Well, I have always been single and wish to remain single for life. I will give my thoughts.
In my view, marriage is unnecessary and really it is not needed to lead successful life. People give too much importance to this.
However, with that being said there is nothing wrong if one decides to get married, have kids and lead a married life but then this should only be done if the person believes that marriage will give them happiness, if the person getting married believes that it will give their families/parents/relatives happiness then they can go ahead and do. The person can get married if they really believe in marriage and can trust their partner to be loyal to them.
The person should only get married for the right reasons, some reasons I mentioned above.
However, in my view most people just married for the sake of it and for all the wrong reasons. They get married under pressure from family, parents, society and they lack the courage to say NO to marriage ( At least in some countries/cultures). Many people also get married just because they don't want to be alone and just want to be with someone and marriage is one way of ensuring that they get a partner. Many people get married because of peer and pressure from friends and they care more about what people will say or think rather than upholding their self respect and ignoring such people. They get married because they are not selfish enough to care about themselves but care about other people thinking and views about them.
Marriage is based on superstitions. Unless you go with common law marriage, you're basically allowing some invisible man that lives in the sky rule over your marriage. Before we ever invented religion, people had sex and babies anytime they wanted and needed no such "ceremonies" to be able to copulate or cohabitate so, really, why do we need this, now? Does a ceremony where a certain person speaks a certain set of words over you (basically, an incantation) actually physically change either of you in some way? What if we never invented religion in the first place and didn't base our lives around it and you saw some hot piece you wanted to play "hide the salami" with and you both decided you wanted to spend your lives together and have kids? Why the hell shouldn't you? They're YOUR lives, and it's up to YOU to decide what to do with them. Animals don't need religion or marriage to have kids, we're animals so, just because we're the smartest monkeys, why does that mean we need that, too? By the time we're giving up on Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny we should also be old enough to know that the holy all-mighty stomper doesn't exist, either. Besides, these days, how often does ANYONE follow their wedding vows? Especially the last one: `til death do us part?
I am not married nor have I ever been. What I can say is, being an Eastern European Jew we take marriage EXTREMELY serious. When my parents divorced my mother never remarried. Marriage is suppose to be forever. With that said, my last relationship was 19 years and while he asked to marry me several times saying yes never felt right. I didn't want any question whatsoever if we will remain together. I think the western way is different and marriage is used for a number of different things not just for love and creating a structured family unit.
There are no guarantees in any relationship, even if you are married. And since we are not responsible for other people's behavior, it could all go wrong if one or both decide to backstab their spouse and gets caught. Personally after a few years of marriage, one of you may decide you don't want to be married anymore and pack up and leave. One important thing to remember is that a divorce is VERY expensive! I am for marriage because I don't believe in fornication. That's what they say "I'm going to make an honest woman out of her."
I was married for 23 years, and I have been single for 6 years. I know about marriage.
Marriage is not something which is justified by logical or rational arguments, because it is an emotional response to an emotional relationship. If you have never been in love and WANTED to be committed to your partner, then you will not understand. If you must ask "is marriage necessary," then you cannot understand. . . but your lack of understanding does not mean that marriage is a bad decision for those who enter it. Perhaps it is simply not the right time for you.
A legal marriage license isn't necessary, other than for tax and some other legal benefits. In a way, I think the government should go fuck itself and stay out of it.
But I do think marriage should be considered to be a lifetime commitment, a solemn vow, a pledge of honor. It's one of the most important decisions we will ever make and should not be taken lightly. At least that's how I always felt about it. And, actually, the legal aspect give it more weight. It means that you have decided to go all in.
I had many relationships with girlfriends, but never had ANY interest in marriage. I only began thinking about finding a life partner and settle down when I was in my mid-30s. Up 'til then, I as too interested in enjoying life and gaining experience. I didn't want to be tied down.
After beginning my search for the right woman, I found her when I was 40 and we got married two years later. Even then, the decision to enter into a lifetime commit was very difficult. She felt the same weight. But we took the plunge and have been happily married now for 25 years.
Marriage as a 'modern' arrangement had been perverted by the homo's. It contains not longer the meanings and implications of those who ''invented'' it.
Perhaps, in some 200 years from now the term ''marriage'' will mean that you plug up each other's arses. Similar to ''gay'' -now- not longer meaning ''joyful''.
I had been married once; I now live in a permanent relationship without paperwork. It makes no difference to me where it comes to ''obligations and rights''. It makes me feel 'good': the demon of a possible divorce isn't hovering over me, and the somewhat ''pending'' legal status makes me (us) more aware of maintaining our relationship. Marriage - in a way - never had been ''necessary''. But it was a useful addition to life... once.
I've been married for almost four months now, and things are going well. It was a bit of a necessary step for some goals I have, and also a personal goal overall - I'm in luck because it's both an happy ''dynastic arrangment'' between two wealthy families and also true love, since my wife and I have known each other since she was my tutor in school.
I don't regard marriage as a religious thing and it need not be. Now you can get married in many places. To my mind it principally provides a framework for two people to declare themselves as one entity in society, and in law and government. So then. Do we need marriage? No. But it remains best practice in declaring unequivocally to all parties that this person you are with is important above all others, and that all each of you have is now common ownership.
Legal marriage will get you a better deal on taxes and nothing else, especially if you're a guy, in which case marriage has a lot of negatives. Religious nonsense doesn't interest me anyway. I can't fathom how morons still believe and act as if a glorified piece of paper is gonna magically change their lives for the better.
No, it is still a useful arrangement. Besides the legal aspects of it there is a bond that is difficult to dissolve and that gives many people pause to reconsider breaking up.
Is it necessary? Not everyone has to get married, if that's what you are asking. When they do, God wants it to be one man and one woman. THEN they can have kids.
