Will I ever find a girl who Loves me?

[Anonymous]

I have extreme Body Dysmorphia and I really hate the way I look. I had a relatively good childhood, but I had some traumatic experiences that caused me mental issues. It also didn't help that I discovered the Blackpill and Incel forums and it made me spiral into a downward negative loop, eventually I stopped going there. I'm relatively tall for my age (5'10), and go to the gym 6 days a week, but I still feel terrible. I do Self-Improvement and I don't do any bad habits, I'm very organized, have good hygiene, have a lot of hobbies, optimistic, Introverted, and have been told by others that I'm a good friend and have an amazing personality. I don't understand, is there something fundamentally wrong with me? I know I'm young, but I can't put aside my feelings of doubt and self-hatred. Whenever I look at myself, I can't imagine a girl being able to love me, I really want to try and change my face, height, and body in order to be loved, I want to be flawless so people would love me, so I started looking into different surgeries to try and fix my flaws. And I myself don't have super high standards either, I just want a religious and traditional girl with a similar personality to me, maybe a height of around 5'3-5'9 is fine to me, and above average to slightly above average looks. I don't think I'm asking for much. I feel very doubtful and pessimistic about dating and love, it seems like everyone else is in a relationship and has no trouble dating, even the average/slightly ugly guys have somewhat of a success. What should I do in my situation?

[menina]

I know how you feel. There was a time I wanted to change my entire body with surgeries. Eventually I realized that I was going through the wrong path. So, I started looking for ways of improving my self-esteem and well-being. Now I feel much better and I know I'll find love.

You need to accept yourself with your flaws and all. You'll never be perfect, nobody is. So don't worry about it. I'm sure there's a girl who will like you for who you are. Besides, you're 18, you're young. You got plenty of time to fall in love. Just be you and your dream girl will come to your life.

[BadApple69]

Wow I can see what your problem is right away!!
It's not your looks, your height, it's not your physical flaws.
First off you need to get off the internet. Because if you look on the internet to find your problem you will find thousands of them. None of which you actually suffer from.
Next thing... You are 18 hardly at the end of your life... You are barely at the beginning of it. You have time. Be patient.
Next you need to have more confidence in your abilities with the ladies. Believe in yourself and stop listening to crap online. Everyone has something that will attract the opposite sex. It might not be looks, but personality or intelligence. We as people have so much to offer and our physical looks matter the least.

[bededazzle]

just keep treating yourself well and working on yourself. we don’t know the future. i don’t personally think we can “fix” ourselves, but we can try. you will never heal yourself through someone else, though it is nice to have a partner :). today, just be kind to yourself

[bededazzle]

also, are you in or have you considered therapy? in my experience, it isn’t a magic bullet, but it could help

[Daffotul]

You shouldn't, nor can you change your height and self for others. You are what you are and you need to love it. You have to learn to love it it's not easy. I had self hatred most of my life too. It is Day-by-day and you just keep trying. There's nothing else to do Jesus or God Whatever you wanna call him loves you that's all that matters. You are unique you have a purpose own your past but don't let it define your future and be in your present.

[AmeerX]

More you tell people about your insecurities especially early on. The more you will be treated like a loser. Don't do it and you can probably go find a wife /relationship somewhere in the other side of world but you will not go because you are afraid of the big step

[The-Stud]

You still have time to work on yourself and be better

Body dysmorphia would vanish when you have a good body from the hard work..6 days a week sounds a bit over training to me... look into that though

[IslaTheWitch]

If Stephen Hawking managed to be married twice, it shouldn't be a problem, right?

Focus on your strengths, not weaknesses.

[Nikki1989]

Sure, you have as much hope as anyone else, but with those insecure preferences you are asking for too much.

[slatyb]

Get some counseling to improve your self-image. Did you grow you with a lot of negativity?

[Iron_Man]

Yes, you’re a teen right now. Focus on getting started

[In_Trance]

Eventually