Should women who get into relationship with top 20% of males be ok with their men sleeping with other women from time to time?

[Anonymous]

For example, Carmela Soprano. While being a fictional character is a perfect example of a woman who decided to pick a top 20% male for her mate over others because she liked that her man is powerful and provided her with financial security.

She blind eye to his infidelity of him sleeping with 100's of women throughout their marriage because she didn't want to give up that lifestyle.

A real world example of this is Gabriel Union and Dwayne Wade. Dwayne wade actively cheats on her and even had a baby with another woman in 2013. He rarely likely still cheats on her but she turns a blind eye to his infidelity because again he is a top 20% of male and easily trade her in for a much younger model now that she is pushing 50. Even though she can very easily find another man if this happened he won't be as wealthy, high status or likely as tall.

Should a woman who is in a relationship with a top 20% male be fine with said male occasional having occasional affairs as long as he doesn't bring STI/unwanted pregnancies into the house?

Yes

No

[TheUniqueOne96]

It depends on whether or not she wants to put up with it.

I've seen Fresh and Fit and Kevin Samuels talk about this before, saying they're essentially getting a 'deal', although I'm a bit confused about it, like in one video, where he was on the podcast, he talked about cheating and I seem to remember him saying the woman can cheat too, as long as she's not getting pregnant and bringing home any STDs.

The reason why I'm cool with it, was because a question about him yesterday, stated in the description that it wasn't okay for a woman to cheat, whilst it was okay for a guy to do, so I'm confused as to whether or not it's acceptable.

All the above or at least KS have also claimed to know 1% guys who have cheated on their women and their women are basically cool with it, for the reasons you mentioned, in terms of them being replaceable.

Jay Z also admitted to cheating on Beyonce and she decided to stay with him, so I guess that's an example too.

Ultimately, it shows a few things, with the first being that the top men have the upper hand when it comes to dating, because they've got a shit ton of women to choose from, as they don't care about her financial status, but I can guarantee you that almost, if not all of them, will no pick a morbidly obese, 40 year old 700lb woman with two kids, because he can easily do better and find a younger woman who doesn't have kids.

Due to the high amount of options these men have, I think they have the upper hand over women (only the top percentage, not the average guys), because whilst women can claim they've got more options, how many of these options are men they'd consider dating, because there's a difference between an option and an offer e. g. if you're a woman who's being approached by a ton of guys you don't want to date, then they aren't 'options', because you wouldn't consider dating them.

An option is one you'd consider dating and even then, a guy sleeping with you or taking you on a few dates doesn't mean he's going to take you seriously for a long-term relationship. Men will take what they can get in terms of sex, because it's harder for them to get action than women and if women don't like it, then don't sleep with these guys and date a virgin, because there's no shortage of them, lol, but the fact is, a lot of women tend to be attracted to a guy who's got a lot of women to choose from, but chooses her above the rest.

Also, attention is not the same as retention, so if you're a woman who's passed the looks test and you've bagged yourself a top 20% or 1% guy, then guess what, if your attitude or behavior sucks, then he's not going to keep you around, because why should he put up with a shit attitude, when he can easily find someone who doesn't.

Lastly, I think this links in with terms like 'high value', when it comes to dating, at least when it comes to the general rule, because there are exceptions to it on both ends that can be desirable to some, but the idea is that if you're a high value woman, you should have no problem attracting AND keeping a value-man around, because he's got a lot of REAL OPTIONS and can easily replace you, so you have to stand out above the rest and if you're a high quality man, then you have the ability to attract a lot of women and have many to choose from.

[Lycanthropic]

Some women will put up with it even if they don't like it because hypergamy is a thing.

[Anonymous]

No, that is not relevant. People should be open about whether they want monogamy or not and be with likeminded people, independent on their social status.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Most men who have options exercise those options. Modern women are all after the same men, and the fact that a man is desired by other women only makes him more attractive. In the end, you get what you asked for, whether you like it or not.

[NathanDavis]

what exactly is a "top 20% male"

[Asker]

A top 20% male is a man who exceeds in at least 2 out of 3 category listed below.

1. Looks (Height, face, race)
2. Money (networth, material possession, actual physical cash)
3. Social status (job title, social connection, respect/liked by others in community)

A man who is in top 20% of males is usually a male who can fulfill at least 2 out of 3 mention qualities to highest level. For some woman, just being top echelon in one trait that she finds the most important is enough to win her over.

[Asker]

Also top 20% of male is also dependent on geographic location, the men in your immediate surrounding and age range.

For example, within a college setting where most people are broke or lack money. A top 20% male largely will be the guys who excel at social status and looks. While some men who come from rich families and have good social connection can also make it into this class even if he is just average in physical looks.

[NathanDavis]

and you learned all this... where?

and when?

[Asker]

From reading different studies on social behavior of humans and pattern and trends in dating. This has been going back for over a decade now.

[NathanDavis]

you also mentioned race... does that mean that being a certain raise is considered of a higher level than others?

[Asker]

Yes. Depending on geographic location being a certain race makes you more attractive than others. It often heavily depends on media influence and what the media considers to be the most attractive race. It also depends on cultural background of a society and to some degree religious influence.

For example, within Indian society, the caste system still lingers which promote lighter skin as being more beautiful than darker skin. This has led to many commercials promotion skin lighters. Black communities also have similar system in place where often lighter skin tone among blacks are considered more attractive than darker ones. And many black men who end up successful often dropped their black wives to get with a light skin woman with straight hair.

There have been social experience supporting this involving dolls with children selecting dolls they consider the most beautiful. Many minorities picked the white skin doll as most attractive due to media telling them that white skin is most beautiful and associated with good character traits. Black skin doll was perceived as ugly and associated with negative traits. This type of perception is taken forward into adulthood even if one tries to suppress it often influencing ones decision in what they find attractive.

Also personal preference is also a factor. A woman may have preference for a particular race over another and deem a male more attractive if he is of that race.

[NathanDavis]

so... do you think if a man is at the "top of the game" he should be able to sleep with as many other women he wants, and then partner should be okay with him doing that?

do you see that as something fair, and right

[Asker]

I think all is fair in love and relationships are like contracts with their own terms and conditions. Usually the one who is more desirable gets to set those conditions and the other party must then decide on whether to accept it.

[Asker]

relationships like life aren't about fairness or what you think you are owed, its about what you are willing to accept.

[NathanDavis]

so... if you want to have be promiscuous and have sex with multiple women, why getting into a relationship in the first place, if it is going to limit you...

or do you still want the relationship image, to keep some social status image?

[Asker]

I'm not sure why you are phrasing this question towards me and implying i want to have sex with multiple women. I've once stated that is my personal goal or stated a desire for a relationship at present.

I merely state that again romantic relationships are like contracts and usually the more desirable party gets to set the terms. The other party is free to decide whether to accept those terms or look elsewhere.

For many men, they often comes a point where causal sex is boring and they want something long term and to start a family. However, people like variety in life and having sex with the same person over and over will get boring. Thus, many men sleep with other women from time to time to: 1. stroke their ego of being able to land other women 2. try something new 3. fulfill sexual desires that their wife may not be willing to facilitate for them 4. fulfill primitive instincts desire to spread ones seed to improve chances of one's genes surviving into the next generation.

[Asker]

*I've never once stated that is my personal goal or stated a desire for a relationship at present.

[NathanDavis]

because you are the one bring this up... just as much as you want to know where others stand personally, I am interested on where do you stand as well... when it comes to the one particular subject you brought up

so, I do not stand up for any of this personally... do you?

[Asker]

Bringing up a topic does not mean that said topic is related to ones life currently. You can have an interest in something with it being far removed from what is going on in your life. To address your point on where i stand, I have stated my opinion on the matter twice already.

[NathanDavis]

so you don't want to be promiscuous yourself... alright

by the way... where do you land in the land of percentages?

20, 40, 60, 80%?

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope