I always thought the idea of a Chad was that women knew they were womalizers or players but from what your saying it sounds like maybe some Chads are more deceptive and can fool foolish women?
@whirled_up_girl Chads are 10/10 men so desirable, they don't have to "hide" their true intentions with women, because women will still stupidly choose them over the decent men who are under six feet tall or don't have gym abs, anyway. Women may or may not know about them being womanizers, and many Chads aren't (it's not a given all Chads are Ladies Men). It's just that, women would rather choose a guy who common sense will tell her is bad news (often, on some dumb-ass subconscious expectation that she "can tame him"), rather than a decent quality man who happens to be 5'10" with a dad bod and a 5/10 in looks.
If the woman is very open minded person and keeps trying to go after guys or is willing to give men a chance then yes chances of women getting used are high.
It happens. Just as men will be used by women. Typically it's best to keep users at arm's length, but often people make it work if they are both getting what they want.
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No here is how it works... girl is idealistic and only wants 1 partner for life... gets insecure she's still a virgin... doesn't like the nice guys that are "good for her long term"... so she tries to get with the attractive stoic guy on campus... just to be used... because she isn't special herself and the attractive guy doesn't need her for a relationship.
If its easy for you to wait, it means you have no sexual desire for this person. So it can be a double edged sword where yo run off potentially good people by waiting to long.
@cjmtherfcker if he really likes her i would hope he would want to wait until she’s ready. plus who says women have no sexual desire. they’re human too they just don’t think with those parts.
MY point is if this women has a burning sexual desire for this man. It will be extremely difficult for her to wait for an extended period of time. If it is easy for a woman to avoid/delay sex with a man, is because she has very little sexual desire for him. Which is fine.. But she should move on to someone she actually likes to be fair to both of you
Plenty if men say wait till marriage if you don't want to be used, but at the same time plenty will say no man is going to wait very long for a woman (because sex is the most importsnt thing i guess) there's really no winning.
I don't really think so. You can choose who you go with. You can find a guy who needs sex and he can help you equally with sex. If you want to take a break from dating, you can. It's up to you.
No. A man can only use you if you give them the ability too. That also means no respect existed from the beginning. Don't be afraid to stand on being respected even if it costs for one man to leave.
Until girls can understand the male psyche they will choose men who will use them. Also a "bad boy" will never be a "good boyfriend". Even if he's exciting he will use you, that's who he is.
@St37xy11 his job tell me nothing. Does he want sex? Yes. Will he leave after sex? No idea. If I knew the personality traits that attracted her I could maybe help, but unless I actually know a guy personally I won't have all the answers. We're not complicated, girls just don't realize how simple we are.
Ok then what are red flag questions a girl should ask in order to find out if he's a douche or not? I know some like if he has any long term goals. If he doesn't have any long term goals then that means he doesn't plan on having the girl stick around for the long run. You could agree or disagree with that.
Yea that's why I'll say the problem is partly due to women's way of thinking/decision making too! It's not that all/most of men are bad or abusers.. it's just lots of women attract/get attracted to those types of men.
Though that's not true. I've never had sex and I've had guys really go out of their way to play mind games to get me to sleep with them. It didn't work out for them and instead a huge fight happened. This happened to me a few times with different guys. Even though they didn't get anything from me I still feel used by them emotionally.
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No. The problem is, foolish women choose bad men, and then get surprised when a Chad treats them the way they treat them.
I always thought the idea of a Chad was that women knew they were womalizers or players but from what your saying it sounds like maybe some Chads are more deceptive and can fool foolish women?
@whirled_up_girl
Chads are 10/10 men so desirable, they don't have to "hide" their true intentions with women, because women will still stupidly choose them over the decent men who are under six feet tall or don't have gym abs, anyway. Women may or may not know about them being womanizers, and many Chads aren't (it's not a given all Chads are Ladies Men). It's just that, women would rather choose a guy who common sense will tell her is bad news (often, on some dumb-ass subconscious expectation that she "can tame him"), rather than a decent quality man who happens to be 5'10" with a dad bod and a 5/10 in looks.
I think most “modern women” have been used by men at some point. Calling women sluts while you trick girls into bed is soo hypocritical and sexist
If the woman is very open minded person and keeps trying to go after guys or is willing to give men a chance then yes chances of women getting used are high.
Everyone uses each other, it's how people survive and find meaning in their meaningless and empty lives.
Mine is not meningöess
You gave your life meaning then; but initially, lives are meaningless until humans applied meaning to them.
It happens. Just as men will be used by women. Typically it's best to keep users at arm's length, but often people make it work if they are both getting what they want.
No here is how it works... girl is idealistic and only wants 1 partner for life... gets insecure she's still a virgin... doesn't like the nice guys that are "good for her long term"... so she tries to get with the attractive stoic guy on campus... just to be used... because she isn't special herself and the attractive guy doesn't need her for a relationship.
The looser a girl is sexually the more it happens.
A girl who just sleeps with her husband probably won't experience this.
Everyone gets used… Men use women, women use men… you just have to accept them fact that you’re going to be used.. no matter in what way it is. Lol
But I guess it also depends on what you mean by “use”
pretty much just like another girl said, wait him out. like a while. if he’s still as into you as the beginning he just might be the real deal.
If its easy for you to wait, it means you have no sexual desire for this person. So it can be a double edged sword where yo run off potentially good people by waiting to long.
@cjmtherfcker if he really likes her i would hope he would want to wait until she’s ready. plus who says women have no sexual desire. they’re human too they just don’t think with those parts.
MY point is if this women has a burning sexual desire for this man. It will be extremely difficult for her to wait for an extended period of time.
If it is easy for a woman to avoid/delay sex with a man, is because she has very little sexual desire for him. Which is fine.. But she should move on to someone she actually likes to be fair to both of you
Plenty if men say wait till marriage if you don't want to be used, but at the same time plenty will say no man is going to wait very long for a woman (because sex is the most importsnt thing i guess) there's really no winning.
@tiajoka Just don't jerk him around. We can wait for sex as long as you give us romance in the meantime (and let us romance you as well.)
It's absolutely avoidable. You should just reject to be used by men.
Unfortunately, this happens with both genders. You have to take care of yourself and stop bad behaviors.
I'd say generally speaking yes.. but to what extent that's up to you
you know you will get used by women you thought were friends too... it takes a long time in this life to learnt to recognise whats genuine
I don't really think so. You can choose who you go with. You can find a guy who needs sex and he can help you equally with sex. If you want to take a break from dating, you can. It's up to you.
Unless you're particularly good at reading people, and even if you are, it's pretty likely you'll end up in that kind of situation.
No. A man can only use you if you give them the ability too. That also means no respect existed from the beginning. Don't be afraid to stand on being respected even if it costs for one man to leave.
Until girls can understand the male psyche they will choose men who will use them. Also a "bad boy" will never be a "good boyfriend". Even if he's exciting he will use you, that's who he is.
My friend started talking to this guy who's a mechanic, is that guy a douche? Should I warn her?
@St37xy11 his job tell me nothing. Does he want sex? Yes. Will he leave after sex? No idea. If I knew the personality traits that attracted her I could maybe help, but unless I actually know a guy personally I won't have all the answers. We're not complicated, girls just don't realize how simple we are.
@St37xy11 so the guy is potentially a problem JUST because he’s a mechanic?
@globetrotter22 yeah like he's a deadbeat, no offense of course
@St37xy11 not necessarily unless he's at the top of his field and has no intention of moving up or onward.
Ok then what are red flag questions a girl should ask in order to find out if he's a douche or not? I know some like if he has any long term goals. If he doesn't have any long term goals then that means he doesn't plan on having the girl stick around for the long run. You could agree or disagree with that.
@St37xy11 Probably. My girlfriend and I said by our second date that we saw marriage at some point in our future.
Well so what made her special to be more than pump and dump?
I like her. We waited until we had a strong relationship before sex.
We all are using someone for something.
We all are selfish.
But try not to fall for f*ck boys.
Getting used happens to men and women. If it's a recurring issue chances are you're making poor choices in who you trust.
Yea that's why I'll say the problem is partly due to women's way of thinking/decision making too!
It's not that all/most of men are bad or abusers.. it's just lots of women attract/get attracted to those types of men.
It is not. But it's a lot more likely to happen if you have sex before marriage.
Though that's not true. I've never had sex and I've had guys really go out of their way to play mind games to get me to sleep with them. It didn't work out for them and instead a huge fight happened. This happened to me a few times with different guys. Even though they didn't get anything from me I still feel used by them emotionally.
@St37xy11 I'm sorry those guys treated you that way. That wasn't right.
Thank you for the kindness
@St37xy11 You are welcome. 💙