
Ladies, have you ever taken a guy out and you paid the bills?


The upvotes to downvotes in the comments just prove that despite women's protestations about wanting equality, they still expect a free meal from guys. 😐
That said, I'm actually happy to front the bill on a date, but I resent the notion that I'd be negatively judged for suggesting 50/50 split.
In longer term relationships I've often alternated who picks up the bill on dates, as we both were trying to make ends meet. But for at least the first 2 or 3 dates I think it's wise that the guy pays, if only to demonstrate that he's WILLING to. Though I do wonder how many guys pay out of legit generosity, versus paying out of fear of being viewed as a "loser" or "tightass". Women's judgements of men are constant and fairly unchanging. I'm glad to have dated girls who weren't so precious that they couldn't pick up a tab once in a while. But if we're being really honest, a lot of women who claim to be "financially independent" actually end up resenting men who don't pick up the bill every time. Seems feminism means having your cake and eating it too.
I appreciate it’s aimed at girls. However…
When younger I dated a girl that’s came from a very rich family, her allowance was more than most people’s wages.
She pretty much paid for every restaurant meal going, if I paid it would have wiped me out for the month.
I tend to go 50/50 but even then it was tight.
when we went out as couples for a meal with her friends, she would slip me a couple hundred quid so I could cover out bit of the bill lol.
these days I don’t mind paying as I know the real impact of expecting my girlfriend to pay £100 towards the cost of a meal.
off topic but sort of relevant, I give my daughter an allowance and if we go for a meal and she chooses a place to eat, she pays towards the meal.
I used to date this guy from work. He would not be seen at a restaurant with me. We would always do drive through and i would always pay. He supposedly worked with me and at Microsoft and owned two houses but he was always at my house and i was always cooking for him. One time he got angry at me for making his eggs too runny. I got even more angry and told him i never wanted him over ever again. He treated me like i was his slave. Good bye. Then he lied that his house had bug spray and he had to come over. I said no. Then he made a Facebook page and tried to message me. I blocked him. What a loser.
Yes I have! Many times actually!
... they usually hate it, much less me offering to pay or even split it.
However, if I'm out with a man I like, I have no issue paying for a date! If nothing else, it's just polite to offer, especially if you asked him out.
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there was one date i had that i thought was really cool. we were talking about how i was looking for a strong, emancipated woman that is "my partner", not my "subordinate that i need to take care of"... she basically said that's the type of relationship she wants too. when the waiter came, she wanted to split the bill but i just payed for her before she could..
after that, we went to a bar and ordered some drinks. when i went to the restroom, she just paid for my drinks. that's exactly the sort of woman i'm looking for. too bad things didn't work out with her.
@yofuknutz how come what? it didn't work out?
@Iron_Man guess she was way more ambitious than i was with her life. i found it she works in a leading for Porsche later on linked in. we both have similar levels of education but i personally just want a chill middle class life, no stressful high profile career. so i guess that's where things didn't fit.
*leading position.
Many times. Have no idea how many. It's normal here, so never thought to count.
I'll usually pay if it's my idea and I insist on a place, if it's their birthday, or if we're celebrating something they've accomplished like acing exams or getting their license.
Any other time we usually just pay for ourselves.
Yes. My husband and I dated for 5 years, were engaged for 2, and have been married for 3 years. During that time he has never had an income. He starts his first job on September 1.
I've paid for everything for the last decade for us. No hate - he was going to school. I don't judge him for that, it's just how it was. He starts work on the 1st though and I know he's super excited to start to contribute financially.
So... yeah, I've paid for a date or two in my time 😂😂😂😂
No, but that's just because I have never asked a man out. I think the person who asks out is usually the one to pay. I once had a date whose card was declined, then I had no choice but to pay. That was awkward 😂. I have taken my man out and paid when already in a relationship.
I had a card declined BUT the manager KNEW me from nutrition class, hahaha, nice! I was trying to help another date out and I got my card frozen in the process on the weekend so no money from the atm or nothing. I should have asked the manager out but she was already with somebody, damn yo!
My ex paid for most of our dates once she found out how little I actually got paid. I was a very low rank in the military struggling to pay off debts. She came from a family that was well off and her college was free since her dad was a professor at the college she attended. I paid for the dates for the first three months. I kept using credit cards to pay, not being fully aware how credit cards actually worked (nobody to raise me as a child so I had to figure life out on my own, before the internet was as big as it is now). Eventually I got too far over my head. I attempted to call off a date, one she knew I had been looking forward to for a while. When she asked me why, I decided to tell her the truth. Funny thing is instead of the date we were supposed to go on, I ended up cooking for her. We still had fun but she took the time to teach me a few things about loans and credit cards. When she saw a military pay chart, it pissed her off how little we actually get paid.
No, because I haven’t ever asked anyone out due to being very reserved. I’ve always been asked.
I’m not interested in dating currently, but if I asked someone out, I would pay. I doubt anyone would let me do that though. I have tried to pay for outings and such, but most men refuse to let me, and get funny when I am adamant about doing it. My ex husband was the only one to let me pay for things when I wanted to.
Yeah I have before. I prefer not to in the early stages because I like to see how much the guy likes me and if he is a gentleman or not. So if a guy asked me to split the bill or pay for the date during the “getting to know you” phase, I probably wouldn’t go on another date with that person. but in a serious relationship I like to treat my boyfriend for special occasions or if we’re celebrating something he did, or even to do something nice if he’s having a rough time.
When i was dating, i always offered to pay for my half of the bill, especially on the first date. If they picked up the check for dinner and we went for coffee or desert somewhere, i'd pay for that, or do my best to.
I just think it's fair.
Yes I have several times, that's pretty much all I know so I'm at the point now at 37 that I'd rather stay to myself. Men assume because I have a lot going on for me that I can and will take care of them. It has taken a huge toll on my self esteem.
I did get a few drinks and some food paid a few times I think.
In fact, most girls prefer to buy you a drink when genuinely interested than to get one from you.
For some reason I haven't gotten together with one after she was willing to pay for something... except with a bar owner who skipped charging me for them often
I'm sure it happens but no girl has ever offered. They always just smile as I pull out the cash or card. It would be nice if they at least offered but I don't want to just ask. I actually hinted at it once and she still didn't offer. She didn't want a second date, by the way. Lol
@Moimaris Is she not trying to impress him? By that logic, why doesn't she pay?
There is no valid reason why men should still be the ones who are expected to do and pay for everything, and no valid reason why women should not offer to pay their share.
I have never had a woman pay or offer to pay for the dates. Usually we go out to a cafe where we talk and each pay for our own respective drinks. no harm, no fowl. If things go well we go out for dinner and pay 50/50, Or if the bill is cheap enough I'll pay it. If things go well, on the next date I'll cook a nice fancy dinner and we watch a movie, binge a series, or even co-op video games.
I always get refused. Couldn’t even get away with sneakily hiding some money in their vehicle. There are good men out there.
I think a couple of times when I was younger. Sadly, my lesson was - the more you give a guy, the less interested they become. If he pays, he instantly becomes more interested. It's weird, but it is what it is.
A male friend loaned me some money and he required interest on the loan. I had to take him out to lunch and pay the bill once a week until the loan was paid. Anything over $10 he would. Other than that, no.
I’m old school I prefer the guy pay first time.. however if we start dating longer than yeah we share or i pay he pays it depends than
That only happens month 3 or 4 and we’ve been exclusively dating and not seeing other people. I won’t randomly offer to take a guy out in the beginning stages and pay the bill. Not happening.
Yes once, but it wasn’t planned. I didn’t find out until after we had finished our meal that he didn’t have any money with him.
Happened to me twice, although I was the one to suggest going somewhere. I loved it. Felt like a woman actually fancies me and it feels good to be desired, knowing a woman really cares and doesn't view me as a wallet on legs.
We decided to share the expenses :)
Unfortunately for both it didn't work out and went our separate paths.
I will be this Friday since my boyfriend gave me a lovely anniversary. Gave me flower, chocolate , pizza and lots of sex. His turn to be treated out 😊
I am transgender and I have gay friends that I paid for food, clothings, work. I don't think there's anything wrong with helping poor boys. If you have money more than they have they should help out no matter what their sex is. I used to have this rules that men pay for everything but it doesn't work that way. If you have money enough to make you feel comfortable you should share it with someone who doesn't have much
i have.. like 10+ times with the same guy.. i broke up with him coz he refused to get a job.
lmao
No and I don’t think I will. There is a beautiful message in a man paying (at least first time)
If the girl adores becoming a housewife after marriage 😁
@TonyMetal___86 is that sarcastic?
@TonyMetal___86 That’s beautiful 👍🏻
Thanks miss mariska 😌
I think whoever decides that they don't want a second date, should pay the bill, lol. And if both of you want a second date, then nobody should pay the bill, you both run as fast as you can to escape the bill instead, lol.
I don't like it. I prefer to pay and that's the end of it
Any lady who pays the bill for the guy is dating a bum
Trust me there are many of those out here.
Are we not pushing for equality any longer?
Of course I have, and I don't keep count, whichever of us has the easiest access to their card when it's time to pay usually just pays... its not really predetermined
Yes I have but not as often as the other way around to be honest usually ( and by preference ) I go Dutch
Often. I wouldn’t dream of asking a date to pay for my bucket of premium, tippy-top shelf scotch.
We did 50/50. He earned more than I did so he would pay for the more expensive dates and I would pay for the less expensive dates.
Yeah I did. He was spending too much on me and I was not interested in seeing him again. I don't want to be labeled as gold digger. That's why!
Many times. Too fricken many if you ask me. That game is over!
Yes of course I have. I’ve paid for room bookings, food, and lots of other things.
If he is a Date, Only if we Decide I can. xx
Yes, anytime I date anyone I usually buy every other time.
It was offered several times but I refused each time. I get the the gesture and it's a brave new world and all, I just don't like it.
Two different girls over my life did that to me. I am currently married to the last one.
Yés it feels right to me
At least I feel respected
All the time but with my boyfriend. When we were dating he used to pay more probably (for the record, I loved this but I am quite old fashioned and traditional in my thinking) but now we are a couple we take it in turns.
I dont remember doing that i remember dating a homeless man and i dint even reach for my wallet. HAHAHAHA. THATS HOW traditional i am in my bones.
I did with my I have no problem picking up bill with my ex.
Almost every time. Even though I was unemployed and he was working a full time job
Yeah, when my husband and I were dating we would take turns covering the bill
Women should pay the bills. Women are now men. And majority men are now harry styles in a dress or little has x.
Women don't like traditional stuff and they are all lgbt rainbow people and don't have gender
such a troll
You don't believe in gender equality or gender fluidity Nicolette. You sound homophobic and sexist
You sound paranoid and delusional. Literally pulling shit to be outraged and victimized by out of your butt.
I always split the bill with a girl I go out on a date with I wouldn’t want her to pay for the whole meal
Does this question imply a woman being the one to ask a guy out or being the one to plan and set up the date? That still normally doesn't happen despite how modern the world has become
These days, women often earn more than their date. In the first date, the man should pay, but after that the woman can pay.
Nope. I’ve tried but no guy would ever let me pay the bill.
I find unnecessary spending during the dating period strange.
I am rich and let women pay for it at times, or their half. I wouldn’t want to be with a girl that can’t afford to pay for her own meal. That’s small money.
I don’t think it’s about affording… I don’t think you get the point of topic. You are rich but you don’t seem to be affluent and a gentleman. It’s a very deep conversation you are either going to learn this while growing up into a real man or you are a simple rich joe.. it’s ok not to pay but in some cases if you want an affluent women too well you gotta pay not because she doesn’t have the $ you prove other hyena points here lol
As you should my friend!
I have!! And he yelled at me and told me I’m emasculating him and that I’m trying to make him a sugar baby.
Yes I have. Didn’t keep track of the number.
Usually I like to pay when I can for him,
But I do like equal payments so its fair
Had this twice. Both girls feminist. I literally can say that feminism — saving my money 😂😂😂
Im sure they have, but I think it would be a different story if you stipulated a first date.
I've paid for takeout several times.
Yes! We take turns or if I ask him out…but if he asks, he pays..
Its not about all that glitters. But be who you claim to be. thanks
I have went out with a girl and she paid for me, so my answer would be yes.
Yes and why not. We sort of take turns.
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