I’m in the middle kinda. However, I don’t treat them differently, I am still able to form another love for someone else.
I had gotten out of the relationship 6 months prior to meeting my (now ex) boyfriend. I was still healing as a person, but of course I still loved my ex for who he was, but I wouldn’t get back with him and I didn’t miss him. I was over him. For my ex, he had about the same timeline, 6 months… but I don’t think he had feelings for her at all, missed her, or loved her. He just isn’t healed as a person in general. He was very toxic to say the least. He put me through hell during the relationship, and even after.
I want to start dating casually but the breakup is still fresh, but I don’t want to hurt the other person since I am guarded up right now. With me, I recognize that I still love that person, but not to the point where I miss them and want them back. I just love that person like I love my family and friends, but I don’t keep contact.
I think it’s best to wait to get into a relationship if you aren’t fully over that person (wanting them back, missing them, still in love with them).
Yes, I've left someone who wasn't fully over their ex.
He said he was recovering from a breakup when we were met. Then about 9 weeks into us dating, admitted that he was leaving voicemails to her phone and 'was torn' because as much as he liked me, he also wanted to know 'how his other story would play out.'
Needless to say, I asked him if he would pick her if she responded, to which he said 'probably.' I dumped his ass on the spot and said, great - go get her.
Needless to say, she had blocked his calls and 6 weeks later he ended up crawling back saying how sorry he was, blah blah. Having been single for a while, I used him for late night hook ups for a couple weekends. He started 'catching feelings' and I had no interest in entertaining them, mostly because they weren't real (purely last based) and his immaturity to tell the difference was off putting.
Yes both has happen, I was the one and didn't know it and I have dated others who hadn't move on. It never works out, they said they would like to later... but you move on regardless and meet someone else.
I'll if you're coming out of relationship and you meet that someone special... then move pretty quick. Its when you dating someone whose not the one that comes up more often. They aren't really into you, but they don't want to be alone or honestly having to be other looking for someone else.
I'm with a girl right now and i don't know if i moved on or not from my ex but i definitely didn't...
i have a lot of problems and arguments in this relationship than i ever had in any relationship and it hurts me so when i sit i only think about my ex and how connected we were, i don't know if i should feel bad for thinking like that or what should i do exactly, however, if you really like the guy dont let him go and try your best to contain him he will love you for it and appreciate you a lot
Opinion
6Opinion
Not ready for what?
I'm currently dating someone even though you could say I am not 100% healed from my past relationship that ended 3 months ago. But I am 100% into this guy. He is not a rebound, it's not that I am not over my ex, I am just "not over" the whole thing (heartbreak, wasted time & effort, broken trust, etc.). I still think about him (our relationship) from time to time, but I don't have any feelings for him and I would never go back to him. It's the same whether I'm single or dating, being single doesn't guarantee I will heal "better", I'd still have trust issues if I "healed" and then started dating someone new. My life overall better with this guy and I'm learning to trust again, so why would I hold back? He knows everything and is being very understanding and supportive.
No actually. Mine was the opposite. I was in a bad, toxic and depressing relationship with a girl, so it was basically killing me emotionally and towards the end, she broke up with me in July, I met this amazing girl in the September the year before and we just began really hitting it off around March/April time and soon by July time we had practically fallen in love with each other. My toxic ex had pushed me towards the girl that I love now ironically. Yes, I feel sad at times thinking of what could have been, but it's in the past now. Don't know if anyone else has ever experienced my kind of situation, but it all worked out for the best in the end.
I got into the relationship I'm in now when I hadn't moved on from a friendzone. It wasn't even a relationship and wasted my life, but she had control over me. It was really hard on my girlfriend and respectively hard on me, we broke up once over it. We got back together, got past that issue. It's much better having a full relationship and having the past in the past.
I've been on both sides of this, unable to move on UNTIL I started dating someone else (poor him) but it really helped me move on and to get past my ex.
Dated a few guys, one right now that calls me by his ex name, and that is a disconcerting but we've only been on a few dates so far.
Yes, I broke up with m long term girlfriend. I dated somebody for about 5 or 6 months and she used to notice that sometimes I would be sad and she knew it was because I was thinking of my ex. There were a few reasons why she dumped me but I remember being like that when I should not have.
I couldn't move on from a past relationship and I had a few woman who really liked me that if I wasn't stuck in the past could have been long term potential. I felt bad because I couldn't even consider committing to them. The more I liked them the further I distanced myself from them. If he's not ready you will never be treated as good as you should. I recommend waiting for him to move on
Yes I had a rebound, but he was only a friends with benefits/casually seeing each other after my ex. It was literally the day after we broke up so of course I wasn’t over him yet 😬 but the friends with benefits seemed to be fine with it and was fine if I still talked about my ex.
I left a girls last year facing the same situation. The thing is if you haven't moved out of your ex, then they're basically not your ex. You're still their suffering from one way love and also causing you new partner to suffer for nothing.
No, I’ve tried to only get into relationships after I’ve fully processed the last one and filed it away after making peace… so kinda proportional to how long the relationship was. However, I had a brief hook up that was a good kisser and just trained my new boo to kiss the same way… did I tell them it was bc of some good kisser I was hung up on? No.
I think you are doing the right thing. It may be a hard decision but it sounds like it’s for the best. Taking a break does not mean forever. If it was meant to be then he will come back to you.
No. When I get into a new relationship, I’m definitely over my ex
Nope, I don't want to waste my time or someone else's.
Yep that's exactly why I can't have a boyfriend😅😅
I can't commit for shit.
no I have not.
You can also add your opinion below!
