How often do women ask men out?

[funkyzoom]

Its the universal norm that its always the men who must ask the women out. So how often do women actually make the first move and ask a man out? And does a man have to be insanely rich and extremely good looking for a woman to ask him out? Just curious!

[Anonymous]

I think both men or women should make a move if they're interested in someone. The only reason I personally don't is because I don't think I am pretty, so I don't think they guy will say yes. If I were prettier, then I definitely would but I already know I am going to get rejected because of my face. And I already know a man will never ever ask me out, so I don't expect it and I've given up.

But my one friend is a pretty girl, and she if she wants a guy she goes for him and it works for her most of the time. She says women need to be more aggressive and not sit around and wait for a guy. And I agree. If I were a normal girl, I'd take her advice.

[Bbwalldude]

Do it anyway! If a girl asked me out I would be shocked, but once I overcome the shock I'll appreciate the ballsy move on her part :)

[Opinion Owner]

But what would you do if you didn't think the girl was pretty?

[Marawa]

I'm curious too! In my short life, I have never ever heard of one of my female friends asking a guy out. They either wait until they do or it just doesn't happen and I guess as things go in society even now, the thought of asking a guy out has never occurred to me. I guess it's just the way we're taught.

The only time I've seen examples of women asking men out is if the woman knows that it'll never happen unless she does it - because he's shy or because he's lazy I guess. But on a woman's part, I don't really think it's laziness or even shyness. Like I said, it's just how we've been moulded by society.

[NickInVideo]

lol, because he's lazy. Man, what girl would ask a lazy guy out? I do appreciate that no one you know, including you, has ever asked a guy out, because that's pretty much what goes on.

[Marawa]

Hahaha yeah I know but then you have to think about it, most of us girls are actually "lazy" because we pretty much never have to think about asking a man out. And if we do, it is considered odd and rare. And selfishly, I can honestly say I can't see myself asking a man out since I'm used to being asked out myself.

[snowangle]

I have no problem asking guys out. I went to an all-girls high school, so whenever we had school dances, we were naturally forced to find dates ourselves. But I much prefer to be asked out, just because if the guy doesn't show initiative with this, what else won't he show initiative with? I want a guy who goes after what he wants.

I don't mind the action of asking a guy out, but I do care about why he refuses to do the asking out himself.

[Anonymous]

It's quite rare. Also I think that girls will have a lower success rate because they ask guys out on a whim. They don't gauge interest and spew out the smooth talk to butter us up. A month ago I got asked out and I was so shocked because it was out of the blue. She thought that she was flirting and that I was shy, but the truth is you can't stay a passive flirt and then become an aggressor out of no where. Your chances will be much higher if you lead to asking out phase.

[moviedude714]

not just good-looking, but popular, be a celebrity if you want women to do the chasing, pursuing, but for the average, typical guy, we are dealt those cards

[RedSmartie]

I would only ask a guy out if I could tell he liked me but he's really shy.

Being insanely rich and good looking doesn't make a girl more likely to approach when she doesn't already. It's just more likely to interest her. But if she's not an initiator then seeing a hot wealthy guy will not change that.

[Winteredrose5162]

Honestly, if guys didn't move so fast then I would be doing the asking out! I like to wait a while and get to know someone before dating them so if they waited then I would ask them out. But they always ask me out before I get the chance.

[asdaven]

Im a guy who doesn't move fast because I want to get to know the person I want to be in relationship with. But, it always seems like the girl is the one who gets impatient and wants it to move fast. Girls have stopped talking to me in the past because I took too long and didint feel like it was going anywhere when I really wanted a relationship with them. And it wasn't a unreasonably long time.

[Winteredrose5162]

Well every girl is different. Maybe you should let them know you want to get to know them better and that you're starting to like them. My boyfriend was like you and he just told me straight up. Misunderstanding: I thought he meant "lets be friends" so be sure to specify!

[htarmort14]

Hmm, out of the more than 15 - 20 guys (I lost count) that asked me out, I only asked one guy out. Haha. He wasn't extremely good looking but he was decent and smart. I like smarty guy.

[jpinka]

out of all the guys who asked me out I asked out 2.

1 guy said no. the 2nd guy took too long so I asked him out and he accepted .

money? nothing to do with it

[adamcdavis]

I've never been asked out and I consider myself decent looking too. I don't know why but it annoys me.

[guy532]

I've been asked out three times in my life, so I think it's pretty rare.

[froggyboy51]

My opinion is men still have to pull the trigger. If a woman asks me out, I'd actually be a little taken aback

[lauramor]

i have been asked out twice and I have never ask a guy out.

[MikeK]

I could count the number of women who've asked me out on just one hand, but it DOES happen: Just not as often as it should though ;)

[Anonymous]

I don't ask men out. I don't care how rich or good looking he is (actually those things will make it more unlikely that I would even approach him)

[Anonymous]

I've asked out men more than men have asked me out.

[sweethunni]

I'm old fashion I believe it should be the man to ask us ladies out along with popping the question.

[Anonymous]

only if he's good looking . That's what girls care about

[funkyzoom]

Good looking and rich as well, don't forget that. She needs the guy to buy her expensive gifts and take her on expensive dates.

[Opinion Owner]

then complains about how hard it is to be a woman

[Anonymous]

I think you have to be extremely good looking for women to ask you out

[Anonymous]

I would never ask a guy out, especially if he was good looking

[halilmeral]

for me, a lot of girls asked me out

[Anonymous]

for me, I have never asked a guy out...

[PsychadelicSmokey]

Never