What is the rejection rate for most men asking women out?

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Just wondering whats the normal rejection rate is for yourself?
I know most men find it very difficult on dating apps and irl. Where a lot of women can basically have 10 guys lined up in one day which is really starting to make turn away from dating because i really can't be bothered anymore with my generation the me.. Me... Me generation wanting instant gratification.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

I would say the rejection rate is about 75 to 90% for men. That's why it is a numbers game for us most of the time. Statistically for every ten girls you ask out, at least one should be interested and give you a chance. Same applies for every 100 girls you talk to or ask out. Ten of them should be interested enough in you to go on a date.

Doesn't mean it will work out, but there is at least opportunity despite the low success rate.

When I was still on the market I honestly lost count when it came to apps and in person. I got numbers, but even then it is not a guarantee because they can still ghost you or give you a fake number. But that was my experience. Lots of attempts, very little success.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

---------I have been rejected over a thousand times in my lifetime. Simply put I would rather be rejected and understood then ambiguous in my actions. Most guys go half in then wonder what they could of done differently. Go all in and have no regrets.

~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Most men can’t get a girl without effort and sacrifice unless they choose someone significantly less attractive then themselves and I know many men who do that to ease the drama in their lives, it does not matter what the status of the guy is since he always aims higher than himself.

Rachelspiks · Accepted Answer

With me it's 92.636%. I prefer to do the asking, because men these days are just far too timid. Maybe they're afraid of all the feminists out there, but you can usually tell those crazy gals by the weird colour of their hair.

Anonymous · Answer

My rejection rate is pretty high. I have had two girlfriends (neither particularly interested in me) and maybe a few legit dates (maybe four or five) since I was allowed to date at 16 (this doesn’t count “friend dates” like prom). I have probably “asked out” 1000 women since then - usually coffee or something simple. Always done with respect.

I would say most of the responses are overly rude and joyously mean spirited. I would say many try to get “personal.” It usually goes way beyond a simple “no.”

I couldn’t even figure out the math, as to me, level of interest, likelihood of genuine interest, that sort of matters.

MCheetah · Answer

I'd say the rate for not being rejected is literally at least 1 in 500, or a 0.002% chance of success for the "typical" man.

I think my personal count of women who have rejected me is 14,000. That's just the 'average' number when you do the math and count from age eighteen to now; which is sixteen years. It averages out to 73 girls rejecting me a month or 2.4 a day, which yeah, sounds about right.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

It's hard to answer this question because I'm quite a bit older. Online dating started when I was in my 20s but I never had to deal with the internet and apps as much as people today.

I don't know the percentage for me. I never tried that hard and didn't care about rejection but rather focused on meeting quality people through the quality people I already knew. Aka friends of friends. I do believe it sounds like that is harder today. That being said your generation is like every young generation in many ways but with different crap at their disposal lol. You sound mature and patient and those things matter. Your "rejections" are probably a blessing in disguise. You'll find someone great when you least expect it. Good luck

gunnysgt111 · Answer

don`t use dating sites ! unless all you want is a so so fuck buddy. don`t be afraid to ask out a gorgeous women , most guys are because they assume they have a hunky guy. most gorgeous women are as hard up as you are. as for me , I`m 63 in good shape , i`m active. I go out about 3 times a week. look your going to strike out a lot , until you get more confident then it gets easier. talk to a women as a person. not as just a sex object. treat her like a lady. open doors for her , pull out chairs for her. cause if you don`t I will. if you just want to get laid then ask out an older girl. 40ish to 50 .

rjroy3 · Answer

Self defeating question regardless of the answer.

Better question that has actual value to you and others. How do guys fumble when asking girls out in person/online and what in their control could they do better?

It's like, let's say to answer your question it's higher or lower than you thought? So what? Useless fact.

Answer the questions I posed above and you have something to take action on that can improve your life and others.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I have age on my side so for guys it reverses it's self as we get older, less to choose from, and even less good ones to chose from.
Back in the day for me it was a rather high percentage, bur it was a numbers game, you just kept trying and you would find someone.
It isn't an easy thing, kind of likr a job.
The more you put into it the greater your successes will be.

Iron_Man · Answer

We never know where a woman’s head is going to be at. At the moment she could be stressed out and have no desire to talk to anybody then three days later sure let’s get together and have a drink. So that’s why I don’t bother wasting my time approaching women because it’s not a true accurate situation. I’ll wait for a signal

bamesjond0069 · Answer

When its a phone number ask in person im like at 90%. Online dating its low but i get matches. I don't know i had like 20 matches on bumble new today. 18 were straight trash in my opinion. 2 id hit it but no way would i date them. Of the two id expect to get one or both to phone convos. And one date. If i went for all 20 id have like 10 dates easy.

RawIronhide · Answer

Dating apps are like 300 to 1, no luck there for me. Face to face rejection is more like 10 to 1, of course it depends on the person but for guys rejection is pretty common from what I gather.

Anonymous · Answer

Keep n mind some girls may reject you just to boost her ego. Your generation is lucky to have real MGTOW coach teach you facts and how to deal with women.

Understand attention is like oxygen to women , your attention Worth cash. Your resources are treasure for most of em Even your emotions is good recourse for women. Be careful with the chameleon out there

peace

linguinesoup · Answer

I think if the guy isn’t a dirt bag it would be better to give her your number and let her decide if she is interested to pursue, I’m not going out with a guy I just met, cmon!

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Probably 7-8 girls out of 10 would reject me. 4 would do it off the cuff for simply talking to them and the last 3-4 would probably humor me for a while before finding a way to excuse themselves from the conversation.

slatyb · Answer

After I divorced and started dating online my acceptance rate was pretty high. I turned down more women that women turned me down.

You are wrong that women have more choice. It’s just that you only notice the most attractive women, and yes, they have a lot of choice. Women they you find unattractive are invisible to you.

Nikola321 · Answer

o% she can't reject me if I never even asked her :D

AdithyaR · Answer

Mines 0% cause I never ask anyone out. Can't lose if you don't try😂

Pj1981 · Answer

Don't ask and you're never rejected. But it does depend on how much you ask, how you ask, and who you ask. It's going to be different for most people

TexasRed95 · Answer

In my case 100%. I have asked out around 40 women and never had a date.

Ryfyle · Answer

In IRL, zero percent, that might be due to having a decent hunting instinct and the ability to make small talk into something a bit deeper. This is despite a common theme where many have joked about me being an Alien/human hybrid.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Not sure but there are definitely a lot more guys on dating apps

Juxtapose · Answer

100% rejection rate IF she is not clearly into me before I ask. Cold approaches have never worked for me, EVER. I am taken now by the way.

magiusX26 · Answer

so far mine these days us at about 99.99999999%. yours?

exitseven · Answer

I don't know. I have had hot streaks then a long dry spell. There was no rhyme or reason to it.

Willoughby23 · Answer

I dont ask any girls out. At least not in person (I use dating apps). There have been many times I thought a girl was showing interest in me and I still didn’t ask her.

Dog87 · Answer

Depends on whether or not you're a deushe. thats all it really boils down to

Shy_Steve · Answer

About 60 or 70% that is why most of us Guys don't ask.

DWornock · Answer

About 70% rejections. It would be higher but I have learned not to ask girls above my league.

Anonymous · Answer

Average probably 95%  I dont ask, I'm playing 4D chess whilst the regular guys are still playing checkers

Anonymous · Answer

For more successful guys it's around 20-25% and drops down to 5-10% for average guys. For myself? Not sure. Definitely below 10%.

Adam_West · Answer

no girl would reject me unless i ask for out nosensely, and out of nowhere.

Anonymous · Answer

If I’m correct, the top 80% of women only want the top 20% of men. So statistically speaking, the rejection rate should be around 4 out of 5

grega239 · Answer

0 when i dont ask. 100 when I do

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 0 for 12 and gave up asking years ago.

zagor · Answer

On dating sites, probably 98%.

Slim57 · Answer

Different for every guy

ToastyOats · Answer

100 percent😆

Anonymous · Answer

Probably 70 % or so

Anonymous · Answer

probably about 98%

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