I'm afraid it is. I could never tell when a guy just wanted to get his rocks off, or if we would ever see each other again. I waited seven months of this guy pursuing me and acting like he really liked me. Finally after saying no to him for seven months, I decided I wanted to get closer to him, so we wound up in bed. He spent the night. Everything seemed cool. I never heard from him again! Some guys like the chase and once they get what they were hunting for, he is gone! Out of the picture. And of course you think you did something wrong. Nope, you did nothing wrong. They get turned on by the chase, not the sex. We just never know what kind of shit they will do to hurt us.
dont look at it as competition but rather a symbiotic relationship. both are bringing something different and unique to the table. We need each other and we have our own needs as well. Men get used by women too. I've been used for sex before. Not going to discuss the context here. When a guy takes you out on a date, he's paying for everything. So are you using him for a foodie call? No not really. I mean some despicable females do that but Ladies do not. The vast majority of people would like a serious relationship where both of you love and grow with each other. You take what he has, he takes what you have, it's normal. We shouldn't be competing but cooperating as we have always done in the past.
Women use men for things too, maybe not sex but I've been used.
Also is it still considered used if your okay with it?
As for me, I can tell you in high school I heard seniors talking about how they wanted to take virginity away from some younger girls and then move onto others. Use them and lose them they called it, football jocks and stuff.
I even TOLD the girls what was said, and most of them were like, ohh he's so cute he likes me?
Then a month or so later, come back crying saying I was right they should of listened to me. They only wanted sex and nothing more.
No good lord NO... I maintain that people will treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. There is nothing inherently malevolent about men (aside from them desperately wanting to stick their penis in everything) -- So, no, getting "used" by men is not inevitable.
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u Being treated unfairly by a partner is not an experience that is unique to females.
Think your odds of being used decrease a lot the more you have respect for yourself. Letting a dude use your body without any conditions at all... and then claiming that he used you is WRONG. You gave him free rides. So the more self-control you have, the easier it will be for you to find the kind of guy you want.
Some tips: #1: Don't have sex with someone when they haven't had lots and lots of time to figure out that you are actually what they want. This basically rules out casual sex. #2 Have way more to offer than sex. If all you have is sex, you can't expect anybody to be loyal for the same reason the person who owns a McDonalds can't expect customers not to go to the McDonalds down the road. So you gotta have value. No having a vagina doesn't count. #3 Don't mess with married dudes or guys with girlfriends.
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Really , quite honestly if you haven't been " used " at some point you simply haven't had enough fun , use goes both ways , I've used dozens of women thoughout my life , but also Visa versa just as often , its called having fun..
Men , will do whatever is required to have sex with many different women , if this means telling a few porkies or the like , it doesn't matter.
Does a sugar baby use a sugar daddy? Or is it the other way around...
All of life , is about using people , not just women , you get it in business , everywhere , and to not enjoy same in your 20 s? Man thats just crazy..
Its the entire point of sexual power and motive.
Yeah, you should just stay away from men. The men you are interested in have like 50 other women interested in them too, they don't need you but they will use you if you let them. You should be strong and intendent.
If you want sex, it will take you 2 seconds to find yourself a hook-up. So do that and be done and live your life how you want and give up on locking down a man. The men you want have options and unless you are spectacular beyond measure, you will just be another vagina to them. And no, they will not change.
To start with.
It's more common to be used by female's than males and there are more females that use males than males using female's.
Female's aren't that inorsent.
Screaming victim in this scenario only question the one screaming.
If you weren't raped you liked it when it happened and was okay with it. you had to much expectations.
Also it can be flipped that you used him for getting something else like a relationship, marriage, getting children, don't be alone, to have someone, sex.
It could be that it didn't work out since you wasn't what he was after and ended it before it got any further.
There aren't any guarantee with dating or hoockups. sometimes does it turn into something great. most of the times doesn't it. and sex isn't a holy cow. it's just sex and a way to see if it is the right person.
You realize this is a two way street. Many women will feign interest in men just to take advantage of them for free meals, attention, favors, free counseling or to make the guy they really like jealous.
When this bs goes on conceited ass feminists will say bs like “oh you put yourself in the friendzone” or other crap. As if it’s always on the man to not get taken advantage of.
So if it’s a dog eat dog world, then do both genders have to live in constant paranoia of each other? I truly believe that most women are clueless about much effort and courage it takes an average guy to start dating a woman. Many of us went out on a limb at certain times in our life just be treated like shit later.
I would be more open to listening to women’s qualms if they just put a fraction of the effort to understanding the POV on the man’s side. Too many women assume dating is the same for guys as it is for them (when all else is equal) It sure as hell isn’t.
Yes. Sorry but it is. There are billions of people in the world and some will wamt to use you. Some for sex, money, advice, and for all kinds of reasons. Many of them will be gits so yes it is inevitable. The way I deal with it is i just decided to like it. It takes a lot of the stress away when it happens.
Yeah I would say everyone gets used at least once.
i know have done it in the past.
as a teen, early 20’s you say anything to get in a girls pants.
Nothing worse than going out with 4 mates and you being the only one not to pull on a Friday night.
Equally I’ve been used as well, which the first time I was shocked at, after that it was sex is sex.
How can someone use you for sex? Sex is a mutually pleasurable act isn't it? And as long as both of you are fully consenting, no one can be abused. Or you want to treat this as a value loaded exercise and believe that sex should lead to commitment by the man.
I think it's possible but I also people need to be upfront with each about what the expectations are. As much as we'd all like to live in the fantasy world inside are heads the cold hard truth is many people have different expecations for what a relationship should be.
I would say the same about women, because I've been used by women for sex and other things multiple times. It's a part of life. It hurts. It sucks. But it is what it is. When it happens to you, you just have to learn from it and move foward with your experiences, and try to keep it from happening again.
Getting used is inevitable for those that allow it. The same way a lot of women use men for their money, if they allow it the they will get used. Also note that sometimes not everyone is out there trying to use you, if you go around thinking people only want to use you, you could make yourself so paranoid that you won't even trust people, but its good to be aware and know the signs when someone wants to use you.
Well if you're not doing something with a man that you don't want to do, then it's impossible for a man to use you. The feeling of being used is self inflicted and is a reaction to the realization that you only did something with a guy because you were hoping for something from him that you didn't ever up getting, not because you wanted to do that thing.
It's always ready to push accountability away but really girls can decide if they wanna be used or not.
Well I think you do have control over it for the most part but when you're growing up and don't have any experience it can be hard to know how to deal with it so I'd say going through growing pains is inevitable. But long term it's up to you how you let yourself be treated.
I think that it is a good idea to get to know them first and make him wait as much as possible. if all he wants is sex he will go away soon. to wait until marriage it is even better. sex before marriage feeds your body, sex after marriage nourishes your soul
I have been asking myself the same question about women.
The answer is "no". You simply need to get to know your prospect well enough before doing anything sexual or romantic with them. Maybe lightheaded flirting, but nothing else. Not even kissing.
More than likely yea, even tho it's frowned upon why do you think men would care? so many ways to get sex now that honestly other than for emotional support and kids, what do you think men would want women for? ( not saying this is what i do but just in general).
I dont think so. Some women go through life only being with good men, despite some not working out. For myself, though, i tend to assume the worst so I've always believed the same thing you’re questioning. Ironically I've always only been with good guys but the paranoid person that i am, i still get scared of ending up being used that i pull myself away.
If you don't want to be taken advantage by men then don't spread your legs like a flower to sunlight. If any man takes advantage of you it's on your, not them.
Women use men just as much. I've never had a good relationship because I'm always the other guy. I do the right thing. Women are just as bad. Find a guy you think is way beneath you pathetic and you flirt and use him for $ and then you go back to your actual guy.
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