What about Men/Women attracts you?

[Justneedtokno]

I’ll go first….
I love a man that can command the room. I love when he has a sense of humor. When he’s not afraid to try. Adventurous. The walk, and the way he speaks. I love a nice smile.
Men have certain air about themselves little bit of swag. There’s so much more….

[iluvtoknow]

That's quite a question, but an interesting one. Thanks for asking!

I don't really care all that much about looks. I don't like tattoos and I don't like obesity, but other than that all that really matters there is that she's hygienic and healthy (and I do mean that.) Taking care of your body is important.

The bulk of my attraction is going to come from my wife's personality. There are plenty of things about a girl's personality that I find attractive and it really varies from person to person. Everyone has their own idiosyncrasies, and often-times it is only as you get to know a person (or start to fall for them) that they start to become endearing!

But having said that, there are some standard personality traits that I really like in a wife someday, so I've made this list. Of course no one is perfect and I don't expect them to be, but the more of these traits the better.

Friendliness

I mean this in two senses.

First, it would mean the world if she were my close friend before we were dating, so we would have a very concrete bond beforehand. Strong friendships that don't require anything more, if one chooses, lead to the best strong, self-sufficient romantic relationships in my opinion.

Second, it would be fantastic if she were an overall nice and friendly person to people. You know, swearing at a minimum, always treating people with decency and kindness, and just all the things that one thinks of when they think of friendliness. It doesn't have to be over the top, but just there.

Intelligence

I also mean this in two senses.

First, I think it would be fantastic if at school she was a student that worked hard and was pretty smart. From experience, intelligence creates deeper personalities, higher standards of humor and else, and if they don't overload themselves, a happier and cooler human being.

Second, I think it would be fantastic if she was cautious. –if she thought before she did things and didn't act recklessly. In other words, self-control is great. It also shows the guy, if she is interested in a relationship with a guy, that she has thought before the decision to be with him and hence is more meaningful. (That one minute possible reason for this being a good thing; there are plenty more.)

Equality

I would want this girl to believe that she is my equal in every way. What I mean by that is this: Some people believe in gender roles like that men are supposed to be strong, always take care of the needs of his woman, always pay the bill, be the one in charge, and watch over their woman; while women are supposed to be over-emotional, over-romantic, needy, being catered to, and pay back their man sexually. I hate this so much.

Ideally, I'd have it be that the girl and the boy are complete equals (as previously stated.) If the man wants to treat the woman, he might pay for one thing. If the woman wants to treat the man, she might pay for another. If someone is feeling kind one day, s/he might get the door, etc.

But overall there would be nothing that one person has to do for the other because of their gender. What happens should happen because of affection, care, or love, and nothing else.

I'm going to continue in the comments since I've met the word limit. I always like getting responses, so if you have any questions or comments, feel free to say something!

[iluvtoknow]

Confidence

I would want the girl to be confident. Both she and I should be able to start conversations without becoming a nervous wreck and we should trust each other enough to not live in fear of judgement all the time. Friendship would help with that. But as a general rule, people are more inclined to spend time with people who demonstrate that they want to spend time with them. That's not to say she can't have a bad day once in a while; being there for your partner is an important thing. But she should be able to stand on her own two legs in general.

But to be clear, an attractive girl is confident in the sense that they don't feel limited and are able to stand on their own when they need to, but not to the extent that they are never able to let their guard down and be vulnerable with their partner or are so 'confident' that they don't listen to others and do whatever they want just because they can despite their peers' or their partner's protest (unless there's an actual reason.) In other words, they shouldn't let 'confidence' become arrogance and they should still be able to have a sensitive side; that's what makes people human. And in the relationship, vulnerability is just as important and confidence. I think if there's a solid foundation of trust, some vulnerability among partners goes a long way and can really solidify a bond.

[iluvtoknow]

Modesty

I'd want her not to want to wear clothes that reveal to much, speak too sexually, or act too sexually. I understand that's too much to ask for some people, but it's a bit thing to people like me. Sexual stuff can wait until a few years of a relationship have passed in my book at least.

And today's society leads to people spending a lot of time analyzing their appearance and trying to look attractive, which often gets mixed up with being as promiscuous as possible. People seem to associate beauty with the amount of cleavage shown sometimes, rather than an art in itself. I hate that, and while I know and like quite a few people who show more skin than I'd like ideally, I would strongly prefer that they didn't. I don't think it does much good except to attract people sexually, and I don't think that leads to much but attracting the kinds of people a lot of girls want to avoid anyway. Plus, it's also a peer pressure thing.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm attracted to intelligent and very talented women who are exceptionally kind and physically gorgeous. I love a woman who has grand ambitions, and is passionate about whats she is good at, and strives to improve her happiness daily, never satisfied to settle for less than what she actually wants.

A woman who knows her skills and talents, who cares more about truth than ego, and who has a strong sense of empathy and compassion, and fills a room with joy from how bubbly and adorably sweet she is.

[Notfabricated11]

Couldn't have said better my self.

[DizzyDesii]

I like when theyre a total goofball with a dirty sense of humor and a bit clumsy. I like how they lean back a bit and sit widelegged. I like when the rim of their boxers show above their sweatpants or jeans but not technically sagging. I like when they wear nice Nikes or Jordan shoes. I like when they wear crewnecks, vnecks, polos, or tracksuits. I like when they wear a pencil behind their ear. I like when they smirk or lick their lips after talking briefly. I like when they wear glasses or a cross necklace or their baseball cap backwards. Its hot if they have an eyebrow scar or eyebrow piercing. Its kinda cute if he bites his nails or tuns his hand back through his hair. I like how they touch their own chin in a cocky like way but i can't find a good example

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks for mhooo

[Notfabricated11]

Lol I dont have a scar but I do put slits in the right eyebrow. Lol I never knew women liked that. I just did it lol

[DizzyDesii]

@Notfabricated11 here, the slits are gang related lmao. So as long as yours is a natural scar OR slits that are non gang related then good.

[Notfabricated11]

Lmao I never knew they were gang related? Where you hear this from?

[DizzyDesii]

@Notfabricated11 over here, the guys in certain gangs cut their eyebrow like that to rep the gang just like how some wear red vs blue clothes

[Notfabricated11]

Lmao that's crazy

[shaysh87]

As you get older and more experienced with dating , you will find that it’s not what attracts you that is most important. It is the severity of their flaws that is most important. A funny charismatic charming man wouldn’t matter if he was also immature , petty , egotistical and can never admit when he is wrong. The relationship simply won’t last

[Moose304]

I agree, just want to make sure you understand this statement with the word man removed and replaced with women is just as correct! I have dated many women with these flaws. I never call them back! I'm 63 single (by choice) semi-retired Engineer. About 10 years ago I was messing around with a girl who was in the Navy. She was at the time a Lt (O-3) and could never admit to being wrong about anything. She was incredibly smart, well educated, and was really a beautiful woman. She was however deeply flawed and over several dates, I came to see this. I would try to steer the conversations away from politics but she would always start back again. Very opinionated and to be honest dominated the conversations to the point one night a girl sitting behind her was making weird faces while listening. I took her back home and never called her again. About a year later I heard she was transferred to Pearl in Hawaii. The person that told me this also added she was telling people she was hurt I never called her again. Could not understand why I could be so mean and hurtful. I am not a mental health person. I did speak once to such a person and briefly described her to her. I was told most likely this lady was suffering from NPD and to consider such a person as toxic!

[shaysh87]

@Moose304

For someone like that, she likely would only get along with political fanatics that agree with her perspectives

[Moose304]

Maybe! The problem was not the politics as much as it was her general demeanor! Quite honestly I agreed with her politics most of the time, but after many attempts to change the subject to things like her career or telling her about my work she round robin'ed the conversation back to politics. Just going back to my original point! Humans regardless of their plumbing have flaws.

[shaysh87]

@Moose304

Flaws are typically very common. It’s rare to find someone without moderate flaws of some sort. Compatibility is just about being able to deal with those flaws. For example , my father was a bad tempered asshole who frequently verbally abused and frightened his family. My mother was a huge pushover , she was the type who could tolerate being constantly yelled at. That was the biggest reason why they never divorced

I would never ever have been able to deal with what my mother had to deal with

[Moose304]

Because I am much older I have a suspicion my thoughts on what attracts me might be different. I am attracted to females that respect themselves. I know I am setting an impossible standard, but I don't find women that are half-naked to be attractive. I don't find women that are shopping at Walmart in clothes it looks like they have slept in on to be attractive. I also don't really enjoy trying to engage in a conversation with a female that has about as much sense as a doorknob. I really rather be around a gal that has an education. Is articulate and basically ladylike. I don't use profanity and I don't want to be around a woman that does. I do not smoke and will not date a woman that does. I drink very lightly and don't like to be around drunk or tipsy women. The lady I am with right now has a Master's and can kick my rear when we play chess. The nice butt and big hooters thing to me is not all that important. I will not go out with an obese woman. I won't waste my time with a female that does not respect herself enough to allow this to happen. I also don't respect men that are obese either. I have gone out with women that are not all that physically attractive. I don't judge them by what is on the outside. Just be clean, respect your body and be smart and articulate.

[Honestguyopen]

I never had much luck with women. I guess I was the nice guy. Some times I tried to put myself out there. It was meant with silence or rejection. So I can be attracted to a girl initially if there is a spark. It's not one thing in particular, it's just something I feel. If we were to hit it off the way I hoped, we would have this animal like attraction. We would always want to be around each other and bot of us would feel safe. Someone who understands me for me and is able to adapt and work through road bumps. Nice smile, scent, adventurous, a sweet lady in public but a bit kinky in private. Honesty without games or BS. The ability to make me feel like I am safe with her and can take the lead, even if she is better at it than I am. Oh and an all natural girl. No plastic

[Stoner710]

Physical appearance: a girl with long hair hourglass frame, cute face

Personality a girl who’s mostly conservatives love Dogs annd not too expensive to Please and not not hardcore Christian. I’ll answer specifics if you ask I’m going to give them now

[Anonymous]

I love it when women are able to be a safe place for a man. She is strong and confident yet keeps an open mind and is always willing to jump in and help. She does not try to control me, but she does challenge me to be my best and is willing to stop me if I'm about to do something foolish. I like a woman who is able to be strong where I am weak.

[Grond21]

I love a woman who knows herself. Who is confident. Feminine. A woman who is nurturing for the children, and wants to build a home. I want a woman who carries herself with a kind are, with a hint of sensuality and mystery. A woman who is adventurous and fun, who likes deep conversations and real connection. I love long black hair. And like you said, so so much more

[tartaarsaus]

If I enjoy being around her and feel better to make myself better, if she’s smart with cool career goals, if she’s kind and funny. Obviously also if I find her physically attractive, which is not necessarily consistent.


A lot of it is just about general vibe, getting along well and feeling better around her, which is something you naturally pick up very quickly but difficult to predict. I do like it a lot if women are smart with cool career goals.

[FilmGuy93]

I like the way women can light up a room with their energy.

[Jayplays900]

I like it when a woman pins me to something (A wall, the bed, etc.)

Get's my adrenaline running, makes me blush like a bitch, I melt and can't think straight. I like being.. how do I say this?
Dominated, by a female. Rarely happens, but when it does, I go crazy over em'.

[Sammy6Gunz]

I'm attracted to someone that's just being themselves. Someone that can let go and throw caution to the wind and do spontaneous things. Someone who has that naughty smile but kindness in their eyes. Really something magical about that.

[MJtheCoach]

Sense of fashion. The way she’s dressed. And then her body type and her face and then her bubbly happy upbeat personality.




They’re both Asians. The Asian girl on the left lives in Asia. And Asian men find these anorexic Nasty turn off fishing hat loose type of girls sexy.


But western men want the girl on the left! Looks more like a woman

[Jz8edbzks]

What an asshole

[MJtheCoach]

Yah! That’s why hot attractive girls like me.

[Sualina]

@Jz8edbzks I know right

[Jz8edbzks]

@Sualina he thinks he's hot shit

[MJtheCoach]

I’ve never said I was attractive. You 2 are females and you 2 have selective reading / hearing skills. I’m a guy hot young girls don’t go for me for my looks. Since it’s not in the biology of human species for the male version to be the hot looking one I know you two are absolute braindead morons.
But at least don’t try to make it worse. I even tell flat out to any girl I go on a date with. when they talk about guys looks I say I’m Minus -10 and I’m ugly somehow they end up sleeping with me anyways.

[Savage_Wisdom]

Sense of humor, intelligent, confidence, and, most importantly, geeky.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Obviously has to be physically pretty to me.

Friendly and engaging nature.
Submmisive attitude.
Christian who loves the lord Jesus Christ.
Smart.
Respectful.

[Still-alive]

physically their face

personality wise, their sense of humor, enthusiasm, level of empathy etc

[Anonymous]

I like how men are stronger and bigger than me. I like when they are protective or provide for me. I also really like confident men, who are self assured and don’t seek validation from anyone but themselves. That’s hot.

[Notfabricated11]

I like a person for who they are and not what they can do for me. I like woman who are very kind and somewhat bubbly. You don't have to be cool or have money or be the most attractive.

[Uptowngirl88]

Money
Generosity
Intellect
Personality
Self starter/1%er
Looks
Good listener
Nice dresser

[EaterPeter]

Big breasts, good looks, thick thighs. The way they act the way they dress. The way they looks, the way they look. Big arse.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for likes!

[Babygirl_S]

Physically:I am attracted to men much bigger than me. I want to feel dominated and protected.
Emotionally:I like when a man is smart, confident and calm.

[Bhhahuanajhaunanaba]

Henry Cavil then 👀

[Babygirl_S]

He has always been dreamy.

[DaveToo]

I love a woman with a sense of humor, intelligent enough to understand my dry sense of humor. Are fun in the bedroom and I'm not talking pillow fights. A woman not afraid to be an equal.

[Julious0202]

i love caring and loving women, who don't talk too much, who give good advice, who like to give hugs, who are submissive but not overruled, who know how to love not only with words

[Anonymous]

Inner and outer strength
Height
How they want to help and lead
Men are always the biggest helpers

[yyyuuuiii]

I think a short man disliked your comment lol

[Opinion Owner]

@yyyuuuiii i can't help if a man towering over me is attractive... damn! I need a daddy. Plus its not like same height as me ones wouldn't get a chance...

[OG956]

I like positive, kind woman who can appreciate people around her and things like that. Just 4 me it's the most important her inner beauty (behaviour, etc.) :)

[Phoenix98]

I like a woman who is a tease with me and playfully sassy I like somewhat of a challenge.

[boxxie2002]

Attracted to a girl who can hold her own in the room and isn't afraid to talk to people.
Has a spark to them when they are talking and listening.

[haooy]

I like when girls are kind, strong to stand for themselves yet very sweet and affectionate. I like long hair too.

[BBFDancer]

I like girls that are a mix of Tomboyish and Country Church Girl. Who is smart in math lol. Good with kids and animals. Girls, who don't smoke, who don't drink alcohol, who don't crew tobacco.

[Jonnybigballs]

When a girl can just as easily be one of the guys and yet at pool the can pull out a seductive flirt side that can have you damn near dry humping the table

[lolilola]

His perfume, good hygiene, reasonable grooming. His assertiveness and bravery.

[Anonymous]

Her scent , her confidence, her command of the room when walks into the room breaks necks.

[Guanfei]

Feminity, care, softness and grace, sense of style, loving, family oriented.

[Zygum]

I am attracted to beautiful, sexy lady with open heart and mind

[Zygum]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

I’m attracted to the opposite of a modern feminist.

[Homer79]

I like when she down to earth Is able to laugh. Plus if she has great legs don’t hurt.

[Slim57]

If she's different from the rest and the one not doing all the talking

[MCheetah2]

Kindness and femininity, assuming they're either one.

[Iron_Man]

Everything from skeleton to skin

[NathanDavis]

confidence does it for me, but a genuine one

[msc545]

Women can be interesting and also very dangerous.

[es20490446e]

Sweetness, kisses, hugs, and vagina.

[Sam2021]

A real gentlemen, old school

[ChiPaPa]

Honestly, I don't know anymore

[TallAnon]

A cute smile is enough for me to melt, lol

[constantine15]

Nice rack, butt, eyes, hair and skin

[naughtybi]

On men their cock, women, eyes, lips, and ass.

[Brigantexx]

Eyes, big boobs and Chubby hips 👅

[Anonymous]

Nice looking and humble women.

[Anonymous]

hair, nails, skin, intelligence

[Anonymous]

I love that theyre whores and easy

[bigdyk31]

I'll command you

[Slayerrrrrrr]

bobs & vagene

[Anonymous]

boobs and butt same as all guys

[888theGreat]

Hmm , sounds like me

[postaldudePL123]

Boobies and kindness

[Jouth]

da booty

[Sillyhuman99]

When she looks hot

[Clementin]

Sounds interesting

[Anonymous]

bubs

[Anonymous]

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