Is it alarming to have a new boyfriend a month after a 5 year relationship?

[Anonymous]

My best friend broken up with her boyfriend of 5 years bc he moved countries with his fam and he treated her poorly anyway so waiting for him to come back in a year felt pointless …

A month and a half later she has a whole new boyfriend …. But it’s alarming to me because she was literally just talking about getting flights to visit him 3 weeks ago now she’s in a new relationship

[Interstate]

She obviously wasn't that serious about the first guy, if she is firing up a new flame this quickly. She is either A. Rushing things and not giving herself time, or B. Didn't care about the first guy that much in the first place. I would just sit back and let this thing ride itself out. Eventually she will learn and maybe that will be the wake up call she needs.

[JHNS98]

I have heard that girls can process the breakup emotions before executing the breakup, this is what enables them to rebound into other relationships relatively quickly.

I don't know how you are in this regard, but a one month rebound after five years seems rather quick to say the least.

PS: I'm not intending to diminish your relationship with the use of the word "rebound".

[SnakeBoop]

probably just a rebound. it happens. not alarming on its own

[Lliam]

I say good for her. You're not supposed to become a nun or a spinster just because you had a relationship with some "boyfriend". It was a relationship, not a marriage. Move on. Don't let grass grow under your feet. Live life. Find someone better.

[Jfranco12]

Yes it is alarming because she hasn’t had time to grieve the other relationship even if it was bad. It can lead to many unresolved issues for the new guy.

[NetSapien]

I wouldn't find it alarming.

Different people handle breakups differently.

[HighValue]

Most likely she was already emotionally cheating on him and talking with/flirting with the other guy before her boyfriend even left.

[qwert1234]

No.
She has thought of the breakup waaaaay before the actual event. She has checked and re-checked those feelings many times before.

[JakeS00]

I don’t think it is. But it’s rather quick to jump in one again. Maybe she saw nothing in that 5 year relationship anymore and moved on.

[Cubus]

She was alone, felt sad, and needed someone to console her. That's why she turned towards another boy.

[jasco]

Does it concern you? No Should you care? no, if you are gonna care than yea it can be honestly why does it matter?

[Anonymous]

its not unheard of to move on quickly , some refer to it as a rebound. perhaps this is one of those

[Wise4myage]

Well it depends, but it sounds like she was ready to move on.

[bamesjond0069]

She is desperate and has low self esteem. Thats way too soon.

[Anonymous]

Lots of girls have tons of options and never have a shortage of guys coming after them

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s very weird. Women don’t really love men. Men take longer because we have actual feelings.

[Guardian45]

Nope. But you do want to date other guys

[exitseven]

No, not at all.

[ChiPaPa]

Nope

[Anonymous]

It's probably a rebound.

[Anonymous]

It shows how quickly a Woman's mind can change.

[888theGreat]

desperate woman