What is the allure of men/woman dating younger people?

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This is the endless debate of an older man who likes to dates only young girls or older women and young men). I mean I had heard soe many different opinions as the reason why but I there is not like the ultimate reason anyway. Some say becauase the guys can't be challenged by someone around their ages as they can't put up with certain things and they know what they want, they want to feel young by dating younger chicks, they want a young lady cause it is energetic, has a great body (the physical part here of course) m also they can give them kids as they are still in their reproductive ages they want a young lady and easy one who does nto realize what they should put up with yet. In most cases men look for youth and beauty. Women look for resources, stability and status, right? can't there be a balance?

And then many people say if the man and the woman are happy dating with that age difference that is what it is important right? But then I asked my self , Are they really happy? I mean does not these men think that the older they get the more care they will need (healthy, attutude, mood changes, among many other changes physically and mentally) and does these young beauties does not realize that they will h ave to put up with all that? Will they still be happy with that? can't they tolerate and be patient? Will they be happy for real like she could say she is with her older boyfriend? Do the guy will say the same thing and believes yes we are happy if his younger partner won't like to take care of him the way he needs later in life? I mean maybe they could be happy for a short time but not for many years and their relationship wotn last then if people assume "ohh what is important is they are happy and in love, Are you sure?

Is it because men or women aroudn the perso age can't be happy with them and can't be challenged beause they know what they really want but we always go for the easy route without much sacrifice and work?

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6 mo

Unless they have an agreement that their relationship is just sex and money and still with just sex and money they are indeed happy, which I find sad if thta is the only case they can be happy.

How a relationship with a very big age difference can work and they can be happy and in love for many many years?

This situation also applies to older women young men.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The allure is mainly an ego boost or for some worldly gain. Also sex if you do the hookup thing. And not just YM/OM. Younger girls may not be so in sync with their sexuality so older guys know how to get them there.

It's a complimentary exchange. The issue is that we are here to procreate and society is based around those norms. Also, it has fed a culture that any age-gap union must be transactional and if not something is wrong with people who are genuinely happy in an age-gap situation.

My Personal Experience

I am about 40 and after a divorce I never thought to go younger at all because a) I didn't think they would be interested (WRONG) I know my age but don't look it even remotely b) I wasn't looking for any flings c) I wasn't giving anyone any money.

Aesthetically, it's obvious younger men are attractive because they are young.

And they have stamina. Not all of them are good in bed though. Usually older guys are better.

Also, there is a bit of nostalgia because it reminds you of your younger days and what a knucklehead you were. It's endearing.

They also surprise you with their astuteness. Younger guys are still really insecure and there is more pressure in dealing with girls their age. They want to practice not just sex with an older woman but understand a woman as well. When they want to settle down they want a younger girl because they know how to "handle" her.

Anyway... .

The only men who had high interest in me were anywhere from 4 to 20 years younger. No joke.

Actually, the guy who liked me the most was the 20 year old. His ego was epic, he was unstable and I suspect he was moderately psychopathic. It was impossible to date him.

The other one I dated from 23-25 and I think he had actual NPD.

So perhaps guys who like older chicks have something wrong with them.

I could have gone with more but I don't have the time or desire to be dating that much.

Going back...

After the experiences I had in the past couple years I probably will go for someone younger (not 20 LOL that was crazy) than me because those are the men who have shown the most interest, I felt the most attraction and at least wanted to make it work. It was always a dead-end with men my age.

The 20-year old wanted to give it another go and it fizzled out before it even started. (Cut off the 25 year old long ago) A week later a guy I had been overlooking really let it be known he is interested and he has a much healthier vibe.

But again, I know he is younger than me. He doesn't but I do.

To conclude:

if the age-gap is obvious from the first meeting it could be more transactional in nature and will usually run it's course.

Unless the older person is just really sexy or otherwise intrinsically attractive despite their age.

If the age-gap isn't obvious and the two people are coming together from a place of interest and attraction, it would be like any other relationship. There are no guarantees.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

People tend to do this because they can't get people their own age so they trick someone young and dumb into dating them

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In karate terms, younger partners are like sprouts trying to grow in fertile ground. They may lack experience and maturity, but they possess youthful energy and vigor. Just like a well-placed kick to an opponent's groin, their freshness can be exhilarating and invigorating. However, this newfound vitality requires patience, guidance, and nurturing, much like caring for a young plant that desperately craves sunlight and rainfall. Be like a seasoned sensei guiding his student through life's challenges and obstacles, helping them blossom into mature individuals who can weather any storm.

Just ask @wilmareportu

In the land of the rising sun, where traditions are deeply ingrained, many believe that seeking out a partner younger than themselves offers an enticing blend of youthful vigor and beauty. The idea behind this trend is simple – younger lovers bring freshness, passion, and vitality into one's life. They possess a zest for living and an eagerness to explore that appeals to those searching for adventure and excitement. Moreover, younger partners often represent hope for the future, reminding us of our own potential and inspiring us to embrace life with renewed purpose. While some argue that age differences can lead to difficulties and misunderstandings, others view these obstacles as opportunities to learn and grow together. In short, the lure of dating someone younger is rooted in a desire for connection, passion, and growth – qualities that transcend mere numbers on a birth certificate. As the saying goes, "age is nothing but a number," and when it comes to matters of the heart, few things truly matter beyond mutual attraction, respect, and love.

love_conquers_lust · Accepted Answer

25 & up seems to be when pandora’s box opens for both genders. Wisdom, security, stirs their loins, whatever. It’s legal. Morality and compatibility is up for debate.

For older guy/young girl, I don’t really understand why younger women would complain about it. It gives them access to more younger guys and fewer older guys creeping on them if their peers decide to go for it. I could see older women complaining about it. But they know they face a shortage, soooo… Similar when genders are flipped, except the same shortage is at work making it difficult for older women to access younger guys.

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This isn’t meant to explicitly slight women. Because it implies men have an increased chance of dying prematurely because of it. I’d rather we figure out how to extend men’s lives instead of facing these scenarios so everyone is paired off with someone. I’ve read that gap is closing, as well as violence decreasing.

ManOnFire · Answer

I am a younger man who likes older women, and I like it when they like us back. However I'm biased and think older men going after much younger women is just really weird and gross.

Curmudgeon · Answer

"also they can give them kids as they are still in their reproductive ages they want a young lady and easy one who does nto realize what they should put up with yet. In most cases men look for youth and beauty. Women look for resources, stability and status, right? can't there be a balance?"

You are SO CLOSE to the answer here, but you are missing it or dancing around it.

It has become much harder for a young man to develop himself enough, economically and otherwise, to even *think* about starting a family. So by the time a guy IS able to do that, the women his age are all too often "over the hill" and can't do that anymore. And yes, men in general would rather not become stepfathers to some other bum's kids.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn’t bother me. That’s their life, has nothing to do w me. I have other things more important to be concerned about in life. A side note, I don’t get why it’s always the older person who is wrong in people’s eyes for dating younger. When in reality maybe the younger person likes older people. My girl is 9 years older than me, I found her. That’s what I wanted. We’ve been together for 14 years. Nikki is probably mad because more than likely she’s single. Men are probably passing her up for younger, cuter women.

Anonymous · Answer

Women over 40 to a man is about as attractive as a homeless guy is to a woman. That's just the way it is. If a woman is still single past 40, it's her own fault. Would you pay top dollar for a car with over 100k miles on it? No! And typically women never accept their diminishing marketability. More women over 40 would date successfully if they would accept where they are. Anything you get from men at that point is charity. Dating in general is bulls*** until it's no longer bulls***. Are you women attracted to man that you KNOW has little value? No you're not. The same goes for men. If you have lesser value you have to act accordingly. This is why so many people are single. They don't want to accept thier societal imposed value.

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

I'm athletic and stay very active and it is very hard to find someone close to my age that can keep up. Seems like a lot of women live sedentary lifestyle when they hit their 40s. I don't want someone who takes pics of every meal they eat out but I looked for an old soul so that I don't notice an age difference

Luopio27 · Answer

Just because couples are the same age, doesn't automatically mean they are more/less compatable as a team.

You are over 50. In the dating world girls half your age have the looks you dont but you have the experiance they dont. Whatever pros your age brings are cons with younger ones and vice versa.

As shallow as the world is, there are more men in your age group that would date you.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I can't figure it out either.

What would you have in common with each other.

Maybe to some females it is a daddy thing, and to males maybe it is a status thing.

I can also understand about the money side of it for both parties, other than that I have no idea.

I know at my age I sure wouldn't want to have kids. But that might just be me.

Shamalien · Answer

First off, a 10 year old and an 80 year old could be best friends. My girlfriend is 24 and I’m 29 and I love the gap. I’d date as young as 19. It’s hot and reinforced my position as the dominant leader in the relationship. And she likes being with a man who has his own place, car, spare change for fancy dates and knows how to be a gentleman.

Billlewis · Answer

I'm happy to date anyone who is young in spirit and knows how to dominate that ass;)

Anonymous · Answer

Where to start: -not jaded to men -less baggage -less likely to have kids -tighter. bodies for sex -more light hearted and optimistic (generally) -matches my immaturity level for fun

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Because Younger people are in their prime physically.. For men and women.. It's pretty simple..

Vegasrunner · Answer

Just common sense women are valued by men for their beauty and that doesn't change regardless or how old the man is.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men are creeps for young women. It is really offensive at times.

Meropatrick · Answer

Youth is health, perfection, vitality epitome, etc and people seek what is the best if they can. A young person is sexually more fit also

grega239 · Answer

Why is this even a debate? If theyre consenting adults, shut the fuck up because its none of anyones bussines

Anonymous · Answer

i really enjoy blowing my load right onto a pretty young lady's face. I've done it on chicks over 30 and its not the same,
i need youth and beauty to debauch,
i must have it.
call me a romantic if you must

Anonymous · Answer

Men date younger women for their beauty and to show them off. The women know this and use them for their money. It's a mutual agreement.

Slim57 · Answer

I don't mind age to a point, so it really doesn't matter much to me if there older or younger than me, but I have limits like I said

Bigthick7 · Answer

I think they enjoy the feel of an inexperienced woman!

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Tighter, wetter pussy and none of the baggage older broads are saddled with.

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