So when I was in high school, I was often bullied for my appearance. And this somewhat made sense. At the time I was indeed overweight. I concluded that the only way to attract girls was to get in shape. I started working really hard and lost a lot of weight to the point where some woman even commented I was a bit too skinny. Nevertheless, some people even complimented on how I look good. I’m 6’3, so I’m pretty tall. However, I was expecting to be much more successful with woman after I lost weight, but this wasn’t the case. My friends, parents, therapists said it was great that I lost weight but the reason that I am not getting woman is not because of my appearance but because of my very negative mindset. As of 2 years ago I became entrenched in incel forums and the blackpill theory of how all that matters for relationships Is looks. I kept thinking how woman only want “chads” guys with six pack and and chiseled jawlines. And that average looking guys are doomed because of how feminism has allowed woman to pick the best guys to sleep with. My therapists say this is not the case. Indeed, when I go outside in the real world I frequently see average or below average guys often in relationships, sometimes even with very good looking woman. This goes against my incel mindset. However, whenever I see even the slightest indication that the theories of incels are true I go back to thinking like that. People are saying that my toxic mindset is preventing me from getting woman and having interactions. How can I work on eradicating this mindset?
How can I stop being an incel?
