So, like I said, I met this guy about a month ago and everything moved extremely fast, and we became exclusive with in about two weeks and he’s just been doing things that I strongly DISLIKE- .
He has mentioned sleeping with two different women before we started dating while telling stories and obviously I don’t want to hear that, and after the second time, he told me that story about two weeks ago honestly, my feelings for him changed.
. He told me that he loves me very quickly, and he’s extremely clingy with me and needy and whenever I call him out on his bad behavior, he starts sobbing. .
He has used very alarming language when referring to his ex saying that she didn’t “ take care of his needs” and I just don’t like that wording at all. He has displayed anger issues and poor emotional control because he literally punched his steering wheel when he was upset with his dad and that scared me.
. I cannot have children and he told me that he was against adoption because what if the kid decided to leave him one day and go find their “real” parents, which means the only way we could have a kid together is if my sister was a surrogate and it would also be related to me.
. I don’t feel that we both value education, and I honestly don’t even know if we’re going in the same direction in life.
I’ve brought all of this up besides the adoption and direction thing (last 2 points) and he says he will change, but honestly like I said after he told me about sleeping with his friends mom (from the first bullet point) my feelings for him changed. Because why would you tell me that? He apologized and apologize, but I just can’t see him the same and I don't know what to do because he’s a really good guy only even spent nearly $200 to get me a new key made for my car when I was stuck. So it’s not as easy as saying he’s a piece of shit and then leaving the relationship.
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Let's say he admits he's gay. Would you still stick with him? Only you can determine what you'll tolerate and what you won't? Are you expecting him to change? The likelihood of him changing is slim to nil. Would you want any daughters you have to be involved with someone like him? Can you see him teaching your daughters what they can expect from guys they date? Can you see yourself enjoying being together 40 years from now? He's not the only guy in the world, so only choose the one who shows true compatibility in all areas. Compatibility isn't about how much you have in common, but whether either of you feel threatened or uncomfortable with any aspect of the relationship
All aspects of life have both positive and negative qualities. We can focus only on the positives or only on the negatives, or we can view the total package. Make sure the total package works for you, and don't rely on others, especially strangers, to make your decisions. You have the ability to decide, so think this through and do what you believe is in your long-term best interest.
So you have nothing in common and he's emotionally a child. What is there to consider?
He bought her a key dude!
@spartan55 Haha silly me. She should offer nightly sacrifices in return.
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