What did you do for the first time to get your crush’s attention?

[roy_ricky09]

[ludorock]

I guess it depends what stage you're talking about.

He approached me first, at a college transfer orientation we were both at. I had on this rainbow bag I'd knit, I was reading a comic book, had a cool undercut and I guess he just thought I looked like someone he wanted to know so he came and sat with me. I would say just being yourself, but I get that myself is a pretty big statement. Colorful hair, colorful clothes, I'm loud, I'm always smiling and laughing, I'm fairly comfortable in crowds. It can feel overwhelming to hear "be yourself" if you're shy or have social anxiety.

We didn't start dating then, though, we were just friends, talking online. And I think that's why it worked. I wasn't trying to win him over, because I had a boyfriend at the time, we were just genuinely getting to know each other and excited to have a connection at our new school.

When my ex and I did break up and I realized I had a crush on this other guy I just said so. I literally said, "Hey I really like you, but it feels like you don't like me like that, but if you do I'd like to go on a date." It was easier to do because AIM (yes I'm that old), I didn't have to be face to face or even voice to voice. He said yes and that was that.

Generally I think being true to yourself, being genuinely curious about someone else, wanting to be friends with someone, and then being honest about how you feel is how you stand out, and how you attract someone. The worst that happens is they say no, you process the hurt, you process the embarrassment and you realize that's just life sometimes and keep moving forward. Five years later you genuinely won't remember, and if you do it'll be a funny story because you'll have matured and realized what the hell was I so embarrassed by? I was so young and foolish.

[AmandaYVR]

Sent handmade Valentine's and candygrams at school. I remember we all taped envelopes to our desks and the other kids put Valentine's in there.
Then in high school, you could buy a bag of candies and have them secretly, or not secretly, sent to someone in the school. I just remembered this for the first time in thirty years. It was pretty cute. I don't remember who sent what, but I did send, and did receive.

[Anonymous]

Its kinda cringe now that i think about it but i made a fake acc on MySpace pretended to be my friend she knew i walked with home from school after middle school who didn't have a MySpace & msged her. She said she knew who we were & i told her me in third person had a huge crush on her & asked if she liked me, she said she did but had a boyfriend but once they broke up, she'd maybe go out with me. I added her on my real account & waited months for her to be available then her friends forced me to ask her out. So i did face to face and she said YESS!! & we dated.

She then dumped me 2 months later, cause i didn't really hang out with her & most of our realtionship was mostly talking on the phone. In 8th grade she wanted me back but i ruined that being mean to her & in high-school she wanted me to take her v-card but i had a lame girlfriend who was horrible to me, if i could go back i would have cheated for her. Lol today she's with some dude and had a kid.

[es20490446e]

In Hollywood movies you will see that something special needs to happen for two people to talk.

It's just a myth, you can talk with anybody anytime. And most people will actually like it.

And if they don't you simply move on. Note here that giving some resistance doesn't mean they aren't interested, most of the time it's just a matter of acknowledging it and give options.

For example once I sat with a group of girls, and after a while one said to me "sorry, but our friends will be coming in 20 minutes, and we don't have space here for so many people".

The right answer had been: "don't worry, I will be leaving in about five minutes".

[dustybiker]

I know you’re not asking for actual firsts, and this wasn’t exactly my doing, by choice, but to heck with it, I’m a rule bender today.
It was 2/3rd grade, can’t remember which, as we both had the same classroom, and teacher those two years.
I dropped my books, which was by accident, trying to shove them all in my bag at the same time when the bell went off. He was the only one who helped me pick them up too. I knew I had good taste then. 😁
Casey. He had a farm and horses. He brought ducklings in for show and tell, was kind and gentle with them.
The only other male my age I knew who had horse experience too, and he was cute. Otherwise I tend to be eccentric anyway, and attract people in some unique way. I hate ordinary and mundane.

[Cherry234]

I've had many crushes. Some of them I couldn't act on for various reasons. I didn't do much with some of them. I sometimes just approached and started talking to the guys I was interested in. I showed them I was interested in them in ways like hugging them. Maybe one or two I tried asking out

[ChrisMaster69]

Crush?

That stuff stops at school.

Adults have people they are interested in, fancy etc, not crush lol.

[AviatorTom]

It was an online dating site. I sent her a text message saying that her picture shows an attractive woman with pretty eyes.

[menina]

I wrote a letter to tell how I felt about him and that I wanted to get to know him better.

[snowgirl123]

nothing someone showed me to him and the other way around and we agreed to meet

[NathanDavis]

I remained in silence for days, or maybe weeks... till she finally spoke to me... lmfao

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Noth8ng at all. I am hard to not notice/everyone notices me.

[LegendaryIcon]

I currently don't have a crush so I can't really answer this

[LimboOfTheDink]

Wrote him a note. Got friendzoned. 💔💀

[DizzyDesii]

Lol ask him 🤣 i be doing the most hahah

[Subarugirl]

asked to play 4 square with him in 1st grade

[NoOneEver]

I wrote them a poem

[Blackcupcake]

I spoke to him