Do we find love or does love find us?

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ohshee · Accepted Answer

I think there are moments in time when we are supposed to find it but if we're not paying attention we pass it by so I think it's either or and we have a choice we can make but we have to pay attention there's always seems to be some sort of distraction no matter what it is we are supposed to be doing and everything has to be on time everything has to be just right in order for us to grasp a hold of that moment

clampfan101 · Accepted Answer

Love is many things. Predictable is NOT one of them. lol It could be one, the other, or a bit of both.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"I heard a knock at the front door and, when I opened it, there was love!" Have you ever ACTUALLY heard of that happening?

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

I think a little bit of both. Sometimes it can come to us so randomly, but sometimes we actively search for love.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

My friends who found love say they met their lovers when they were not looking for them.

Desconhecida · Answer

"Love is like a butterfly. Chase it and it runs away from you. Leave it and it comes to land on your shoulder."

AmandaYVR · Answer

We find it. Definitely.

InferiorElegy · Answer

It depends on the person. I've been told to do both of these things, it's so fucking retarded.
"Only way you'll have love is if you go out and find it" - former friends. "You have to stop looking for love and it will come to you" - same former friends. Then those same former friends "why did you stop looking? You won't find love by not looking"
In my eyes all I can say is love doesn't exist, at least not for everyone, not for me.
I am fine knowing I'll never be with someone because at this point in life I wouldn't know how to be a boyfriend I don't have a single bit of experience as one unlike 99% of guys who started dating in their early teens.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

It is a little of both, you have to be out there, you can't just stay home all the time. That does not mean you need to be asking out every single person there is.

I say both, cause some of my very best relationships, were found by friends that set us up.

Others I found myself or was hit on. The big thing is being available, think about how much effort your willing to put into finding someone and how hard that is. Then think about how someone else feels the same way.

Anonymous · Answer

It can happen in either direction, but in my case, I found love. I had to look for it, and I was lucky enough to find it. But there was one time in my life where love totally found me. I wasn't looking for it. I didn't even want it. But there it was, right in front of my face and I was powerless to ignore it.

LrningthisLife · Answer

Both. What you seek is seeking you too. That said, when we actively 'search' for love we 'find' it in unexpected places and people, sometimes not. The saying, 'love comes when you aren't looking' is mostly true as well

St37xy11 · Answer

Either way. You can't sit around in your house and never leave for anything but you shouldn't throw yourself at everything that wears pants or a skirt.

OddBeMe · Answer

Love is an emotion. Not some karmic force from rom-coms. Treat dating like I do my business. The more potential clients I meet…the more likely I’ll make a sale.

varan69 · Answer

I think, I think that when you look for it its harder and it looks like it just won't happen to u but when u dont then people in life start coming up to u without expecting it. So to me loves finds you

AngelMegumin · Answer

Neither. Love is nourished by people investing into their feelings.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@lilas We would have to find love because love never finds us.

exitseven · Answer

I think it is more a crap shoot than anything you try to consciously find.

JosyJosy · Answer

In my case it found me. Cause I stopped dating and met a guy through friends

Baredog69 · Answer

Love is kind of random. I believe it's like we're all walking around and there's millions of cupids with their little arrows and they shoot them straight up in the sky and at one point you will find yourself stabbed in the head with a f****** arrow.

WowwGirl · Answer

If you want to find it just stop looking for it. For some reason it always shows up then.

Anonymous · Answer

Well women find love With guys love finds us. Because guys have little say in the matter.

Cubus · Answer

Love does find us. You can't predict, when it happens.

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