She ghosted me because I didn’t care enough. Was this a decent last message?

Question

We were going out for 2 months and she did 80% of the effort. Eventually she got sick of it and decided to play games. I called her out on the games which lead to an argument that I later half assed apologized for. She’s ghosted me for 2 weeks, so I sent this

She ghosted me because I didn’t care enough. Was this a decent last message?

Good enough

It sucked

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1 mo

Is it at least mature and respectable?

Answer 1

sabotage22

Xper 2

Well, you call it 'playing games'. Meybe she simply lost interest and you with your minimal effort did not even deserve a text in her mind. Then you acused her of playing games and afterwards 'half apologized'. I mean, WTF?

As for the apology, I think it is good enough, but it will not change anything. If you were going out for 2 months and met online without having known each other before with no common friends, she will quickly move on and forget about you.

You should learn to appreciate the things others do for you and not start acting like little child when they start treating you the same way you treat them.

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Asker

1 mo
We met at a bonfire while watching fireworks on the 4th of July and have a common friend

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Asker

We met at a bonfire while watching fireworks on the 4th of July and have a common friend

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ShadezMcgee | 588 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

First off this doesn't show the whole context of the situation. Secondly, why are you wasting your time trying to explain yourself to a woman who ended it because of your behavior?

Learn from what happened and stop wasting your time. She will not waste her time on you any more if she has any self respect, because as of now you are coming off as a needy jackass.

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1 mo
How is it needy to apologize for what I did? I’m not even asking for her back lol
ShadezMcgee

1 mo
Because you are still reaching out to her and she is still ignoring you. Why are you wasting any of your time on her now? No amount of apologies will undo what happened and it will not make her see you any differently.
Asker

1 mo
I only reached out to clear my conscience because I really fucked her over.

She drove 2hrs to see me whenever I wanted and I never even asked if she got home safe once. Or called her, sent good morning texts, held her hand, etc…
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1 mo
Although I paid for all 4 dates
ShadezMcgee

1 mo
Well, sounds like you have your answer and you know what you did wrong. Frankly, you framed yourself as a real piece of shit
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1 mo
It’s because she goes to college 2 hours away, but I met her in summer break. It made me keep my walls up the whole time.

Answer 4

Asker

How is it needy to apologize for what I did? I’m not even asking for her back lol

Answer 5

ShadezMcgee

Because you are still reaching out to her and she is still ignoring you. Why are you wasting any of your time on her now? No amount of apologies will undo what happened and it will not make her see you any differently.

Answer 6

Asker

I only reached out to clear my conscience because I really fucked her over.

She drove 2hrs to see me whenever I wanted and I never even asked if she got home safe once. Or called her, sent good morning texts, held her hand, etc…

Answer 7

Asker

Although I paid for all 4 dates

Answer 8

ShadezMcgee

Well, sounds like you have your answer and you know what you did wrong. Frankly, you framed yourself as a real piece of shit

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Asker

It’s because she goes to college 2 hours away, but I met her in summer break. It made me keep my walls up the whole time.

Answer 10

ttchennnnnn

Xper 1

i didn’t vote either cause if you totally dragged her through the dirt and was completely horrible to her than, no. but if y’all simply had a falling out over something not too bad i think sure.

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1 mo
She started ghosted me left and right, waiting 24 hours to respond to my invite just to say she’ll be busy, never initiating, so I said “we’re not doing this. Just be straight up with me”
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1 mo
However she would drive 2 hrs to see me every weekend and I’ve never even called her, offered to drive to her, sent goodmorning texts or asked if she got home safe. It kinda looked like I was playing her
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1 mo
But I paid for all 4 dates
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ttchennnnnn

1 mo
then i think you did fine.

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Asker

She started ghosted me left and right, waiting 24 hours to respond to my invite just to say she’ll be busy, never initiating, so I said “we’re not doing this. Just be straight up with me”

Answer 12

Asker

However she would drive 2 hrs to see me every weekend and I’ve never even called her, offered to drive to her, sent goodmorning texts or asked if she got home safe. It kinda looked like I was playing her

Answer 13

Asker

But I paid for all 4 dates

Answer 14

ttchennnnnn

then i think you did fine.

Answer 15

Hangry06 | 477 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

You seem salty about her in the question. Do you miss her kitty that much?

Let her go

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Answer 16

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes

Xper 5

Yeah, they regularly do. Unless you can figure out your own end game, don't bother getting involved, they'll always feel hurt (the whiny/insecure ones we fall for/try to protect playing white knights)

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worldscolide | 2.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Someone chooses to ghost on you, you do not owe them an apology.. They took the cowards way out.

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1 mo
I apologized because she would drive 2 hrs to see me every weekend and I did basically nothing for her

Answer 18

Asker

I apologized because she would drive 2 hrs to see me every weekend and I did basically nothing for her

Answer 19

m33lad

Xper 5

I wouldn’t even sent that text. You lowered yourself.

I would’ve been out and approach other hotter girls

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1 mo
I sent it because I actually did treat her like shit. She drove 2 hrs to see me whenever I wanted her to and I did nothing for her. Not even a “did you get home safe?” text
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1 mo
And if you look at the context of the text, you could tell that I had the upper hand in the relationship
m33lad

1 mo
You didn’t treated like a smooth crap. Or else she would never let you go. But your hot and cold is too aggressive.
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Asker

1 mo
What did you even just say? Lmao
m33lad

1 mo
Wow! With your level of common sense no one there why you got that loser.
Asker

1 mo
You don’t know how to speak dude
m33lad

1 mo
Yah I’m sure I’m the issue. I get paid the big bucks to speak. All the sudden a child that can’t understand a sentence has picked up a P##sy of a boyF. I’m the one at fault.

Answer 20

Asker

I sent it because I actually did treat her like shit. She drove 2 hrs to see me whenever I wanted her to and I did nothing for her. Not even a “did you get home safe?” text

Answer 21

Asker

And if you look at the context of the text, you could tell that I had the upper hand in the relationship

Answer 22

m33lad

You didn’t treated like a smooth crap. Or else she would never let you go. But your hot and cold is too aggressive.

Answer 23

Asker

What did you even just say? Lmao

Answer 24

m33lad

Wow! With your level of common sense no one there why you got that loser.

Answer 25

Asker

You don’t know how to speak dude

Answer 26

m33lad

Yah I’m sure I’m the issue. I get paid the big bucks to speak. All the sudden a child that can’t understand a sentence has picked up a P##sy of a boyF. I’m the one at fault.

Answer 27

Anonymous

I don't know how many times I have read this written in so many ways by you.

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Answer 28

Anonymous

It will be discarded because she is over you.

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postaldudePL123 | 276 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Now download tinder my friend

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MCheetah | 1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

It's a good apology.

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Answer 31

malwins

Xper 6

So u know what u did

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She ghosted me because I didn’t care enough. Was this a decent last message?

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