My boyfriend confusing me?

[Anonymous]

Now all of a sudden he says he wants to spend more time with me

When like 1 h ago he said he doesn't want to spend a weekend with because its too much

Too much?2 days is too much?

[lightbulb27]

he caved due to guilt and didn't want to upset you.

communications aren't going well.

maybe he's not comfortable yet, for whatever reasons.

Everyone should have a dating and relationship coach listening to their calls when crap like that going on. You aren't getting the truth.

[Asker]

What you mean i dont get the truth?

[Asker]

He sounded genuine when said he wants to spend more time with me
He sais it with his head looking down and very silent
Like bwing extra shy admitting it
I asked
What did he say
He repeat it
And i said i also wanna spend time with you

[lightbulb27]

You should know if what he says feels true. If he said one thing, then changed his mind, there should have been a clear reason as to why... like his other plan was cancelled or he cancelled it to be with you. "Truth"... I doubt he feels comfortable saying no to you. That isn't really "bad", it's just you both aren't communicating.
head looking down may be normal for an introvert, or he's not confident or it isn't what he really was comfortable with. e. g. doubt.
I'd back off the pressure a bit... and try to understand what he feels and why.

That's assumptions... I wasn't there... but what it sounds like.

[Asker]

About being with me i feel it was truth
But about 2 weekend days together too much time
I dont remember if he randomly said it before or after the i want more time with you

[Asker]

I dont preassure him
It felt as if he is shy to admit he wants to be with me
Its what it felt like that head looking down

[Asker]

He wasn't preasured to say "i want to spend more gime with you"... at all

[lightbulb27]

ok. shy people don't share their true feelings very well, nor are they good with intimacy. you'll have to work with what you've got.
But you are the one confused... because such people are not clear sometimes.

[Asker]

Im confused because he confuses me
Im open and direct
He always hides smth

[Anonymous]

Yes depending on your personality, your energy, 2 days CNA be too much. Especially if she’s always complaining, always in a bad mood. I e met many women like that, cut them lose. Maybe he was seeing another girl, something fell through so she couldn’t see him now he’s free to see you.

[trillionaire123]

He's not your "boyfriend" if he refuses to even spend time with you.

[Asker]

He didn't refuse it
He said he wants to spend more time w ith me

[Asker]

But when takin about holidys he said he talked to friends a well
To meet new year
Its all male group
No women there

[trillionaire123]

If he is so indifferent to you, he isn't your boyfriend, just a friend.

He doesn't even want to come over for sex? He's probably fucking someone else then.

[Asker]

He says he is depressed
He cried yesterday

[trillionaire123]

does he want to have sex with you? If he doesn't, he definitely isn't yours.

[Asker]

He does when he is not crying

[trillionaire123]

Hey let's change the topic: Would you want to be all-knowing, or would you... uh... what does a HUMAN actually want/need?

Like, to be happy. What do we need to be happy? Do we need to be all-knowing? LOL

[Asker]

I know all

[Anonymous]

He sounds bi polar.

[Opinion Owner]

Tell him to make up his damn mind.

[Asker]

Crazy af

[Opinion Owner]

Move on if he can't decide what he wants.