Will I ever find someone for me?

[Anonymous]

So I’m 26 years old. I’ve been single for years, and I have a great career too. I’m really shy when it comes to meeting new girls, so I haven’t approached any of them that showed interest in me because I don’t know them, and I’m scared of getting hurt. I’m really good looking too, and guys have even told me not to steal their girlfriends before. And that’s the thing too, guys think I’m a good catch, but I have yet to meet a girl who’s into me. Not only that, but I’ve had my heart broken so many times. There’s girls that didn’t like me because I was too nice, I gave them the wrong impression, and I’ve had girls who used me for attention, girls who scammed me and said they needed money, and so on. Not only that, but I used to be bullied, so I have a hard time putting myself on dating apps because I’m still traumatized from people treating me like shit in the past. So I just think of girls judging me and saying mean things to me. So I’ve been working on myself to make me feel better, and hoping I could have better chances of meeting the right girl for me. It sucks, because I want to be loved, but I also want a girl who likes me for who I am.

[jennifer_bloom]

I knew a guy who was an 11 out of 10, best looking guy I had ever seen in my entire life, and all his girlfriends would either cheat on him or use him, being attractive might not make a big impact if all the girls you date look like Hollywood celebrities and earn big dollars. And you have to check yourself to make sure, you do not subconsciously prefer or socially choose girls that approach you with a strong rejection impulse, that might explain your difficulties, if you’ve been trained to choose rejection over acceptance at an unconscious or subconscious level.

[Asker]

That’s the thing, girls like you if you’re attractive, but you get to see their true selves more. And I’ve dated less attractive girls, but even they weren’t as good as it was made out to be.

[QuadDamage]

Don't think about anything like this, do not use dating apps. Go out, go with friends to places. Go wherever you feel like.

Do things that make you confident. Try to stop looping old bad memories (I know it's hard mate) our brains are wires like that.

You'll get someone faster the less you think about it. Enjoy yourself and remember the past is the past. You control who you want to be now, you set the rules.

The foundation takes a lifetime to master and we never do. But we start with it today mate, till we die 👍

If a lot of shit has been thrown at you try not to hate, try perspective instead and whom where they to listen to, what did they know really? Don't be scared buddy! We all are, take a leap of faith 🤗

[art84]

Sounds like you're too much of a nice guy and woman take advantage of it. Women don't want nice guys. Definitely work on yourself on building your self esteem up and being aggressive toward woman. Woman want a man who takes charges and knows what he wants.

[Anonymous]

Do things where you learn not to be shy, classes, organizations, etc.

[Anonymous]

There are available women everywhere, so it is what you make of it.

[Guy13]

Risk, get crushed, move on, and repeat