Did she ghost me or is It a bad time for her and I should give her some space?

[Seryo_99]

A while back in December, I decided to return to my hometown to visit family and friends for Christmas. I hadn't been home for almost a year since I got a job in New Jersey, so I was excited to see old friends. I later found out from my father that my old crush, whom I liked, had gotten divorced.

Backstory: She and I knew each other because our fathers were friends, and we eventually became friends too. She was in a relationship with someone, and I didn't have romantic feelings for her until they broke up. Time passed, and I never told her how I felt because I wasn't sure or ready. Unfortunately, I took too long, and she ended up with someone else and got married.

Now: I decided to visit her to check on how she was doing after what had happened. She gave me her new number, which made me a bit happier because I thought after she got married, she would never text or call back anymore. We hung out again and went to each other's family Christmas parties. By the time I was about to fly back to New Jersey, I decided to tell her how I felt so I wouldn't regret my mistake from last time since I only return home once a year. She smiled with her eyes sparkled and replied, "I knew, but it's a bad time since I'm still in the divorce process." We hugged and said our goodbyes. Now, in my current situation, I'm not sure if there's a possibility of a potential relationship or if it's a no because I've never been in this situation before. I texted her happy New Years no response. She told me before hand she rarely replies to texts and to just call her, but when I called to check on her for the first time after my vacation, she didn't pick up or return the call. I haven't called again since because I didn't want to bug her as she works a lot and is still going through the divorce process.

What do you all think of this situation? I'm unsure if I got ghosted, am overthinking.

[Summeroflove]

If someone’s too much of a coward that they ghost you without exclamation forget them… They aren’t worth your time anyways.

The balls in her court if she wants to reach out to you it’s on her. Not responding in five minutes isn’t ghosting but not for months or days or weeks. Never mind it… You should find someone whose willing to put the same effort into you as you are into them.

Don’t play games. It’s not worth it. If she said it’s a bad time then again..:. The balls in her court if she really likes you.

[SueShe]

Your best option here is to give her the space she needs.

She has your phone number and if she does not text or call after that you did the first move, that simply means that she is not ready for a new relationship, she does not want something new or she is not interested in being in one for the time being.

Saying that she knew that you were interested in her does not mean that the interest is reciprocated.

You planted your seed by texting her and now, it is up to her to follow up on that but it could be that the seed you planted was planted in an unreceptive soil and that it does not want to germinate.

[Seryo_99]

Update she sent me a friend request on FB and we're talking again! She wants to start off as friends to see where it goes and wants to visit me. I want to say thank you for the insight and advice.

[Nikki1989]

Just because it is a trendy word to use doesn't mean ghosting is a real thing. Divorce is an emotionally and logistically demanding process. She might be overwhelmed and simply unable to keep up with social interactions.

Yes, do the right thing and give her space.

[Seryo_99]

So update she sent me a friend request on FB and now were talking through there and she plans to visit me! I'm still going to take it slow and just be friends to see where it go naturally. I want to thank you for advice and insight during the uncertain time.

[Flower7]

She doesn’t seem interested. Best to stop trying unless she reaches out to you first.

[Avicenna]

Probably ghosted

[Jay-_-]

I don't know