What do I do if I don’t like my boyfriend’s friends?

[Anonymous]

Not all of them! Some of them I like. But there’s just the few that really get on my nerves and I feel uneasy around them. Some of them have personalities that are hard to deal with. Immature, bossy, self-victimizing. I’m not perfect but geez it gets to a point. Also I make it obvious I don’t like to be touched but one of them touched me in a way that made me extremely uncomfortable (which is something I will tell him even if I don’t mention the whole ‘not liking his friends’ part). They encourage bad habits in him like smoking, drinking, and going to dangerous places while under the influence. I try to push him into healthy habits and it’s like all my efforts get stomped all over. They’re very close so it would be like telling him I don’t like his siblings. He’s such a kind and patient person but I worry that I’d cause problems if I told him what I was feeling. Any tips on how to handle this in the healthiest and least problematic way?
At the end of the day it’s his choice who he hangs around and what he does. But I want to find a middle ground where we can both be comfortable.

[Nikki1989]

Deal with the safety issue first, the health issue second, and the annoyance issue through distance. You should protect your peace without giving him a blanket ultimatum on his entire friend group.

[Asker]

Thank you this is very helpful

[beenherebefore]

Don't hang out with them, you don't have to hang out with them if you don't like them.

[slatyb]

You think about whether you really want to be with your boyfriend. He chooses his friends. If they are obnoxious, that's his choice.

[Anonymous]

how the hell did you end up with him?

meanwhile there's other men with better social circles

[Finchie40]

Go do your own thing when his friends’ come around

[In_Trance]

Stay away from your boyfriend's friends