He asked me if I was mentally challenged. He asked me why I was obsessed w/ him. He told me that I scared him. He told me that he feels like cryin because I’m so sad. He is pushin me away & is afraid of me. He see me as a mentally unstable about to explode ticking time bomb. He told me a guy on a dating app will never fix my problems & that I need help. I need like a parent or an adult & therapist or someone who could help me.
I have a miserable life & I'm aware of that, but I’m tryin to help myself with my family & career & social life… I have a therapist appointment once a month. I’m not obsessed with him I'm talking to 2 other guys. I been through a lot in life, so like I’m tryin to make plans w/ him & I’m bein very patient towards him. I’m bein stubborn actually I refuse to give up on him or any guy I see myself maybe one day I’ll fall-in-love w/ him or this guy or that one…Honestly, it is my determination to help myself to find a boyfriend who will love me… so I can fall-in-love w/ him if he sends me flowers or texts me good morning & goodnight beautiful & to kiss me & to cuddle me & I am trying to meet face-to-face w/ him so I could be myself & have him asked me out, but WORK isn’t lettin me have any days off for any social life & my family isn’t supportive $$ & I'm definitely livin a miserable life it’s a lot… I only have myself & I’m fighting to survive goin to work/school & makes sure I’m eatin well, relaxin & that I also try socializin w/ people. I try to overcome all the challenges that I ended up endurin A LOT… Unfortunately the universe enjoys knockin me down on a daily routine. Yesterday he finally texted me apologizin how busy he has been & I spilled soda on my computer & broke it. Today I go to work he called me & I’m glad but I should be workin then he asked me why I am obsessed & here I’m stuck @work w/ the universe laughin. I just wanted to hangout w/ him & I’m hoping for my chance in falling for someone even a guy in a wheelchair but AM I DOOM?
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Wow, that sounds like a really tough situation. Don't let one jerk get you down though - there are definitely good guys out there who would appreciate someone as caring as you. Here's what I think -
First, don't waste any more time on that guy who called you names. He sounds immature and you deserve way better than that.
Second, it's really awesome that you're trying to improve your life and work on yourself. That takes a lot of strength and determination. Don't get discouraged - little by little you're making progress.
Third, I know it's hard, but try not to put all your hopes on one guy right away. Enjoy getting to know different people slowly. That takes pressure off finding "the one" and helps you see your own worth isn't tied to a relationship.
My advice would be to focus on your self-care - do things you enjoy, take care of your mental health, spend time with good friends or doing hobbies you love. The right kind of guy will appreciate a strong, independent girl like you. Some cuddles will come, but don't rush it. Keep being your awesome self - that's what really matters. You've got this! Stay positive.
Sadly most men you will meet will be utter trash but don't give up, there are some good guys out there that will be worth your time.
Stop dealing with mentally immature guys