Should I ghost her or try to fix my mistake?

[Anonymous]

Can’t decide if I should ghost her or send her “hey just wanna say, I don’t like how messy I made things between us” later next week

Background:
We’ve known each other and been going out for 2 months,
We have the time of our lives when we’re with each other,
She drives 2 hours to stay at my place every weekend,
She’s really busy with college because she has a hard major

Pretext:
She hasn’t been over for 2 weeks,
She ghosted me most of last week,
She waited 24 hours to respond to my invite invite and didn’t even offer to reschedule,
She ignored my phone call when I tried to “clear things up”

Ghost her

Fix things

[Dude_777]

Bro, you can't ghost her now, because she has ghosted you already. Even if you ghost her now, she will be like good riddance and get happy!.

She initially had interest in you, but not anymore. Get over it and no use asking more questions about it.

[Asker]

She didn’t ghost me

[Dude_777]

She is not even replying to your texts promptly, ignoring you, not going out with you. If that's not ghosting, then what is it?

Best of luck beating a dead horse!

[Asker]

It’s called being a STEM major and living 2 hours away

[Dragonstarterplus]

Like I said last time you really don't have anything to lose by messaging again, but you might want to try actually apologizing (even if you don't exactly mean it). I mean you've tried this offhanded "I don't like how things are" message like twice now with zero positive results, I don't know why you would expect it to go different sending it a third time

[Asker]

I’ve never actually sent that message. I’m gonna send “Hey just wanted to say, it sucks how messy that thing from earlier was. It should’ve gone way different”

[Dragonstarterplus]

You're not getting what I'm saying. You're not taking any responsibility for what happened, you're basically just saying "What happened was bad."

[tatianamay]

You were in the wrong. If you fuck things up, then you are the one who should fix it. Untangle the mess.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Fix things. You were in the wrong. She doesn’t have the time or the money to come see you all the time.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Ghosting is always a cowardish annoying way. She seems like having a very busy time and its pretty obvious having a boyfriend living 2h away while having a lot of work is very ineffective and inconvenient. I think she didn't told you yet but in her mind she already cut it and thinks it'd be too much.

[Cryptoanonne]

Ghost the bitch, if she couldnt even be bothered to reply then fuck her, move on and be happy dude

[Asker]

Wha? She was the last to reply

[poneglyphs]

If you want to stay with her than do it but don't be an ass and ghost her

[Asker]

I do wanna reach out, but I want to give it some time and wait for this to blow over. I’m thinking a couple more days

[es20490446e]

You are annoying.

Make definitive plans, and cut the bullshit.

[Hangry06]

Seems like she will be ghosting you

[Asker]

I’m prepared for that. at least I have my answer instead of wondering

[Hangry06]

You have asked this question way too much

[Asker]

…Because I like her. I she really liked me too if she drove 2 hours whenever I wanted her to

[Hangry06]

Should have been patient

[Asker]

Yeah that’s why I wanna fix things. There’s a good chance if I’m sincere and straightforward