes clearly they've been hurt badly

[Ben487]

I'm trying to help actually. I'd prefer to spare women the plight of being a sock for a thousand dudes before they get washed up and old and look back on their life bitterly. The truth isn't always easy to hear.

[Schwartzisbae]

Why are men so quick to blame feminism? Y’all realize feminism is for everyone right? I’m not a feminist because I think men should definitely be humbled and stripped of some privileges. Feminism says men should live happy and healthy too. Bruh you should be mad at the patriarchy. That is why men are entitled, that’s why men think they can use women like socks and shame them for adding more bodies, that’s why women are angry and don’t trust men. You blame feminism because why? If feminism wins then the patriarchy will go to shit and you little boys will have to actually grow and strive to be better partners instead of relying on threats and brute strength to scare or shame women into patriarchal obedience. You’re a joke bro. Wake up

[cth2188]

I'm not even part of the feminism train , but get lumped in with these types of women- I actually don't support feminism @Schwartzisbae exactly. I'm done with American men collectively this toxic mentality is a turn off. I remember when men were actually men in the 70s era now they've become soft, emotional, and less masculine males. These silly movements they created are all toxic too red pill , blue pill , etc [ TOXIC] SEEMS FEMINISM IS WINNING.

[Schwartzisbae]

Men made promises to women throughout history. Every time women fought for their rights men said “why do you need rights? We’ll protect you!” It worked for a few decades but now men don’t want to protect. Men are scared of other men and would rather not live up to those promises. Now we’re back at square one except now, men make it clear that they will hurt, humiliate, degrade and dehumanize us if we even consider fighting for our rights. Pussies. No one deserves that toxicity and that’s why men and women would prefer to be single these days. Men don’t trust women because they think we won’t submit and women don’t trust men because they think they’re entitled to our bodies. At the end of the day, men control the patriarchy and are the only ones who can stop this. They’re just lazy and don’t want to take accountability

[cth2188]

I know it's absolutely insane what's happening 😳 I was born in the wrong era and remember when men were men during that era, being providers, builders, leaders, respecting women , head of household, and masculine dominant in a healthy way. Men stopped being chivalrous and gents then became dicks and jerks extremely toxic ! Safest thing American women can do is run for the heels and avoid them! Focus on empowerment and self-preservation of your purity and femininity.

[Schwartzisbae]

Yessss! There are for sure some men out there who fight for us because they know it’s wrong and immoral but most men love the power they feel and continue to uphold the patriarchy. Honestly the nicest guys I’ve met are raised from non American parents. Really says a lot!

[cth2188]

Yes I only date men internationally and refuse to date or deal with American men! I'm about holding both sides accountable women have their shyt , but men should uphold themselves better!

[cth2188]

I wish American men the best they're toxicity is too much for me! Men who love to argue and blame women red flag !

[WhiteBoyChill]

Facts! @KrakenAttackin

[TooHot2Care]

@Schwartzisbae You realize that everything we are able to say, do and react to all comes back to corporations embracing feminism, right?

That’s why men blame feminism so fast.

What we were offered was egalitarianism and justice.

What we got is a toxic relationship with an ex.

I’m good with feminism, but the way y’all act online snd in real life? Combined with the bullshit corporations do?

If it’s not for everyone then stop affecting everyone?

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

I think just being American partly makes a few things toxic like driving cars on the road. High stress, unrealistic expectations from life, self entitlement to a certain definition of “freedom.” If you get to do what you want, and everyone else gets to do what they want, that will create confrontations when the things people do have to be chosen. And in my opinion not enough people are diagnosed with a mental disorders. It can be very mild, but affect living.

[DizzyDesii]

I’ve dated internationally too. The shit ain't no different lmao. Its all toxic depending on the parties involved

[cth2188]

I find I do better with men overseas however vs American men

[DizzyDesii]

I’ll say they seemed more genuine and there was longevity. Bt there was also a lot of last minute lies that make me stick to nationwide now lol

[cth2188]

Oh you just started dating internationally?

[DizzyDesii]

Started? Lmao i just stopped

[cth2188]

OK lol

[DizzyDesii]

I was with someone in Brazil, Serbia, AU, UK, India, Greece And Germany and at least half got to visit. But im good. Ion want no more international hoes 😂

[cth2188]

Lol ok good luck

[Smashingdoozy]

Because people are toxic in America. Moving was the best decision I've ever made, boys here are so refreshing

[cth2188]

Yessss

[TooHot2Care]

Female passport bro, huh? ☺️

[cth2188]

I date internationally whew American men not good

[TooHot2Care]

I’m impressed and a bit envious.

[cth2188]

Why are you envious? I got tired of being lumped in with modern women and chivalrous gents are non existent in the USA in large numbers

[cth2188]

The toxicity in this country sickens me.

[Smashingdoozy]

@TooHot2Care absolutely not a passport bro.

[FilmGuy93]

It all boils down to a lack of communication and boundaries. People in this country are raised with the attitude that they need to get as much as they can for as little effort as possible.

[cth2188]

Yep dating has become selfish and a lot of people have an entitlement issue

[cth2188]

Entitled to sex especially men

[cth2188]

I stopped trying with American men

[FilmGuy93]

I've stopped trying with American women... I can't blame you for feeling the same in reverse about American men.

[cth2188]

Yes I stopped trying 11 years ago lack of gentlemen is a problem for me - these movements have turned me away from American men red flag 👎🚫

[KrakenAttackin]

@cth2188 Good, why don't you leave the U. S., find your "perfect man" and settle down.

[cth2188]

I will and yep started that transition

[cth2188]

I don't do perfect men - I only deal with men who know how to treat and talk to women

[KrakenAttackin]

@cth2188 Adios and don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.

[cth2188]

Yeah @KrakenAttackin it'll be ok 😆

[LiamJHayden]

Societal rot. The over-emphasis on sex rather than relationship. The internet creating too many options. Later waves of Feminism. The extreme parts of MGTOW. The list is a lot longer.

[cth2188]

I agree society has to go its turned me off to dating - yes feminism / how many movement's are there?

[Greenbean27]

1. Sexual revolution, this encourages causal sleeping around over serious relationships

2. Romance is idealized not practical. This leads to unrealistic standards.

3. people have high standards for their partners not themselves.

[cth2188]

Yes I'm tired so tired 😫..#1 is the biggest problem coming from potential partners

[HighValue]

The main reason is moral differences. Half of our society hates the other half so just that eliminates a large percentage of potential partners before even considering physical attraction, compatible long term life goals, location, hobby/interest similarities, etc.

[LogicBomber]

Women have insanely unrealistic expectations and demands. They are also entitled, narcissistic, and shallow. They expect men to check off endless checkboxes and expect men To pay, be subservient, etc while they don’t bring anything to the table.

[inhua]

hookup culture resulting from the sexual revolution plus simping resulting from the emasculation of men started by targeting boys in school

[alearningboy]

Well Im young I didn't see a lot but everything is the fault of social media. People are taking selfies, pictures putting online what theyre doing. Clubs, party, sex these are all temporary. Before you know we are getting old.

Its just an opinion, correct me if im wrong.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think it is that bad. It is just that bad fore the few that complain about it all the time. Kind of the squeaky wheel getting the oil syndrome.

[Schwartzisbae]

Because men think they have authority and entitlement to women and womens bodies when they dont. American men lack respect for anyone who isn’t a man and women just don’t find them attractive. Men just refuse to learn and accept responsibility for their behavior. It’s very childlike and probably why so many American men are attracted to little kids

[RasmusAiken]

Toxic, yeah because it's basically done for fun, not for earnestly seeking a life partner. That's someone's heart and soul your playing with and you're effing it up.

[RobEdelman]

Easy. 80% of women chase the top 20% of men, and are surprised when the men don’t commit to them. The bottom 80% of men are ignored and never given a chance, so they give up and pursue other enjoyable aspects of life

[Juxtapose]

Hookup culture and hoodrats talking about "getting a bag."

[cth2188]

What's a hood rat?

[cth2188]

Women who work and or single? Or women who just men for 💰?

[Juxtapose]

A hoodrat is someone who's a scumbag and venerates "the hood."

They are gangsters and thugs.

[cth2188]

Wow where are you meeting these women?

[Juxtapose]

Ohio lol 😂

[cth2188]

Only in Ohio 😆

[Miristheiss]

Feminism

The sexual revolution

Zero values and decency

[Justjerkoff90]

Dating is over 12 years an nothing no sex either so yea marriage and all is done with I have come to just except it it's depressing because I want love but I know that a women will never love me the way I want or love her it's a bitch but nothing to do anymore but leave it go..

[Anonymous]

Because on dating women act like Emma Watson but in reality she look like potato.

[cth2188]

OK so it's about filters and looks

[Opinion Owner]

I miss your boobs 😭

[cth2188]

I know :) you been bad 👎

[Opinion Owner]

I'm always bad 😭😭

[cth2188]

Yes..

[Opinion Owner]

Wanna play with your big boobies 😭😭

[cth2188]

No 👎 no

[Britney04]

Society and Government has us fighting with each other.

[Ryfyle]

It's good to see that you can see the true culprit in societies decay, but on Girls ask Guys, we require a higher degree of narcissism and dysfunction in the comments section.

[aoihewgf]

Yes!!! Seriously they did the same damn thing with poor black people and poor rednecks.

If you look at it, they suffer from the same damn problems but have been hustled into blaming each other.

Now it's a war between men and women. Brought on by the same people

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’ll take the woman that’s willing to submit, over the one who isn’t.

If that makes me a misogynist so be it.

I’d rather have a woman willing to cook for me, than some entitled brat who insists I do it for her or myself.

[cth2188]

I don't have a problem cooking for a man who is my husband not a boyfriend and is providing sometimes that's not a requirement it's an obligation

[cth2188]

What you men need are slaves and nannies

[WhiteBoyChill]

Well I do plan on working in the future, so its not like I plan on contributing nothing

[cth2188]

OK I like a man who helps me in the kitchen we cook together and yes I cook

[WhiteBoyChill]

Depends on when I get home,

[cth2188]

OK fair enough

[Ryfyle]

Not enough dead people and too much social media.

[outlawbradyjr]

Racism, i. e. white chicks who don't date even handsome black dudes such as I.

[Buttajah]

I honestly think society in America for the most part is toxic. Toxic people result and trickle down into toxic dating and
ultimately toxic relationships.

[DarkLegacy]

Yes it is, but it is the same in most modern countries these days and feminism is to blame

[standardguy]

Usa has a competitive and egoist society which turned worse by feminist influence. There is no solution but return to the roots.

[EpicSnail]

In what way is it toxic?

[cth2188]

This is an open board for you to share your thoughts and concerns about the topic - this isn't for me to answer

[EpicSnail]

I'll pass

[cth2188]

OK thanks

[shades777]

its the people, the environment, the media, your friends your family, your expectations

[Ptrmbrs88]

Because Americans in general are toxic.

[cth2188]

Yes it's horrible

[cth2188]

I wish I could leave the states

[ChiTown33]

Erosion of morals, values, and integrity.

[Degenerate]

Hookup culture

[cth2188]

Yes exactly 💯

[cth2188]

I would have to say yes

[Degenerate]

It's the only correct option

[cth2188]

Sadly yes

[Degenerate]

Yeah lol wanna hookup?

[cth2188]

Hookup?

[Degenerate]

Yeah lol that was a good joke right there

[cth2188]

Oh lol I was like huh

[Degenerate]

lol I really threw a curveball there

[cth2188]

Yes ! I wasn't sure if you were talking about hook up sex or hookup dating wise - option A isn't an option and neither is option B

[Degenerate]

lol I meant like hooking up like let's go fishin

[cth2188]

Oh OK that sounds nice 🙂

[Degenerate]

Its a date then lol

[cth2188]

Sure 100

[Degenerate]

Siick lol see you there

[cth2188]

Lol 😆 hey you're the 1st

[Degenerate]

Cool lol wanna be my wife?

[cth2188]

Woah

[zagor]

Has been for a long time now.

[Luopio27]

I dont think ot is any different anywhere else. There is no such thing as sex without drama.

[cth2188]

This isn't about sex the problem with American men too hypersexual

[JustBeingReal727]

Oh please... More females go out of their way dressing all promiscuous like. There's a motive behind it. What would you think that would be?

[cth2188]

All propaganda by your gov if women dress like this it's because they've been programmed through porn , music, and the TV.. same for men, why were seeing hookup culture and fornicating between both sexes

[JustBeingReal727]

You dodge the question. What is the motive to dress in a promiscuous way? Without the ands if and butts about it. There's a motive to everything just because the media says something doesn't mean they have to follow. Your first statement was only about men. If? There is no IF that's how it is. Plain and simple.

[cth2188]

I answered your question while holding both sexes accountable ! Men csn be whores just like men ! Have a seat!

[cth2188]

You inserting your cock in every woman doesn't make you a Saint! I will not reward you for bad behaviors because you have a self entitlement issue with your male ego and head. Thr double standards ✋️ 🫸

[JustBeingReal727]

The question is why do females dress in a promiscuous way and what's the motive behind it? The question wasn't about males. Your first statement was only geared towards males.

[cth2188]

No my question didn't stop deflecting and admit you have an issue with entitlement! You want to insert yourself in every hole and be rewarded for your male ego of driven sex. Sex sells you men love pussy 😏 without it you go crazy 🤪. Porno drives you crazy too. Men and women can be whores yes !

[cth2188]

I answered your question porno , societal standards, 🧠 washing , and no morals/ standards same for men ! Ahh men don't want to added or accountable doesn't work like that.

[JustBeingReal727]

Again. The topic is about me It's about females. So the one who is deflecting you.

[JustBeingReal727]

Females shouldn't be held accountable for anything?

[JustBeingReal727]

*Isn't about me.

[cth2188]

The original Q: Why do you think dating in America is so toxic?

[cth2188]

I held both sexes accountable

[cth2188]

I was nice and responded to you despite it wasn't the Q I asked initially

[JustBeingReal727]

You responded to me. But you didn't respond to my question.

[cth2188]

Yes I did - you don't like my response..

[JustBeingReal727]

No you didn't. You keep dodging it because you have no substance to the response so you keep playing the victim. You don't want equality you want superiority it's females like you who can't hold themselves accountable is the reason why most men don't want to get married or commit. Until females can admit that, that would be an ongoing problem.

[cth2188]

I answered your question literally and told you why women dress promiscuous not to say I agree with it and I applied the same concept to men. Noone is playing victim and no I don't dress promiscuous nor support promiscuousity as I dress modest. Furthermore I dress sensual behind closed doors. When I added men into this conversation this is when this conversation shifted ⚙️

[cth2188]

American men aren't in my dating pool - I date internet and no this isn't about superiority this is about holding both sides accountable which I just did. I don't look to date American men and their lack of accountability, marriage, and negative thoughts towards women. American men hate American women and it reflects in poor treatment, but yes I date internationally, been celibate over 5 years, and single since 2014.

[JustBeingReal727]

You're talking about feminism and that you're not about equality. But feminism is supposed to be about equality but much like the swastika it's been hijacked and redefined to be something different that would be superiority over me

[cth2188]

I'm not a female I'm a woman 💯 let's get that understood

[JustBeingReal727]

I keep hearing men complain about feminism- serious entitlement issues while overasserting dominance in an unhealthy way. "I'm not about equality" the issue with American men too selfish, too controlling, and seeking slaves instead of wives. The issue a woman will not submit if you lack in patriarch as MEN. cth2188

[cth2188]

I mentioned feminism in my update in regards to some of these other comments that are toxic based on misgony and sexism towards women.

[cth2188]

If it doesn't apply let it fly seems you want to argue and create argument red FLAG ! That updated comment applied to the comments it was intended to. Yes feminism and lack of male accountability applies to this toxicity aswell as the gov , social media, and porn

[cth2188]

Some men want to sit back like they're shyt don't stink or have problems they do. I will never date an American man to sum up this conversation

[JustBeingReal727]

Oh and you're the shit? Cause your statements tell me that you think you are.

[cth2188]

Nope I know my work and value you sir need to exit your argumentative and bitter

[JustBeingReal727]

You're statement right there. Says you think you're better than everybody else as long as they're not male.

[cth2188]

Nope I just refuse to deal with male and female toxicity

[cth2188]

Worth and value ^

[cth2188]

You have an issue with women exclusively American women

[JustBeingReal727]

Actually no I don't. Some of my friends are women. It's just women like you who an issue.

[cth2188]

Red flag ! Avoid 🇺🇸 men ! Some of my friends are overseas !

[cth2188]

I don't deal with American men

[cth2188]

I don't argue with men and for a hour you want to go back and forth

[JustBeingReal727]

Every country is going to have their problems whether it's America or elsewhere just like men and women. Nobody is perfect and no country is perfect. Your statement once again shows you think you're better than everybody. Women like you are the reason why most men don't pursue women. And that's why women like you will forever be alone and lonely. Men aren't the blame for everything women can bring shit upon themselves as well.

[cth2188]

Other nationalities of men aren't with the drama or toxicity- none of this gender war stuff, misgony , sexism, and I have no problem dealing with them because they are TRADITIONAL most of the men overseas and gents. American men most to all are 🗑

[cth2188]

Not suitable for marriage, don't respect women , no courting, etc.. I don't blame women here in America they should remain single. I don't settle for law vibrational men or drama , toxicity, etc. I don't deal with modern men or men who hate women

[JustBeingReal727]

There's going to be drama everywhere regardless. Just because men aor women over overseas doesn't make them so special.

[cth2188]

I will not be alone why I removed myself out the dating arena for American men- I wish you men the best and women can have problems just like men [ I dot want anything to do with any movements or gender wars.

[cth2188]

None of this happens overseas and I've been traveling and meeting men overseas this s a western American problem

[JustBeingReal727]

You've said you don't date men and you do online dating. You keep contradicting yourself.

[cth2188]

Peace of mind is better then drama or toxicity- hencewhst your still do is arguing disrupting my beauty sleep at 5:47 am

[cth2188]

I don't date American men and I don't do online dating- I'm In groups ad forms no I don't online date

[cth2188]

You need toget help

[cth2188]

To get help! Therapy too!

[cth2188]

Don't ^

[cth2188]

Keep trying to find fault there is none ! Thank God for my positive friendships 🙏🏽 ❤️!

[JustBeingReal727]

You're the one that brought it to the table.

[cth2188]

Yes, don't lump me in with your perspective of the women you're used to encountering!

[JustBeingReal727]

Okay you keep lying to yourself I'm glad men are working waking up to so called equality that females call feminism. Men and women are both biologically different and have different personalities and different sets of problems everywhere so you're not so special.

[cth2188]

I made it perfectly clear that I don't support feminism wgyi only submit to healthy mates who ate gents

[cth2188]

Noone indicated I was special- I reguse to deal with toxicity its so better when there's positivity and less drama

[cth2188]

Refuse ! I wish you the best !

[Francesca7]

Dating apps

[cth2188]

Yep definitely dating apps

[Francesca7]

Yep, 20% of the people get 80% of the dates because of the algorithms.

[whistlingwh0res]

Freedom to have sex

[Slim57]

Social media

[jimmy2]

Lol that so toxic