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Almost never. I get stares and flirting but thats usually it. To be fair, I get nervous myself and run away. there's a guy who seems to single me out in groups right now and I feel like there's a strong chance he likes me. He suggested that we go get some of my favorite food I mentioned one day, before I leave. Thats on top of all the staring and focusing on me in a group. He's also a doctor, so of course my shallow mom is like "get him!" lol
A few months ago, there was this guy who got really flirty and touchy feely with me. Even friends in our group would say he was focusing on me a lot or making really random moves to be near me and touch me when I was around. But he never asked me out. I was living in a different country and leaving soon, so I guess nothing would have come from it anyway, but I got the vibes that he really liked me and so did my friends. However, my best friend also said I pushed him away with my body language. there's that "running away" thing again.
So I'm guessing these are my clues or hints that someone may like me - focusing on me in a group and being more touchy than other guys. Its sometimes hard for me to know when its just friend touching or more than friends though. Like one other guy would hug me and put his arm around me and we were super comfortable, but I thought he only liked me as a friend. I'm also really touchy feely, not with most guys, but in general. It doesn't always mean I like someone.
In certain environments, I get a lot of attention, but I think my weight has to do with the limits in others. I'm a fattie so I think that affects how open guys are even if they are attracted to me. I've been asked out like 3 or 4 times. I'm 24. Crazy.
In the past 12 months, I've been asked by guys to spend time with them outside of normal settings 3 times.
But none of them were straight asking out, or professing of feelings. So I don't know if that makes it zero.
The three circumstances were a work friend who invited me to accompany him multiple times to his friend's house parties, which I did not attend, as I suspected it was just an opportunity to hook up, or he just wanted to get drunk/high with me, both of which I don't do.
The second time was a male friend who invited me in a Facebook message to have coffee with him. I don't know if it was intended to be a date or not. I didn't go to that either, as I actually didn't check Facebook in time, and he didn't ask me again after that. I didn't feel like I knew him very well.
The third, was a guy I know who is in a relationship, he keeps sending messages to me all the time, and keeps asking me to meet up with him. I never have, and never plan to. I would never do that, and I tell him that he needs to respect his relationship and present girlfriend. I don't think he's a particularly faithful guy, unfortunately.
Actually, there is a 4th, too, a guy I've known for a decade, who also continually messages me on Facebook, asking me how I am, and if I want to "hang out", however I never respond, as he sexually assaulted me when I was 19, and he was 29.
I haven't taken any if these men up on their offers.
I'd really like to have a man get to know me slowly, and ask me out in person, and be clear about his intentions.
However that doesn't seem to exist anymore...
Honestly, I think guys are losing there balls.
I, and a lot of other chicks I know have noticed.
They're immature! Like, a guy will honk his horn at my friends and I or they'll walk right past us and wait until they're farther off to say someone like little children. It makes me want to punch them in the face. If you could walk up to me and say that instead of running away and saying it, props! But, really? It's not attractive.
Or a guy will stare at you or even smile at you but won't say a thing and we chicks are just sitting here wondering why. Be a man and make the first move. It's not that we can't (Well most) It's that we don't want to and we're not going to. I want nothing to do with a guy who doesn't have the balls to walk up to me and flirt/talk no matter how cute he is, which is why I'll refuse to walk up to them.
Unless I'VE been looking at said guy and want to make the first move and at that point he most likely hasn't noticed me yet or hasn't been looking at me, thats okay! Thats different. THEN it's my job.
If you're showing signs of interest and won't walk up and talk or are waiting for me to, then you've lost your chance.
The problem is that I never get any signs of interest from girls to approach (like smiling). See if I did, I would in a heartbeat.
If you read some of the other answers you may realize why guys don't randomly ask girls out.
Smh :/
Perfectly said Marawrr. I agree on every point. What you said is exactly what I tell guys. It may be 2014, but as a general rule, as a guy, you have got to be willing to make the first move. Don't just stare at them again and again with no intention of going up to them especially after you've been greenlit. Then they'll just be wondering what's wrong with you (or them), and just for the record, guys do ask out girls. Just have to get over rejection cause it's going to happen.
Honestly, you sound like the kind of woman I would avoid completely. It sounds easier to not bother approaching, because if you're really interested you'll do the approaching anyway, and I can do the rejecting, which I absolutely would because you sound like a B.
Like never, considering that only one guy thus far has actually asked me out.
That's an infinity more times than it's happened to me :D lol
So many beautiful woman replying with like answers, and looking at the results and reading the comments of everyone sharing... I am surprised!! Being an older person on this site compared to most, I have experience the opposite when talking to woman closer to my age, which got me thinking why this is? When I was in my early 20's I never had a problem asking woman out. Which is probably why I had such great success with woman (Attractive woman) ... because... No-one else was asking them out!! I would love to hear from woman closer to my age on this site, as for the woman I know would say the opposite of what most of the woman here are saying... So this is what/why I think that is. Young men are scared of rejection or think a woman is out of their league so they don't ask. Older men have found their self confidence, understand woman more and aren't worried so much about rejection anymore. Thinking back when I was younger, I never had other guys hitting on any of my girlfriends, flirt yes, but never ask them out. But now that I'm older, it feels like I have every Tom, Dick and Harry hitting on whomever I'm with, even if the guy knows they are taken.
Side note to all the woman here: wait a few years and you'll be singing a different tune. Lol
And side note to the guys... this is your time to shine... don't be shy. Find your dream girl.
It's kind of funny how many of the responses included something along the lines of "ZERO. GUYS, GRAB YOUR SACK AND GET TO IT." I have to wonder how many of these girls actually give off approachable social cues. Headphones in? Probably not happening. Shuffling about on your phone? Unlikely. Not making eye contact with a guy (or looking away with no smile)? Most won't bite. I've seen a number of really cute girls, but they all make it quite obvious that they don't want to be bothered (or equally likely, just not bothered by me).
Second, I wonder how many girls who have "never been asked" play hard-to-get? Not giving him a phone number? Not answering should he call? Never calling/texting first? How many have been approached by a guy only to play coy? Despite what Seventeen and Cosmopolitan suggest, "the chase" is two ways. If a guy tries to get to know you better, and you're making it an uphill battle to get a positive response from you, then he's going to lose interest REALLY fast.
Third, it's no secret that for every guy these girls want to "sack up, give me attention, and ask me out," there's at least nine other guys in the same room that they're trying their hardest to appear unapproachable to. As has been stated, for some women, they don't even factor unattractive guys into their number of asks.
a lot of truth to this. I remember going to church in my early 20's and the women had been bitching a lot that the men were not asking them out. So the church leaders held a meeting with the singles to talk things out and figure out what was wrong.
Turns out that the women were being asked out plenty just not by the exact man they wanted to be asked out by.
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Women reject more casually these days because they don't need men like they used to. They still expect (on average) for men to play by the same rules as if they did need men though. Most women can't even handle some jerk calling them fat without crying and yo-yo dieting, yet men too are made of flesh and blood. Try living your whole life only ever being asked out once or twice and being rejected immediately most of the time and then mostly rejected soon after innitial acceptance. Imagine trying to pull yourself up emotionally from a lifetime of that to have the 'balls' as you put it, to ask out another probable rejector.
Don't you think that after long enough the loneliness would either turn you bitter so that you'd treat women as sex objects, or make you hopeless so that you give up trying?
Of course if men have feelings the usual response from women is that they should 'man up' or 'stop feeling sorry for themselves'. Men aren't in touch with their feelings because when they try, they get hurt. It's not okay for a man to cry.
I don't generally ask women out because of few reasons
1. almost every girl I've asked out has rejected me because they were into one of my friends
2. the ones that have said yes (with one exception) have admitted they only said yes to get closer to my friends.
3. the relationships i have been in (3 serious relationships, 2 casual relationship) were all sooo... idk, clingy? like i couldnt just have my own day, whenever i had free time I HAD to spend it with them. sooo yeah lol.
4. The one relationship where I was engaged, she ended up cheating on me with one of my friends and got an abortion. that one really did take a lot out of me
now if I see an attractive girl or meet an awesome or fun one and I have a friend that finds her attractive, I'll just encourage my friends to ask them out. my friends have never been rejected from these women I've found attractive that i encouraged them to ask out.
so now i just mostly work on myself, and trust my happiness as my guide. for the most part im fine being by myself, its quiet and i dont really have to do anything i dont want to, but parts of me do wonder what it would be like to have a serious and meaningful relationship where she was just your down to earth gal that wasn't a complete bitch.
i don't know lol. I don't think im fugly or anything, i just think my friends are just more attractive than me in women's eyes. which i dont have a problem with, im not bitter towards women as a whole, i just dont generally trust them with my heart/feelings anymore.
lol at the guys saying wow i better go ask out some girls now!
take these results with a pinch of salt. i get the feeling a lot of people on gag aren't very social. even as a girl if you dont actually go out and meet a steady stream of new guys, you're not gonna get asked out. every reasonably social girl i know gets asked out at least once a month.
not only that. girls have a habit of blanking out guys from their minds that they dont find attractive. i have this conversation quite a lot with girls i know.
"i wish i got asked out more"
"you got asked out last week"
"oh yeah... he doesn't count though. i didn't really find him attractive"
also if a guy approaches a girl and she doesn't find him attractive, she will usually make it so awkward for him that almost any guy would lose his nerve. so that also artificially lowers the asking out rate
What about high school? Do you think the ask-out rate their really is this low? Since everytime someone does, the whole school knows and it seems as if guys are quite afraid to because of that reason and the likelihood of getting turned down.
College? I heard someone saying how 99% of guys are too afraid to ask their crush out in college.
I've been asked out about 10 times, and I'm 19, and I think it has little with how you look (I'm average and to a lot of people below that lol), more about how many people know you and how many people you're 'exposed' to. Personally I think I get asked out a little more often than average because I talk to a lot of people. I do my best to get to know people simply to know them, like I talk to friends of friends if I don't know them, I talk to people I'm waiting in line with, people I sit next to in class etc I used to be really shy but I decided to talk to at least one new person per day for a month and it helped me immensely and I made a lot of friends. But the bad side to that is it feels like the guys I do like never ask me out because they're intimidated by the number of people I know if they like me a bit too, like they feel like the competition is too tight for them to try or something. Either way if you're a guy and you like someone just be nice tell her she looks pretty if she seems happy to hear that ask her out. If she says no at least you know and can spend time finding someone who knows your worth, go cold turkey and don't bother her again. Do your best to be confident no matter what, because at the end of the day the worth of a man or woman goes far beyond their dating success :)
I think when girls say they don't get asked out. It means they don't get asked out by guys they want. Guys that they don't want to go on a date with don't count.
I don't think so mate. Look at their opinions mentioning guys they weren't interested in asking them out and counting them.
From the way I see it, they are making stuff up as they go. Bottomline, they want that hot eye candy guy (bad boy or not) to ask them out. When it's a guy they don't consider to be ideal, it's considered zero.
It's good that you count them. However, just because you count them doesn't mean other girls do the same.
Yea, if anything I rather them just ask me out instead of always wanting my number and barely texting back. Like I want sumn like on tv. We have coffee shops on campus. Just ask me if I wanna go get a cup of coffee or sumn so we can get to know each other. If everything goes well, then I'll feel more comfortable about giving my number or something. Who knows? If it goes well enough, a second date could happen on campus, perhaps a picnic at the lake. But yea, I get asked out maybe once every couple of months. Other than that, every other day you hear "Aye girl lemme get yo number" like "boy boom, ion know you like that, prob just another horny stalker or sumn" SMDH.
my current boyfriend confessed his feelings to me and i told him how i felt and he asked me out and i said yes. there's is one boy who won't leave me alone, saying im amazing and blah blah... obviously its nice of him but im taken and he only wants sex... there's this other boy who will act like a complete jerk to me but say he fancys me and says he so jealous of my boyfriend. there's this other boy, who keeps asking me out, untill i got with my boyfriend. and then there's this boy who asked out like so many people.. including me.. he was desperate.. and yeah so onn. It depends really. depends on how the boy is. and what he really wants. I've just came across some up front boys in my time haha.
ladies you have to remember, guys express their feelings in a very non specific manner. Just the opposite as you specific expressing females. Guys do not feel the need to go so deep to express how they feel. If your man says "know what I mean" he just expressed his feelings just prior to those words. You just missed it. We also express lots of things within little questions, like, why do you have to do that? or little comments with either a negative or positive tone, followed by a half laugh, or a whatever, a small smile as he nodes his head and says "totally" . These are all different expressions of our feelings. The why do you have to do that means, we are uncomfortable with that. The smile and the totally is approval or a yes or our expression of a mutual understanding. Try to clue in on the negative and positive tones prior to our facial expressions. Guys actually express volumes!
or.. you could just be direct like everyone says they are.
also being uncomfortable doesn't say much. you'd gave to explain WHY you're uncomfortable. and know what i mean means nothing bc if she didn't understand what you said than knowing its about a feeling doesn't do anything in the watt of classification.
i dont talk about how i feel bc its just not part of who i am. but at least i don't hint and give ridiculous clues and say I'm 'communicating'.
you should say WHY do you do that. so she knows you want to discuss something.
and instead of know what i medan just say what you mean.
lol i want an example of something you said where it was followed by 'know what i mean' bc I'm recalling a guy doing that several times. but i can't remember what he said just the follow up. bc it was so unclear.
also 'why do you have to do that'. had no idea what he was referring to, but i do remember the question... but you see precision moves mountains.
Depends on the scene.
I get hit on at work, but not asked out.
If I'm out in the town doing shopping or something, I sometimes get the odd fella walking up.
And obviously when I'm in a pub or night club, it's non stop.
But considering that I don't go partying, it's quite rare. I tend to ask guy's out myself, because I'm into the nerdy types abd they tend to be too shy to make the first move.
Don't have to worry about that now, though, since I've been in a relationship for a couple of years.
I am genuinely shocked by all the answers by females. Holy shit... and here guys are told that a woman always has options etc. and if you don't move fast you'll be forgotten and she'll go on to the next option because why bother waiting for you - hence the whole PUA culture exists about how you need to ask her out almost immediately, make moves almost immediately, etc.
... and still shocked. Going to have to get a drink now just to handle this information.
I don't ask girls out for a few reasons. Just reading some of the responses, you can probably see why. It is usually awkward, which makes the anxiety in me worse. Plus, many girls will completely make fun of guys that ask them out, especially ugly guys. Or they will get offended for some reason. Too many risks imo.
I've been asked out once in my lifetime, and in a fashion so comedic I couldn't take the guy seriously.
Random guy on the train station: Ummmm... hi... um... What's your name?
Me: Slava, do I know you?
R: Ummm... no...
M: OK then *browsing the net on my phone*
R: Ummm... are you drunk?
M: Nope.
R: So... ummm... Wanna go grab a beer with me, then?
It took all the willpower I had in me not snort right back at him.
He was obviously nervous, you sound so rude
umm... once in a blue moon. they were all very nice guys, those who asked. i'd say maybe a total of little over ten guys? but just wasn't ready to date ever. i have very overbearing parents who locked me up all my life, so i never went out... also, i'm not that flirty and am shy... i see girls who give flirty looks to guys and that's how they reel'em in. :)
i'm working on myself right now. hopefully when i'm done, i'll be able to say that i've met more guys, been asked out more, and eventually have a steady relationship. i didn't realize guys were so shy. maybe i'll ask out a nice boy someday.
As a guy I think we assume that these girls are so great they must be taken already or think they are not interested. Seeing the comments of some beautiful girls here. I'm shocked that no one has asked them out. If it wasn't in a different state I would ask them out myself. Time to start asking guys girls are waiting for us damn why did i not know this like 10 years ago.
aahahah :)
Before I dare ask a girl out, I usually wait until I see indicators that show she digs me.
-If she frequently gets my attention by saying, "Hi ______ hows it going?" before I even notice her, then I'll be more likely to ask her out.
-If she smiles in my presence and gives me inviting looks, I'm more likely to ask her out.
-If she has open body language, listens, and remembers what I say, I'm more likely to ask her out.
Otherwise without these cues, the risk is too great to be rejected.
Man, you are doing yourself a great disservice. By not asking her out, you practically have 0 chance. Even if you think there's no interest, you should ask her out because a 1% chance is better than 0% and there have been situations where the girl was just playing really hard to get but said "yes" once he asked her out.
Always better to ask. Always.
I don't know. Unless it's a long-term crush, I feel practically nothing after getting turned down. I just think of it as one step closer to success and think, "Next..."
Even if it's a long-term crush, and as a result you may feel a little hurt after getting turned down, you should still do it so at least you can move on without any "what if thoughts", even if she seems disinterested.
I always feel better and in fact more confident when I ask that girl out even if I get turned down, than going home not doing it. Wimping out is what hurts my confidence, not getting turned down.
Because I have faith one will eventually say "yes".
I know that I just need to ask more girls out until one does.
I think you misunderstood me.
I'm implying that if a girl gives lots of open body language around you, she's more likely to accept your offers.
When it comes to asking out a girl, timing is everything. If you ask her out when she's clearly in a bad mood or is preoccupied with something else, you're not likely to get a positive response.
You do bring up good points. I agree with you entirely that being rejected isn't the worst thing ever. Even if she says no, a the feeling of missing your chance to even try to ask her out hurts much worse.
If you want a guy to ask you out, when we look at you gives us a sign of some-sort, a smile, a wink, something to work with. Don't just look away, or if you do smile when doing so. Throw a dog a bone.
Almost never. I'm a bit of a homebody, straight to university then back home again. On the rare occasions that I do go out, guys never approach me directly; they always seem to get my friends to ask me out for them. Maybe I look like a bitch? I dunno.
Wow, that's really wimpy.
Yup, that's what I think. If they can't even ask me straight up, they can't expect me to actually say yes.
Guys just never ask me out, i guess I'm not very attractive? But to give since insight i have hormonal adult acne, my weight has fluctuated and I'm only now working to get it under control. I've also struggled with a back&forth resentment towards men. I'm also quite a busy bee.. I've started focusing all my efforts towards my career bc it's the one thing I've got going, and also my hobbies :) its actually quite fulfilling altho there is always annoying societal pressure that in order to be a 'fulfilled' woman I should be in a relationship.. idk. I could be a whisk and that's why guys don't ask me out.
A weirdo not a a whisk! Lol
I've been asked out twice in my entire life, both times early in school. I've never been asked out since but i get plenty of harassment and rude comments about sex and bjs in the street. guys are more vocal on Facebook in real life but the only things theyve asked me are for fuck buddy arrangements or theyll ask me to go on one really shitty short date and then talk about going to a hotel right after and being fuck buddies after that so i dont respond. the decent guys dont seem to bother asking girls, my friends and i have asked out all our boyfriends
Like never and it's disappointing and makes us feel bad at times all because he's scared or shy... we like it if guys flatter us... But almost never will guys do it anymore
I've gotten asked out a total of two times in my entire life. Once was 12 years ago... the other was with my current BF after we had been hanging out for a month and a half already. It sucks... I always hear about other girls getting asked out and it makes me feel like a reject or that there is something wrong with me... I used to take it really hard.
it's unbelievable that she hasn't been asked out a LOT
@lukino, I really don't buy the idea that guys don't approach because they are intimidated. I feel a little better because I got my first boyfriend... at the ripe old age of 28... but what made me a bit upset was that he didn't really directly even ask me out... he got closer to me by hanging out with my group of friends... and then got closer to me and had my friend convince me to hang out with him too. I was the one that gave him my number first... he didn't ask for it... and I told him we should hang out.
That's really odd. Seems like what's happening is that guys are just becoming wimps more than anything else.
Hahahahahaha. I like this question. The answers are funny considering the standards of these girls.
Anyway, as a guy I've only been asked out (kind of) by one girl. The rest if they really showed interest would do silly stuff, but never just ask.
I've never been asked out, never had a boyfriend, never been on a date. what a sad 17 years of life haha
although technically I am in a long distance relationship.. but that just kind of happened. No one asked out anyone. it just built up to what it now is :)
wow, looking at how many cute girls on GAG who have put up their pictures, I thought most girls would vote C or even D... I wonder why the majority answers "almost never"...
I also voted "almost never". I get asked out probably about once a year, maybe even less than that. But I'm not someone you'd call pretty, so I guess that's to be expected.
I've been asked out loads of times online. Two out of three of my boyfriends asked me out. I've had a couple confess their feelings for me. Nothing too major. I'm usually in relationships so guys don't ask me out. If I was single, it'd probably happen more.
Depends on how active my social life is at the moment. Like, when I go out a lot, I get asked out on regular basis. If I only occasionally go out, I only get asked out sometimes. And during times where I mostly stay at home and/or do private things, not socializing with new people, I obviously don't get asked out at all.
I voted C.
Depends on how often I'm out and about but on average, on an actual date, maybe 3x a year. It's mostly just asking for phone number (or getting phone number from mutual friend if he has zero valor/balls) then asking to "hang out." So disappointing. Just say, "you're pretty, I want to take you out."
"Just say, "you're pretty, I want to take you out."" -
If only it were that easy. That kind of line has never worked for me or any guy I have ever known. Maybe for a super good looking guy, but the rest of us have to play the game. It's been my experience that pretty (attractive) girls know that they are and don't need to be told. It's so obvious and unoriginal that employing such tactics comes off as cliche and pathetic.
Once when I was just shopping a guy came up to me and he said: ''Hmmmm... hi... I just thought you where cute soooo yeah want to have a coffee?'' and I was so shocked because this happens so rarely so I just looked at him then smiled then just walked away still in shock... It's probably impossible to do this without things getting awkward...
This is exactly why guys don't approach girls and ask them out.
Yup, this is exactly why. It's awkward 100% of the time. You have to be friends first, and that takes too much effort, lol.
i think (most) men are scared to a point where they dont like to hear a no.. it touches the ego of men when rejected. that probably also the reason why 'hooking up' is the thing from today. in the end they can either decide to be friends or take it further. i could also be wrong here.. but thats just what i think.
I just hit on girls whenever I feel like i'm ready for a relationship...
I sometimes get rejected but most of the time they give me their number and I get to know them better. Maybe it's just because I don't really want sex and it shows...
Can you answer my question too? :)
hgirlsaskguys. com/dating/q1135871-to-girls-getting-hit-on-this-question-is-for-you
Well, if I'm anywhere that serves alcohol it's quite often lol. I think overall I'd go with "sometimes". It's also kinda up to me. I've noticed that... if I'm out and around, smiling and being friendly, it's a lot more likely to happen. When I'm keeping to myself, not so much. Which makes sense of course.
I am a bit shocked and appalled at how many girls actually get harassed by guys/dudes who think that will get the girl to give them their numbers. WTF? Has the bar on how to flirt sucken that low? I flirt all the time even with no intention of getting a number simply because I find it fun. I do get numbers here and there but never disrespect nor harass and then expect to get a number... I'm a bit discombobulated right now. Need time to wrap my head around this.
On average, every 3 or 4 months if the guy wants to pursue a relationship with me. Dating is more common, usually 1 or 2 guys every month or two. It is hard for me to really like a guy and want to be in a relationship with them, I have grown to be picky but I do not complain to anyone.
Picky = Stuck up.
I guess you can say that lol but I don't complain about it to my family or friends... so yeah :)
I get harrassed a lot, but a guy actually asking for a date like a human being isn't that common. Usually just a proposition to "chill" or have sex in a crude obnoxious way. It seems like guys with tact keep to themselves while the guys who fling their feces about are the most obnoxious and loud.
I'm taken currently and I'm a non monogamus person,.
I can count the number of times I've been asked out on one hand. And they were all way back in the day (9th grade). I assume I must have lost my touch. :p
Or it could be the fact that I manage to bring up the boyfriend up after meeting people within the first 5 minutes.
Well considering I'm a minor... I don't even know where I'm headed with this. Consistently.
They just don't care I'm under age.
As for boys sometimes. I get hit on much more than asked out with guys round my age, but every now and again a few guys actually ask me out.
i think iit depends on the guy.. i can't say A because thats the situation because its not fair... i mean maybe i just met guys that where like that but i honestly believe that there are guys that ask girls out but most of them are waiting for the girl to make the first move and that almost always does not happen
As everyone else, I'm a little surprised at the result. Then again, I almost never approach either.
But questions for the ladies that almost never get approached. How did you get with your boyfriends? Or are you eternal singles because of it?
I've only had one BF... my current one that I've had since the age of 28... he didn't ask me out directly... he got close with my friend group from school and started hanging out with us... and he got my close friend to convince me to go out with him... he later confessed that he used my friends just to get closer to me.
i dont go out of my way to get dates. i usually meet people through work and often times dont bother with people at work because why would i want to do that tp myself? if it didn't work out itd be all awkward and shit at work, work sucks enough as it is. every girl I've dumped has hated me afterwards not even friendship material. just dont like to force things i guess. shouldn't have that forced feeling, everything should just feel natural when iam having chemistry with somebody
I always try to ask girls I have met out on a date... but they always say this to me:
"I'm sorry, I can't go out today... I'm busy."
"Sorry. I'm busy all week."
"Sorry. I literally have 0 time."
If I was good at hooking up with women, I'd just hit it and quit it.
It's consistent.. I think a lot of times my friendliness is mistaken, or though wishful thinking.. that I'm interested in them.. Even though I always mention I'm in a relationship right off the bat.
It's whatever.. I'm never rude or hurt anyone's feelings when I decline dates & hanging out with them. I simply remind them that I'm in a committed relationship & end the subject.
I'm not the traditionally pretty type so guys don't really notice me in that way also I'm one of those " emo / punk / skater girl " types and guys don't really like that and wear I live guys don't like girls with natural red hair I don't know why but yea I've been asked out one time
Well before my boyfriend it was 1-3 a year. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half so most people I am around at school know so even if they wanted to they wouldn't bother. I don't really go out much so anyone who doesn't know me doesn't really have a chance to. Not that I mind as I am more than happy with my boyfriend. Even so my guy friends often complement me.
Guys are wimps... they are all for asking one out on a date and all and get all lovey dovey on the first Damm date!!! The ones who are serious about the relationship are also very Thirsty. ... and the others that try to be fly and ask me out act like they all good and what not and get surprised that I a far from all other woman SO THEy FEEL INTIMIDATED and change from a thug lol to a dork carrying ones purse on a coffee date hahaha... men
ask girls out like to hang out like a date or to be in a relationship? Before I started dating my boyfriend, I have been constantly asked to have lunch or just to hang out with people. I guess it really depends on what you give as an impression. Sometimes I give people wrong ideas such as I am into them but in fact I'm just being nice.
yeah Ill be honest, its a lot simpler, and cheaper (I'm broke man) to just go for hookups. Dates are no guarantee for that, and that's basically the point of the date. I only ask girls out that I would be willing to be in a relationship with.
This is very surprising, I thought all girls including not so good looking ones were asked out on regular basis.
They ask to take me out a lot but only because they want sex. I no they don't really want to take the time to get to no me they just want to get in my pants. They invite themselves over to mine. Saying we can chill and watch a movie but I no that means one thing ! This is all they ever seem to want to do.
never. the occasional hobo will grunt at me. i suppose that's something.
Most of the men who hit on me are hobos. They won't leave me alone, every time i go to mcdonalds there's a hobo telling me my eyes look like sparkling diamonds or some shit
I have no issue asking girls out. If she just seems very neutral through the whole conversation then I probably won't ask. If she is on her phone , im not even gonna talk to her. Learned my lesson after a few times. My time is just as valuable as hers so if I dont get the feeling that she's at least enjoying the conversation, then im gone.
Rarely. I don't even interact with many people, though, lol. Guys do hit on me, walk me to class sometimes, or flirt, but I almost never get asked out.
What's the difference between getting hit on and gettinf asked out?
Oh okay.
I don't get asked out, I get approached and from then on I Need to take the initiative, the girls don't seem to know what they are doing, or even what they want. everytime a Girl approached me first seemed to me like I was their dating Coach or so
Now mostly never. Like maybe 2 or 3 times this year? My other friend gets asked out all the time.
I wondered why, but then I remembered the immortal words of Patrick Star:
"Maybe it's 'cause you're ugly."
Harsh joke, but true ;_;
I'm surprised as well. I had been convinced by this site (by the guys)
that most girls are asked out pretty often.
I thought I was a rare case not beeing asked so often ! :P
I've been asked out 5 times and almost 25...
Almost never. I've been asked out maybe 5 times and I only went on one date. I'm not dating that guy now. The other four are just from this dude that won't take a hint and keeps asking me out. Don't know if that counts...
There's never any actual dates nowadays it's always 'come to mine to watch a movie' which almost always means they want something physical and we girls aren't interested in just the physical side of things :p
Is that really true? Because I was planning to go on a lot of actual dates in college. Are girls still interested in formal dating up there?
I'm at university and I have to be honest, a date would just be amazing !! Like real dates really are a mark in your favour, if you're the gentleman that people say doesn't exist anymore there'll be a lot more girls turning heads in your direction! I say it's a definite yes :D
Yeah, but I am also dismally short (5'3.5) and of Indian descent (though I am Americanized and all) with an average-looking face, so I don't know... I mean I won't let that stop me (I am already actually asking girls out) but this can also substantially decrease my dating pool size.
You'll be surprised how many people are after these things ! I have a friend who is only after short Asian people (she isn't asian) so you never know what people actually like until you give it a shot :D at college/university too I've found people aren't so judgmental and are so much more mature so dating is actually so easy. Though some are judgmental most shallow people are weeded out, in this kinda environment people don't care so much about what you look like :)
Well that's nice to hear...
Never been asked out really. I have guys that stare at me consistently and want to have sex with me :/ or want a one night stand (no I never had sex lol btw/no idea where they get the notion that I just want to do IT). I wish that a guy would ask me out and treat me with respect like I will treat him. ^_^
Almost never. I think I've been asked out like.. what, 7 times? I feel bad saying that some were guys who just wanted an ego boost because they thought I'd jump at the chance.
I think I'm not attractive enough for some reason. I think I'll always be alone, and yeah that might be my choice it might not, most likely both, but I'm not desperate enough to go out on a limb yet.
yesterday this guy hit on me awkwardly. lol. it actually made my day a little, so i smiled and said thanks before realizing i should have been offended. but i wasn't, and that's really fcking with me.
A guy will come. Relax
no.. it'll never happen. i'll be alone forever! :'( i just need to let it sink in.
Rarely lol it's sad I think guys are losing their balls or they just don't find me attractive... But there's lots of guys who immaturely harass me but no one asks me out like a normal person often
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