Do men not feel love for attractive girls that are too easy?

[jennifer_bloom]

Love requires respect, even if the girl is attractive

Some guys are stupid enough to date an easy girl

[t-8900]

Love does not require respect BUT a relationship requires both love and respect. I can't be with a girl who is easy. I can't even fathom the idea of being with a shared woman.

[ManOnFire]

@t-8900 Love does not require respect? How so?

[t-8900]

@ManOnFire I've loved someone I had zero respect for before. And a woman can love a man and still walk out and cheat on him.

[ManOnFire]

Hm. In my mind it is impossible to love someone and not respect them. I would think that if a woman walks out and cheats on a man then she couldn't have really loved him. Love regards the other person, and if she's not doing that then she didn't have any love. Or at least not anymore.

[t-8900]

@ManOnFire I've been around enough women to understand their definition of it. It's very conditional with a woman, unlike a man's love. It's all chemicals in the end, nothing more as sad as it is to say. I loved a girl who made shitty decisions and I no longer respected her. But I did love her still. It was a shitty situation there for a while but glad I got out of it. Eventually it did turn to hatred but it wasn't an overnight thing. There was still love there in me for her throughout it until the rage took over.

[ManOnFire]

I can definitely say I've experienced the same, so in that sense I do understand that. "It's very conditional with a woman, unlike a man's love. It's all chemicals in the end, nothing more" - Totally accurate.

[Jamie05rhs]

That is correct. I don't have feelings for those girls. Love is mental for me first and foremost, so I can't get into someone that repulses me.

[ManOnFire]

This is a really good question. I would have to say that no, I tend not to have any feelings of love for girls who are too easy or sleep with a lot of guys. And I think most men probably feel the same. Except that I still feel this way even if the girl is not the most beautiful, although in general I am not highly attracted to very attractive women anyway simply because their attitude and arrogance lowers their value for me personally. They are not humble women, and the more men they have sex with or the more men they attract, it really just makes them worse in personality and demeanor because their heads are full of what they can get.

That being said, it is extremely hard for me to have any feelings of affection towards women like that.

[ZackBan]

Men are far more fragile than they appear or claim.

The reality is, when a man's heart is broken it never fully heals. And therefore a man can only break his heart so many times before the the effects on his personality become drastic.

Now when a woman is "easy" as in she sleeps arounds a lot most men have no problems boning her, but that's just sports, an opportunity to do something fun and exhilarating while giving someone else what they want.
However easy girls are unpredictable, just like she left with him she could leave with others which leads me back to my original point: men don't wanna increase the risk of being cheated on and so their mental defense mechanisms kick in whenever the girl is too easy and that voice in the back of their heads will keep saying:
"Forget her, to her you are one of many, there was before and will be after you"
And most men listen to that voice which makes them skeptical about falling in love with such woman.

[ManOnFire]

I think I definitely would agree with this. And I do think men's hearts can hurt more from breakups because when a guy finds a woman he's really, really into and he cares a lot about her, that matters more than sex. And when she breaks his heart it is harder for him to heal. A lot of women I think see love and relationships as opportunities and trophy experiences more than actually caring about what it all truly means and who the guy really is.

[haphazard]

Depends how you mean. Being easy and being a slut aren't necessarily the same thing. The majority of men will not develop romantic feelings for a girl that's a slut and men are less likely to develop feelings for a girl that's too easy. Yes some guys are dumb and/or desperate and his ego tells him he's special so he will develop feelings anyway. I think the majority of men are able to detect sluttiness to some extent but he does not necessarily know how easy she is for other men to sleep with. If you don't want to risk appearing easy, it's a good idea to not have sex until after romantic feelings have developed. There's no magical number for this but I'd say to wait at least 3 dates. This will also help you avoid being used by men and developing emotional issues as a result. It's still no guarantee because some men are willing to go much farther lengths to use a girl. Also if a man feels that you are playing hard to get in order to manipulate him then he will disrespect you anyways. Guys usually don't want a girl with a past of being a slut that's now decided she wants to settle down, although some men are in the same boat and don't mind.

[Jake99999]

The wording of the poll feels very judgmental to be honest. And what is the definition of “too easy” Anyway?


We humans are imperfect. Even Jesus could see the good in people like tax collectors and prostitutes. Was Jesus stupid? If god can love them why can’t a man?


A woman can indeed find love with a man and maybe their love is so real and true that their past and how many people either of them have been with doesn’t matter. And they are now there for each other, in love. I don’t like to totally judge a person just based on a behavior that does not have to define them forever.


Just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

I think there's a lot to unpack:
*are you asking if men are less likely to commit to someone who's "easy"?
*Are we saying easy is sleeping with anyone, or simply more open to sleeping with someone they have a connection with?

I think if we're discussing a girl who trusts easily, it is likely that a guy could take advantage of that trust for an encounter without commitment. It is not her fault for wanting to trust, nor for choosing what she does with that trust. Though, because of the unfortunate possibility of selfish people, this girl may need to practise discernment and learn who she can trust.

That said, there are people out there who are deserving of trust and are looking for commitment.

We're all a bunch of people trying to figure out life, some of us do so lovingly and others don't, and that can hurt us when we don't expect it.

[pjf1958]

However, it's even more unwise to be judgmental so early in a relationship. While it's clearly been documented that sexual restraint early on is statistically safer for the well being of a relationship, it's not an automatic death sentence either. Every relationship is unique. It's the chemistry between those involved that are the real indicators.

[sage2021]

For instance - what kind of chemistry are you talking about?

[Interstate]

ANY easy Woman is a turnoff to a Man with morals and self-respect. But to answer your question directly, I would have to say BOTH A and B.

[Anonymous]

Jealous old Jennifer? Only insecure women play hard to get because they have nothing to offer and probably live a dull life.
Not every woman is rigidly rotting like you.
We know how to have fun.
Also in my experience I've been treated like a queen so this "easy and hard to get" is a total BS. Stop shaming girls who have it better than you lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Also a guy have to be hopelessly dumb and spineless to choose YOU. Who are you to judge if guys like easy girls?

[slatyb]

"Too easy" - I don't care about that, I only care if she's careless.

[Pyrofox]

Less that they don't feel love and more they just get bored.

[EssenceOfLight]

They are useful, however a short imagination of future with such a girl destroys any feeling of infatuation. Deeper relationship where love could appear isn't possible anyway with easy girls.

[anylolone]

Love does not require that sort of effort.

What you are doing is promoting men being ok with you pulling the ben-fraklin effect to create cognitive dissonance and insinuating all your value is contained in sex in order to foolish attempt to eat your cake and keep it too.

You need to read adam smith "wealth of nations" to understand a better theory of value, or read about instrumental goal-philosophy.

[normalice]

I might get suspicious but if she doesn't seem to be faking enthusiasm and instead genuinely just wants me to ravage her all the time from the onset of us meeting, it's hard to imagine not falling in love real fast.

[Grubhub]

I don’t believe in too easy. Maybe the woman wants that guy so bad so she appears easy. It’s not a turnoff for me. Unless she’s a damn whore sleeping around

[Vikkrram]

Personally if you ask me if i like an girl , it won't matter to me if she is easy to get or hard to get. But if girl try to play more hard with me then there would be no other options to left her.

[AnthonyJ01]

There is a respect both ways. A person can be very attractive, but still not be worth it when it comes to feelings.

[MrNamara]

This is a very biased voting. I mean, who wants to call himself stupid? This isn't a question, this is pure judgement.

[Arabella_Rose]

From my experience, guys don’t really care if a girl is easy. All guys mainly care about is if the girl is Physically attractive and have a little bit of chemistry. Guys would do absolutely anything for you if you’re a hot girl.

[krin_m]

Attraction is not just based on physical beauty. Not for me!

[Apulu_02]

Respect is the first priority. Love is the second one.