Boyfriend contradicts me a lot?

[Anonymous]

Why does he that? Witheverything he takes someone elses side

[Livewire3]

That's a pain. Is he actually doing it based on facts or opinions.. this matters. If he's just reinforcing facts then I'd be forgiving, but I'd ask him to not be so bandwagon pick on you type of behavior if that is what is happening. Is he saying it gently? If he's just burning with desire to make you wrong, you need to figure out why he feels that need. Like is he feeling picked on by you at other times and he's getting support for his opinions through these interactions? Then both of you may need to take a step back. If he is doing it because his ego is somehow boosted by this then I'd be considering wether he is willing to change, or if you should be planning your exit.

[PrettyPriya]

Honestly, some people are just like that. They will say the opposite just to be different or start controversy.

Everyone has an opinion and I respect that, but people who do it out of habit are tough to deal with.

[horatiohornblower]

Could be you two just have mostly different outlooks on life and the world in general. That it's just something else keeping your relationship going. Be it a few common interests or simply attraction.

It's not bad. He just doesn't really agree with you.

[Asker]

He s very liberal, im very conservative, he smokes weed and his friends all do, all my friends despite it

[horatiohornblower]

That's why he always contradicts you. Liberals and conservatives have a lot of different viewpoints. Doesn't mean it can't work if you're both willing to listen to each other. That doesn't mean you have to agree or be silent. Just not talk over or belittle each other.

If you're expecting him to agree with you. He's talking down to you or you to him. Can't respect each other's opinion. Getting angry with each other over differences. Then you should end the relationship. As it won't hold up, if you can't remain respectful and civil in your ideological disagreements.

I've had many good friends I didn't agree with politically. It required being respectful of each other. Arguing over politics for fun, to make points not in anger. Then it works. Since we had other shared interests and common beliefs. Because whether they admit it or not. Liberals and conservatives have a lot in common.

[Asker]

For examle i amvery scared of other cultures , he isn't he openly dated whites

[horatiohornblower]

That's just one of your differences. The specifics don't matter. If he's liberal and you're conservative. There'll be a number of ideological issues which come to play. In how you live your life. Causes you believe in. What you vote for. Who you associate with and so forth.

You'll both need to decide if that's something you can live with and respect. Because trying to change someone doesn't work. It just leads to resentment.

Nor can you expect him or he expect you to remain silent in your beliefs. So, you have to willingly accept a lot of argument. Argument doesn't have to be bad. If it's kept logical on a point and counter point basis. It only becomes bad if you let your emotions get involved.

[devilish-cutie]

you guys seem to have different oinions on things...

[Wise4myage]

You need to bring this to his attention.

[Toldol2]

He feels inferior

[Asker]

Inferior?