It's bad because they're like that and their your boyfriends friends. It's not, because you know where your stance is with it, and is aganist that kind of lifestyle. However, the real question is, is this badly affecting your relationship? Directly? Don't be afriad to let go if you have to for YOUR sake. You can't convience him to get better friends. This is the kind of friends, he most likely like, unless they weren't always like this. Either way, if boundaries can't be set, be prepared to walk.
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It's not bad at all.
You notice characteristics of the friends that know they aren't going anywhere and you want your boyfriend to excel not be dragged down.
Your best option is just to invite him out with people that will make him feel welcome and grow. He will slowly see that hanging out with drunk people is not his forte and he will slowly fade from them. Other than that there's nothing more you can do. You can't force him to not hangout with his friends.
I don't care for my guy's friends so much either, but it's his choice. I haven't said anything to him. They're ok, mostly hookah/weed smokers. If he grows out of them then cool. If not, and they're lifelong friends, then that's ok too. I'm dating him, because I like him. Not because I like his friends.
It's not bad at all I wouldn't worry about it. Reading some of your comments you seem to be worried about him getting taken advantage of. It wouldn't be a horrible idea if you talk to him what you think. Because you have a good reason to worry for him. It's been two years he should be able to take a little comment from you. Just clarify it's not a make or break thing that you just don't like seeing him getting taken advantage of.
It's completely normal. Sometimes its actually good if you and your partner has two different company, so time to time both of you can hang out without each other. And you should gather a third friend group around you, the ones that both of you can go out with.
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I know how u feel. But these are your bfs choices not yours. So I really don't know what to say. You can introduce got boyfriend to the friends you like and see if he gets along with them. Don't make the mistake of talking bad about his friends though chances are he's heard it from others and might have higher potential for u too.
You are who you hang out with... Maybe your boyfriend is a sleezy drunk too...
If all of his friends are like that the chances are they're all pretty much very similar in that regard...
Maybe, just as you think your boyfriend does, they all have so much more potential... but they just don't care to open that particular potential out and use it...- s
You're not forced to like them. They are his friends, not your friends. I'm sure there are times when you can avoid them.
Just don't tell your boyfriend that you don't like them (if you didn't).
He might think you're trying to ruin their friendship or he might choose them over you. I'd say make friends that you like spending time with, invite him to join you guys, and make an effort to hear him out about why he spends time with his friends. Don't try to persuade him to leave them, just listen to what he has to say.
And are you sure you're not just jealous of the attention they get from him? You might be perceiving the situation inappropriately and painting them in a bad light to justify wanting him to be with you more often. What "sleazy drunk" stuff is going on?
And the bottom line is that you can't make him actualize his potential, only he can. But you can find somebody else who doea share that value with you.Didn't you know of these friends when you got together with him? If so, not much you can do. If not, tell him in a non threatening way that he could have "better" friends. As for not liking his friends, no it's not bad. Sounds like there's not too much to like.
There's no obligation to like his friends. It would be better if you did because then you could hang out all together. But, it is not necessary really. It is much much easier, however, if the friends of a significant other are tolerable or fun to be around so that one could plan events and have people over to the house.
it'll be bad in the long term.
they'll always hang out with him let say maybe forever? and every time your hatred will accumulate and explode in the long terms.
woman friendship and guys are different.
guys friendship is kinda pure? they don't want anything from their friend and fine with hanging out and talk and just play games together.
although sometimes friends have bad effect on them.Depends on how you handle them. I had a good friend once where his girlfriend and I didn't click for while at all, to the point I stopped coming over. Yeah. Be careful that you dont put him in a situation that he has to choose okay? Just something personal.
Yeah but that doesn't mean you should tell him to not hang out with them. Trust me no one likes an over-controlling SO.
Not bad, no. When there's a woman I'm into I usually don't like her girlfriends either. In fact whenever a woman has only female friends and spends time with them regularly, it's a red flag for me.
This isn't bad, you just want better for your boyfriend but keep this mind, boys are too good in their friendship (boys-boys). Think before taking any moves.
It's hard to like other people's friends, but they grew up together, ne day they will be normal... maybe. not bad to hat them, but if you can get along with them turn that's good enough
Yes, but he isn't going to abandon his friends for you so you'll just have to live with it. Forcing your boyfriend to choose between you and his friends is an issue he will not want to deal with, you will just have to learn to tolerate them.
Nah its normal. As long as your reasons are valid and not based just on wanting your boyfriend around all the time.
I don't think it is that bad, it's not like you don't like your boyfriend. As long as you treat them with respect.
Not bad that you don't like them, but kinda bad that he chooses to associate with that kinda people.
That being said, I wouldn't get in the way of their friendship unless it was ruining our relationship.Unfortunately the types of people someone chooses to hang out with reflects on them. How long have you been together?
No it's not bad. You like whom you do and you have a good reason.
Personally I don't think it's a good idea to have either of your friends mixed together. Either you spend time with your friends, or with your partner. Not all together at the same time.
Keep both circles separate. It makes things less complicated.No, I think a lot of my boyfriend's friends are losers. I don't stop him from talking to them though.
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