Why do some guys have it easy hooking up with women even though they are not particularly attractive, intelligent and interesting?

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WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

They just go for it. I think for a large majority of guys, it's not easy to go after women. At least not at first. But after a while it gets easier. The guys who just go for it get more confident as they go. After a while they get better at it. They learn what women like and how to treat them.

Just to make a point...
I question this idea of guys who "hook up" with a lot of women being successful with women. This could also be viewed as being a failure with women. While it might seem great to get with a lot of women, especially for a young guy, what most people want (both men and women) is a special person and a relationship. They don't want to be alone. They want someone to share their life with, or at least this part of their life.

If relationships, love, and having someone close to you is the goal for most people, why does the guy who hops from one bed to another called successful? Why is he not called a failure when he either can't, or won't, get what most people are looking for?

You have to ask yourself what you really want. Because the approach to the two things is very different. There is some overlap, but don't lose sight of what you really want.

I don't know you or what you want. But I'm convinced that for a lot of guys they are too busy thinking about hitting a home run when they should just be talking to girls - like one human to another. If pussy is your goal, it can be a distraction from more important things.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I think it called charm and charisma... I mean it goes a long way knowing how to talk to women and treat them right. But honestly guys that sleep around a lot with a lot of success are what we call womanizers, it's a predatorial type of behavior in which the man can identify certain types of things within a woman and take advantage of them.

Don't think that just because they are having a lot of sex that they are getting any emotional fulfillment out it.

BigWhiteWolf87 · Accepted Answer

@mateta_haidara - I don't find you even a little intelligent or interesting. As the saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A man who finds women of African ancestry for example attractive may never find women of Indian ancestry attractive. Duh.

The thing is real men - not kids trapped in adult bodies who think they're mature - know that personality, nature, etc. are more important than say looks. Looks change. Only an idiot doesn't comprehend that.

As for interesting that depends.
Many women find celebrities, makeup and things like jewelry interesting. I find skydiving, white water rafting, or cave diving interesting cause I do it. Many of the children trapped in adult bodies don't like this because they don't have the balls to try it themselves.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Accepted Answer

They have money. Being funny/good sense of humor. Some aspect of his personality seems “trustworthy” even if it’s just for a night. Then… I’m mostly agreeing with Hispanic Cool Guy, most of the time they’re just pursuing anywhere from three to multiple women at the same and they’re not really all that picky. Whoever bites they’re usually fine with as the goal for them is the sex.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

They know how to talk. They are funny and have confidence.

Miles1354 · Answer

They have rizz and know how to talk to them/just the right things to say. I know a guy who is quite attractive but no Channing Tatum. But he plays the best looking girls on the regular. It's because he has experience and knows exactly what to say to them. Even if they weren't into him initially, they fall for him. It's sanc to see for sure

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I believe some guys are attractive to women cause they appeal to her sense of justice, her sense of morality or her sense of virtue. I know ugly guys who did this that never had trouble finding girls who liked them. I believe it does not work without dignity and honest service to the world.

Blackmoonsns · Answer

Charisma and confidence go a long way but with the really doing is they're talking to a woman in an emotional sensual way women associate everything life to emotions or feelings they don't think logically like men do so when a man who's not very attractive is attracting numerous women it's because he's speaking to her through his emotions and she's relating that and she processing it in a way that she finds him in a way that stands out from other men.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't get emotionally invested. But they know how to mimic it. You have to stay in the moment with women. Always keep it moving always show interest then pull away a bit. Show interest then pull away a bit. If a woman knows she can have you there is no challenge to her. By the time he f***s her she's ready for it.

mandyfire98 · Answer

It's charm. They have game. They have a level of confidence and charisma and social skills that make them hot.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Money, confidence, game, alcohol or desperation on the women’s end or a combination of any of those things. Another possibility is they cast a wide net and are fine with any fish they catch.

Lliam · Answer

It must be their personality, style, and the way they move and carry themselves. They're fun and seem safe, and aren't averse to spending some small change on drinks.

jshm2 · Answer

Because we are still more attractive, intelligent and interesting than dimwits like you, kiddo.

dustybiker · Answer

They have the right attitude. And a lot of courage.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Good personality? Charm? Confidence? Good at talking to girls?

Anonymous · Answer

They have good personalities and are fun to be with.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Listen, most men that sleep around a lot aren't having sex with top notch pretty women.  Out of 10 women they might sleep with within a year maybe 1 was pretty, 7 average and 2 ugly.

Anonymous · Answer

They are confident. That's all it takes, but guys don't believe that.

Kabluie · Answer

Emotional charm is above looks, a lot of incels don't realize this.

Rossdasa · Answer

Have you ever thought maybe their idea of attractive and interesting is not the same as you?

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Money Women would do ANYTHING for MONEY.

Rose_M_Harto · Answer

Jealousy issues much? Maybe the woman isn't "particularly attractive, intelligent and interesting", so maybe you dodged a bullet.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Maybe they cast a wide net and are fine with whichever fish they catch.

In_Trance · Answer

because they have confidence and believe in themselves

Tiger288 · Answer

Yea I saw all time I give up long time it was waste time to charm them

melanieeeB · Answer

Confidence, aura, character and respectful

Summeroflove · Answer

Carry a fishing pole everywhere you go 🎣

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Probably because success predicts future success.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Easy they have huge bulging... wallets

trina_x · Answer

Charisma = 20

Anonymous · Answer

Horny is the word to describe guys who do that.

DesiUwU · Answer

sweet talkers

Anonymous · Answer

Because some girls are just desperate

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Money.

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