Why do tall women throw men off? Will I ever find love?

[Anonymous]

Dating is so difficult, especially for tall woman. I am 6ft and I am chubby but curvy. Never been slender or somewhat. I’ve never had a actual real relationship like ever. Most guys like short women. They also like average height women but tall women get pushed it the side, ignored and passed by. This past Friday my three girlfriends and I went out clubbing and four guys can’t to hit on us….. well then. My girls who are under 5’6 got guys attention. You have to admit they’re gorgeous. Me on the other hand…. I got ignored. They looked at me up and down and one of them said, “Holy shit you’re tall! And you’re wearing heels? Are you trying to make guys feel emasculating. Jerk!” I was wearing 3-4 inch heels so I was about 6’3-6’4” in them. The fourth guy was dissatisfied when he saw me. He was like, “Damn it, the shorties got taken and I get stuck with Big Bird! I’m going to find me a SHORT lady. I was hurt and he was cute. He looked 6’7” and he likes short women. One of my friends is 4’11” and the guy she snagged looked 6’2”. I was alone and no guy wanted to face with me. I can’t be seen with a short guy because I don’t wanna look masculine.
I need a tall man but most go for shorter women. It’s not fair! Look I’m not being shallow, I went on a date with a shorter guy but he blew me off because he found out I am 6ft. It was a blind date. He walked away and never came back. I never understood why most women wanna be taller because MEN DO NOT LIKE TALL WOMEN! I’ll never find love or lose my virginity (in the right time).

[blueonblack22]

If you want to know the cold hard truth your height is probably reason 19 out of 50 why you are having problems. I’ll admit 6ft is tall but there are plenty of guys who would gladly overlook that if you have other attractive qualities. I once dated a 5’ 11’’ girl (I’m 6 ft). Her height was barely an afterthought because she very attractive otherwise. I didn’t care.

But you yourself admitted you are a tad overweight. To be brutally honest that’s probably in the top 3 reasons you are having problems getting attention. Guys pay much more attention to that than height even though we are not allowed to admit that nowadays. Also women keep thinking men obsess over height because they themselves do. But we do NOT. No. Body shape is a different story though.

The good news is you have a problem that can be improved. Not easy to improve but at least you can do something about it.

Just imagine a really short guy who doesn’t get much female attention. What the hell could he do about that: just magically how taller? At least you have something you can work on.

Also I know some girls are going to read what I said above about weight and get all defensive and pissed off that I am being “mean” for telling you the truth.

You can not nor should not try shame and manipulate male dating preferences. You don’t see short guys organizing “short acceptance marches” the same way big girls organize “fat acceptance” bs. Men have to deal with all sorts of unfair bullshit all the time but we are told “tough luck”. Shouldn’t be any different vice versa. At least what men find attractive it’s something women usually can control.

[JacobJordan]

First bit of advice. If you want a worthwhile relationship you aren't going to find it at a club. Second bit. You won't find it drunk. Third bit you gotta play into the height. Unfortunately you stuck being tall. But that doesn't mean all is lost. Start picking up some beautiful flowing dresses, skirts and blouses. If you wear a lot of make up lose a lot of it. Little to none will be best. Make sure your hair is long sleek and shining. Style is irrelevant. Then exist and guys will start to notice you.

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys you will meet won’t even be 6’2, so for you to be so tall it will be intimidating for some men. There’s someone for everyone though, so while you may not be the one always being approached on outings, eventually the right guy will come along not caring about your weight or height, and honestly you’ll probably be in a stable relationship before your friends.

[Asker]

How do you know?

[Avicenna]

Plenty of guys will date you. Some of us greatly prefer tall women.

[Joshydavid25]

It's probably more than you are chubby than tall like everybody said.. If you were slender and tall, it wouldn't matter if you were 6'6" you would be having guys trying to climb you.. Just try and maybe get to the gym, and get that confidence up.. If you're curvy, than slimming down will definitely boost you up..

[Asker]

Why do guys have problems with chubby women?

[Joshydavid25]

It's not that guys have a problem with chubby women so much as they prefer women that are on the slimmer side.. Just like many women prefer taller guys..

[Asker]

It’s hard losing weight

[Joshydavid25]

It's hard but it's possible.. Just eat in a deficit and lose more than you eat.. It's a steady process but if you are patient and keep at it, you'll definitely get to where you want.

[Asker]

Okay thank you. appreciate it

[Joshydavid25]

No problem, hope it goes well for you.

[Trevelyan88]

Honestly I think most guys only care about height because they know women care about it.

As in an average height guy will choose to pursue a 5.4 foot woman over a 6.0 foot woman, solely because they know women won't date someone shorter then them.

at least this is the case 99% of the time.

[SixFootSexy]

Just be patient. Desperation isn't attractive on men or women. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable men will be around you.

I knew a disabled woman who was, in the looks department, around a 3. However, when you got to know her she had created the most amazing personality that people were just drawn into inexplicably. Work on yourself, you're not wasting that time.

[zagor]

It is probably the "chubby" and not the height that is your problem. A lot of men like tall girls, and 6 feet isn't that extreme - my F friend is 6'5, and quite attractive.

Also, regarding heels, just... don't. That even applies to short women. If we go out somewhere you should be capable of walking - I don't know where this BS of high heels ever came from.

[exitseven]

I am 6 feet tall and would have no issue with someone as tall or a little taller than me. I dated a girl who was 5 11. She was a collegiate swimmer and was big and tall and I thought she was beautiful.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've dated women nearly 6'3" and they wore heels all the time. You don't think the "chubby" part has anything to do with it maybe?

[Asker]

It’s my height dude. Be honest

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well I"d go for another woman your height like all the tall ones before you. You're only 6'. What I would NOT go for is somebody with a 40 BMI, whether she's 7' or 4'10, and that IS honest.

Tall women have nice legs. Why would I hate on that?

[Anonymous]

If you’re slim and tall you’ll get many guys, I don’t get why women who are already tall are wearing heels especially when it’s bad for your feet. The tall guy should have been liking you if he was that tall, I don’t know why tall guys keep going for really short girls either, I’m average height height and and prefer them just a little shorter than me which usually not a problem

[Unit1]

Don't blame your height. I understood from your post, that you are more than just overweight (?), so maybe address that first and then come back here if you not being seen persists.

[Lynx122]

Well are you putting in any effort into other qualities that might attract a man?

[Tim2nice]

I’m shorter but available if you’re interested

[Asker]

How short like 5’9?

[syncheart]

I like tall women, but the woman needs to be a kind person. Something about her needs to make me feel like she's approachable.

[love_conquers_lust]

I don’t understand why short guys complain. I see more woman to love when I look at girls taller than me.

[Pohjolan]

You yourself rule out the majority of men by requiring a tall guy whom is also suitable for the rest of woman kind.

Chubby? What's your BMI?

[MaxUsefull]

It depends, if you have a hot ass, it will be easy to find a man 😂😂

[Asker]

Hahaha we’ll it’s HUGE so I guess it is but I don’t like it.

[MaxUsefull]

Huge fat or huge hot?

[Asker]

Huge fat

[MaxUsefull]

That doesn’t attract men

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should try dating a blind guy. Then he wouldn't know how tall and chubby you are.

[IHateBeingaMan]

i'm not turned off by tall women

[DryGermanGuy]

Here we go again… 🙄

[Asker]

What?

[DryGermanGuy]

How many times do you want to post the same story? Do you actually learn from people's suggestions?

[Asker]

What are you talking about?

[DryGermanGuy]

This is the fourth time you are posting the same story about the same damn heels. Try without them?

[Anonymous]

Is a guy who is 5'7 too short for you?

[Asker]

Honestly not really I just prefer taller men

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I see but do you find it weird if a guy finds tall women attractive

[Asker]

My ex boyfriend is 5’7

[Asker]

I mean date

[Opinion Owner]

Are you saying that you would never date a guy shorter than you ever again?

[Asker]

Well it depends on his personality but I probably prefer tall. Tall women always get asked if they would date shorter men? Petite and average height women barely get asked that. Tall women get shit for preferring taller men.