My boyfriend and i we are together for two months. He is trying to include me into his life and he's very sweet and caring. But I am more introverted and don't feel comfortable socializing as much as him. He asked me a couple of times to go out with his friends, already met them and invited them at my place for beers. I am foreigner and they are all locals and i don't speak their language so it makes it a bit harder to get to know them. I don't want him to think like he's responsible for my socializing and that he has to take me with him every time he goes out. I started avoiding some of these gatherings and now he thinks i do it because i don't like his friends. He presents me as his girlfriend to friends and i don't want to embarrass him or make him feel that he has to take care of me when we go to social events. Tonight he invited me at a club with his friends and other couples and told me that he would be happy if i join them and it would mean a lot to him to be there. My friends also invited me out which i haven't seen as I'm mostly with him or him and his friends. I told him that we don't have to hang out together and can separate our social circles and he took it the wrong way. I want to go with him because i know that this would make him happy but i will not have a good time. I can go to my friends' party and have actually a good time while i could go there with him for a while and then see my friends is also not a bad idea.
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This needs to be communicated out to him. You need to sit down and talk to him about it. Honestly I am an introvert and I had lots of trouble in relationships because the partners I’ve been with don’t understand what it’s like to be an introvert. Im assuming your boyfriend is an extrovert. Tell him he needs to understand what being an introvert means.
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I think you should embrace the idea of leaning a new language, then you wouldn't feel so awkward around his friends.
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