I seriously cannot understand where the fuck do they get this idea. Cause I’m a student and I always hear that I’m pretty, I also have a lot of attractive female friends and our struggles are the same as men. We have to work our ass off to pay our bills, study to get a degree so we can have a better job and other stuffs.
But men (especially the ugly ones) believe that if you’re a hot young woman then you definitely have everything given for free!
And even those favors aren’t proposed for free, since when a man help a young woman wether it is to get a job or anything else, it’s because he expect something in return, that if the woman refuse to give ( like sex or a blow j) he will just get mad and find a way to destroy her life ( I witnessed that many times).
Sometimes a woman’s look can bring her so much problèmes that I swear I know a dozen of girls who never weak make up, wear modest cloths and find a way to make themselves look average, to avoid being harassed, but they still are since they are naturally pretty.
Why men believe that young attractive women have it easy?
The meme that young attractive women get things for free is recently invigorated thanks to internet culture, where desperate men pay for some e girl's pee bottles (they are sold out lol). In reality, the dynamic is not simply linear, being a young attractive woman will lead to some people treat you better, then as a result some other people will treat you worse because they think you have had special treatments your whole life, so it's a negative feed back loop, and it is necessary to preserve some balance. However I have never seen a young and attractive woman having any difficulty with their career, they might have in a short period then immediately overcome it due to the amount of help readily available so I might have missed it. I speculate a genuine difficulty is possible if their family and upbringing are particularly fucked up in a Spanish soap opera way, or if they manage to fuck it up on their own, like doing amateur porn (then again many people do amateur porn precisely because their early life was so easy and lacked any meaningful struggle so they seek thrill and indulge in hedonism).
Do they have it easy? not sure, that depends on many factors. Some pretty girl might never get above certain position in a large company due to prejudices, then again, do they want to... On the other hand you don't even need to be pretty to succeed in many STEM related fields with rather mediocre talents. I've seen it many times, professors, especially the ones with stellar careers in their youths with many accolades, would prefer to hide their power level and let a female student be the first author of their papers or the face of their project, even though she did what is expected of an "assistant", not a lead research role (the recent woman hailed as the creator of the first ever black hole picture is the clearest example). Do they have a huge advantage in fields of work that have large social component? from what I've seen, yes. None of this implies that an instagram model is even guaranteed admission to a low tier local university just because she is good looking.
Because of they don't know better and don't know most women don't care that much about appearance. Just because of Hollywood likes to show handsome men and beautiful women on screen doesn't mean most women cares that much about looks. Women may think something is ideal and be realistic at the same time, thinking personality and other things are more important. There are more pretty girls out there than handsome men, so men believing they would fail because of they're either average or ugly either hasn't realized how reality works or have to work on their personalities.
Men and women have equally difficult talking about gender privilege and disadvantages in modern Western gender equal societies, but the advantages and disadvantages are just different. It's true beautiful and handsome people have advantages less good looking don't have. It's however still disadvantages with both. Poverty, abuse, diseases, accidents etc. are universal and may hit everyone regardless of looks. Beauties have to deal with envious people, and unattractive ones with fewer dating options.
Its not that people dont like beautiful looking people its that some people think you need to look like like a Hollywood star to be attractive. You dont, being good looking certainly has a lot of pros but you only need to be above average not insanely hot
Yes you may have to work but take it from me I'm not exactly good looking in fact people have called me ugly to my face if we were going for the same job I can guarantee the job would choose someone like you over me even if I were to have more Qualifications and more experience then you some jobs take someone with good looks over someone who has the experience this is just an example of my experience in what I have to fight against on a daily bases when applying for work so in some ways young attractive women do have it easy
Life isn't easier for attractive woman. When I was growing up - the better I looked - the worse the bullying got. My own mother tried to convince me to become a prostitute when I was 17 because she was jealous I looked better than her - I was trying very hard to get into university at the time and was super religious.
I know male friends who have helped women they know move, fix things (computers, cars) and have done so much to help them only then for her to not pay in any way (money, food, attention, literally any way at all). We at least buy our male friends pizza and beer when they help us move, or we at least buy our friends a pack of beer if they fix our stuff. I know there are guys out there who specifically expect/demand sex as the payment for these things, but I don't believe for a second that would describe most men. Most men might expect some kind of payment (again, even just beer or food or $20) for things they do to help you. I think it's more common for women to refuse to pay a guy in literally any way than for anything you talked about to happen. And then women like you judge us men for "always wanting something" even though it was you that wanted something (free labor).
Well to be honest I don't think attractive women necessarily have it easy either, but you do have some ability to use your looks to your advantage. I guarantee you I wouldn't be able to constantly get people to help me move and fix all my stuff without giving so much as a slice of pizza (this is not a euphemism) in return.
You could probably use your looks to get a sugar daddy, something that men will never know, though most people are probably aware that most women don't really want a sugar daddy.
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Having it easy, means the way world treats you, not that you have things handed over to you for free. Most ugly men, myself included, are used to watching change in attitude in persons as they are talking to us or someone attractive.
But this is just over side, and like the saying goes, grass is always greener on the other side. Hence we are or I was not aware of the problems that beautiful girls have to go through. I realised first when I had one of my apprentice (intern, drop dead gorgeous), do something which also normally other apprentice do. In all other aspect, she was either equal or better than most interns. But when she had to talk to some of our customers, her performance was low. It was shocking to me. I sat with her and got the customers on phone. First she started talking, customer was borderline rude, then I took over, sudden change in attitude. I asked her what was that about, she had no clue.
Turns out customer had already made up his mind that she is pretty but is not technically sound (which was way off base). After that, I changed everyones signature to surname.
It was very hard trying to explain a young girl that she should expect such behaviour because she is pretty. Her question was what did she do wrong? She was one of the best inters we had and she definitely opened my eyes to lot of things that beautiful girls go through (entire office was basically trying to get in her pants and I think she had hard time determining who is in it for sex and who just wants to hang out).
"when a man help a young woman wether it is to get a job or anything else, it’s because he expect something in return" That is true for anyone. You are not going to show up at a job if you are not getting paid.
You have the choice whether to accept financial favors. Men (and women as they get older and less attractive) do not.
If you are hungry for a nice restaurant, you do not need to check your bank account, all you have to do is post your picture (assuming you are attractive) on a dating site and you will get to go to a nice restaurant. From the man's view, he will be paying for himself plus you.
If you have bills to pay, you could choose to find a boyfriend, or at some point a husband, who will pay them for you.
I don't know where you are or what you look like (there is a picture, but I don't assume it is you), but if you were near me and had a problem with your bills or wanted to go on a trip, if you were my girlfriend, I wouldn't have a problem with helping you out.
Ever since humans learned to walk, women have used men for their resource potential. It is part of our evolution. You can either try to fight it or you can be happy and take advantage of it.
"then you definitely have everything given for free!" No, women don't get given anything for free, but they do get a lot more assistance and support than men. Not only legally, but also culturally.
There is a simple reason for that. Men are disposable in a darwinistic sense. You need just a few men to impregnate a ton of women and make sure our species survives. Doesn't work the other way around. Thus as a result women have inherent value for simply existing and being fertily. Men don't. Men start at zero value and only get value through merit.
Does that mean women do not face difficulties and hardship? Of course not. Pretty much everyone does in life. But humbleness for what you get is also a great thing.
Don't believe me? Do the following experiment: Go on an online dating website of your choice, create a profile with a decent, slightly above average looking man and see how many girls out there will call that person "pretty" or "handsome" or approach them altogether. You will be surprised how little you get.
Alternatively I recommend you watching the Norah Vincent experiment.
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"And even those favors aren’t proposed for free, since when a man help a young woman wether it is to get a job or anything else, it’s because he expect something in return, that if the woman refuse to give ( like sex or a blow j) he will just get mad and find a way to destroy her life ( I witnessed that many times)."
Sorry, but this ^^ is just bullshit. Does it happen sometimes? Sure. Is it common? Of course not. Please don't try to make it out to be something it's not.
Most guys who say pretty young women have it easy are talking about dating and sex, not life in general. And they are 100% correct about that. Women like you are privileged when it comes to dating and sex, whether you recognize it or not.
But you are also privileged in everyday life as well. People, both men and women, treat you better. That is a proven fact that is not up for debate.
Look, it is also a fact that people who are privileged do not tend to recognize their privilege, and you are a prime example of that. Not all attractive young women are like you. I have talked with plenty of attractive young women who are very well aware of their privilege. You are just not one of them. But like most women like you, once you reach the age of 30 or so you will certainly recognize the privilege you had earlier, in retrospect.
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I think you would benefit from watching this video, beginning to end...
They get jobs easier (when unqualified), promotions, get out if tickets (repeatedly hearing women I've worked with say how they started crying (fake) or undid the top of their shirt before the cop comes to their window and they get no tickets. They can also complain and get their way at work almost all the time. I've seen it consistently for many years in the work place that they have an advantage. Less is expected of them for work performance than is expected of men for the same exact job title/position.
When someone calls me trying to sell me something (not the scammers), if it sounds like a young woman, I will let her talk. If it is a man, I will hang up before he finishes his first sentence.
Because I see it everyday. Try being a non-white male in the US and see how everyone treats attractive young women (especially if they're white or latina) compared to anyone else. Cops let you get away with shit. Everyone is businesses is nicer to you. People are eager to help you. You get bullshit jobs like waitress, medical receptionists and promotions just for being cute while everyone else has to earn their positions and get attitude fro practically everyone.
Literally NO ONE is nice to me in businesses or on the street. Ever. Everyday I"m in situations where I"m standing in line behind a pretty girl and the person behind the counter (male or female) is smiles and sunshine with them and the second I get to the counter they're stink-eyeing me even though I've done nothing wrong.
All I know is the attractive ones are in for the biggest let down in their lives when their looks fade with age. They have had so much attention overstimulation in their teens and 20s that they will have to go to rehab in their 30s+.. At least the plain-ugly ones will be conditioned for that already. Personally, looks do things for me and that is just the way it is. I think looks are confidence advantage.
The honest question to yourself is how much time do you spend to look good? Why not just make yourself look like sht and diffuse it?
Yeah, most be really terrible to be beautiful and totally stunning... cry me a river.
No one said, attractive women have it easy. They have it EASIER, that's a big difference. You enter every competition with a big headstart, but it is still up to you, to make something out of it, just like everyone else.
I dont envy pretty girls some times, its a dangerous world out there (mostly due to men) and you are walking around with a target on your back
There is something about good looking people though that gets them through doors other people wouldn't, i found since i lost 80lbs i tend to get away with stuff a lot more
So you are ranting about a small percentage of dumbasses? Some people are idiots. That's life. Get over it. There are also women that think men have it easy. A great many of them "Men don't have to bear children" "Men don't get periods" etc.
Life is unfair and people's judgements are often unfair. It's something everyone has to deal with. Being attractive has it's pros and cons just like anything else. In the case of young women the pros outweigh the cons and that's why those men are judging you. Don't take it personal. Focus on what you can control
Because young and attractive women try to ask men for free things on a daily basis. It doesn't matter how many men tell you "no" if you only need one to tell you "yes". Just look at websites like Twitch. tv, a site supposedly dedicated to gamers yet its filled with girls who know nothing about video games who dance around in skimpy outfits asking for handouts and thirsty dudes shower them with money. I'm not saying that's wrong, but it doesn't exactly help your case.
Because in certain ways they do, relative to everyone else. You might not choose to take advantage of it, but many, many men of all ages would spend every last penny they have for the chance to have a pretty, young woman as a girlfriend. That does not apply, at least not to the same degree, as less attractive women. The stunning ones can latch onto a rich, usually older, man and even if they divorce she will never have to work.
"We have to work our ass off to pay our bills, study to get a degree so we can have a better job and other stuffs."
Last time i checked hot young girls didn't have to do any of this, they choose to do this. y'all have options men dont have like get married and stay home. Or marry a rich guy who pays for you to do this stuff. Men typically have neither option.
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“Why men believe young attractive women have it easy?”
Because it’s true...
1.) Young attractive women can get off easily if they break the law
2.) Young attractive women get the red carpets rolled out for them wherever they go.
3.) Young attractive women can find dates without even trying.
4.) The law respects young attractive women and will always have their backs
Good looking or above average people in general have it a bit easier in life they have better chances getting that job or getting a better tipp or getting away with mistakes just statistically speaking so I would say that is why
There are advantages, yes. You do get more attention from people and you can use that to your advantage. Other than that I would say just keep living life.
Not all men believe this way! of course women are targeted constantly which sucks and I wish it didn't happen but saying stuff like: "But men (especially the ugly ones) believe... definitely have everything given for free!" is simply ridiculous..
They do early on, but it will become a disadvantage later
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Exactly, but a lot of attractive aren’t that dumb since they know that hoeing around and partying instead of getting an education will get them in a future full of regret. So they have to face the same obstacles as men
Yet so many still fail to catch up. They ride that early Advantage until it ends then a man the same age (around 30 even) comes in with years of harder work experience takes over
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