Am I an incel and is there any shame to it?

[Anonymous]

I’d really love to have a girlfriend, but at the same time I kinda don’t want one. I have very high standards. I haven’t ever had a girlfriend or kissed but I make no attempts to make moves on women.

It feels like too much effort and it will take a while to find compatibility. I think it would be too emotionally draining to pursue women.

Other then that I’m good looking, focused on my career. I know I have a lot going for me.

You’re not an incel

Yes you are

[t-8900]

can you get laid? YES
so the answer is NO you are not an incel. You weighing your options shows you have a level of class. Dont compromise it because of societal perceptions. You're not in the right frame of mind right now for one. It's best if you dont do serious dating, be honest and up front with girls, and if you decide its not for you then just keep focusing on your happiness and self improvement. When I was your age I wanted a relationship but ironically not sex. but i also wanted to do other things too. So when the girls started cheating on me I just broke it off and went out partying with the guys and getting hammered, playing poker tournaments, hitting the beaches, just living my life with the bros.

[Browneye57]

You're a dud man, and you have zero game. You have to be a REAL MAN to get the ladies. And yes, it's worth it, otherwise no pussy for you.
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[Cherry234]

That doesn't make you an incel. Incels are people who spread around toxicity and negativity. You don't sound like that. You say you have high standards so some people may think you're picky. But it's okay to be picky. You have the right to choose whoever you want in your life. I understand you liking the idea of having a girlfriend but not wanting one at the same time. I feel the same way. I want a boyfriend but at the same time I don't prioritize it

[silvermoon84]

No. Incels are angry men who are angry that they can’t laid. You’re just focusing on yourself and doing your own thing until you meet someone you like, which is great! I respect that

[Anonymous]

People are obsessed with labelling themselves and others these days. Don't label yourself, just be a human being. If you meet the right woman, great. If not, it's nobody's business.

[Anonymous]

i wonder if it is possible for a woman to be an incel

[disgustingweebtrash]

What are you maxxing?