Guys, what do you want women to bring to a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’ve heard a lot recently that women don’t bring much to relationships other than sex and I’ve noticed when women are asked what they bring, they can’t answer it well. I consider myself a traditional woman and I’d love to take care of my man (this is more than sexually) because of everything he’d bring to the table in the relationship. I stayed out of dating due to mental health reasons and I’m 25 now, but it’s crazy how bad dating has become and modern women are today. I’m nervous to enter dating and I want to know from guys what they would want from a woman to make her girlfriend/wife material.

[Jake99999]

Ugh. It’s not like you can be handed a formula and if you use it you will find love. I assume what you really mean is you want to find love. Not just “get a husband”. It’s like you want a job description or something.


Second I don’t buy into the premise that men don’t think women bring anything to the table except sex. Maybe some men do, but more enlightened men know there is a lot more. Women bring a TON more to the table. Here is what it should be (in my opinion)…. women can be:


A guys best friend
Someone he can lean on / stand strong with him
Someone that encourages him
Someone he can get advice from
Someone to share important events in life with
Someone to celebrate wins with
Someone to to help you get over grief or sadness when something bad happens.
Someone to learn with, experience life with as a partner
Someone to raise kids with
Someone to challenge you in good ways and make you a better man
Yes help with cooking and cleaning etc. but this is not the main purpose.
Someone to explore sex with, adventures and pleasure - based on love
Someone to be intimate with and share your true inner self with, deep trust
I could go on and on.


What I describe here is a life partner. A soul mate. A deep and lasting thing based on mutual love and respect and trust and mad passion and chemistry. Someone where life is more exciting and fun because you share it with them. And as you grow older together you adapt and grow together. You get through problems better because you truly care about each other and you communicate. You aren’t afraid to talk about anything. Sex is amazing because you love each other and get to know how to turn each other on.


In my opinion…This is what men and women should seek if they seek a long term committed relationship.

[Robin83]

It’s come to this confusion about the female identity, because feminism has said that gender roles is some kind of oppression by the tyranical patrirachy.

Women who are free of these radical ideas, understands that a gender role isn’t something that is forced on women. It actually is natural feminine behaviour.

In my relationship we started off from the wrong path. She didn’t want to do things, because we had to do it together to make it equal. At one point, I sat my foot down and I told her this: «If you find home making meaningfull and important. Just do it I don’t expect you to do everything, I just want you to do what you feel like doing!» after that, gender roles manifest themselves naturally. Our relationship is better than ever. when ever she needs help, or I need help, we work as a team.

So women, allow yourself to be feminine. Your man will love you for it!

And men, be masculine. Keep her safe, lead and include her in your frame. Know what you want, be ambitious and virtous. It’s natural. and she will love you for it.

[Anonymous]

I personally would give back what I expect from a partner so things like emotional support, having a best friend that I can share everything with, attention, affection, being loved, intimacy, sex, financial support (only when needed) etc

I also have a motherly personality so I like taking care of man lol It’s basically just like a partnership, I give back whatever he gives me tenfold (unless it’s money lol he makes way more than I do but we do take turns in paying for dates)

[Jake99999]

Well said! You nailed it as far as I am concerned.

[Browneye57]

Excellent. You're on the right track. You bring value - you add to the relationship. You're independent, successful, accomplished, competent. You become a worthy partner, not just looking for someone to 'complete you'. And yes, it's more than just a golden-vagina.
And yes, it's what you'll DO for your man, that you think in terms of 'us' and 'him', and not just 'me'.

Don't be nervous. Be confident. Know what you want and go for it. Your life and what it becomes is up to YOU, not anyone else.
Choose wisely, treat kindly. __Dr. Laura

[Clarke498]

Well, there was one thing that I now realized that I care for more than sex, which I had no clue about. And it's what you talk about here - A girls' wish to take care of her man. I'm not talking about necessarily being his mom or whatever, but asking stuff like if he's sleeping good, if he's eating, stuff like that. Which shows she cares. Means SO much. And within this, to be able to tell her anything and be met with understanding instead of disgust.

[Clarke498]

What do you want guys to bring to the table?

[Anonymous]

I am a Christian man dating with expectation of marriage. God requires mutual faith in Jesus and cooperation. My girlfriend is cooperative and we are growing in our faith. A lot of relationships people fight for control, but placing control in Christ and cooperation with each other leads to a strong healthy marriage. Willingness to work together is the most desirable trait with faith.

[Anonymous]

Someone with whom I can exchange absolute loyalty. I want a woman who loves and cares about me, and will tell me the truth about what she's thinking and feeling. Someone who wants to talk to me all the time, who doesn't keep me waiting to hear from her, and leave me wondering if I'm wasting my life on her. Someone I can communicate with intimately without fear. Someone who I can plan a future and have a family with. Also admittedly someone who loves to do kinky sex stuff with me.

[Tunasub]

A good attitude. stable mind. Sensor humor. The ability to openly comunicate and also able listen to understand not to respond. Compassion. INTELLIGENCE.

[clampfan101]

I just need her to be a fellow Christian and a loving partner who wants kids.
I’m not even too picky about looks and age difference while still having fair standards with each.

[Yourfriend2021]

I think it's the same thing women want, honesty, caring, affection, attention, intimacy, a friend and lover, some that cares about you and loves you.

[crmoore]

Hugs, cuddles, cheek-kisses, love, loyalty, and preferably housewife duties but who knows how viable that is nowadays 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

We want real housewives who can cook, clean, love and care for the children and not cheat on us.
It's pretty simple.

[Anonymous]

manners respect LOYALTY and TRUST and not be boring with a deadend job

[anylolone]

What ever she wants from it.

[TheAfrikan]

Care, Trust, Calm, Love and Respect.

[Slim57]

Loyalty, respect, and communication

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s a long list

[Asker]

I’m all ears! 😊