Do we find love or does love find us?

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Answer 1

ohshee | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I think there are moments in time when we are supposed to find it but if we're not paying attention we pass it by so I think it's either or and we have a choice we can make but we have to pay attention there's always seems to be some sort of distraction no matter what it is we are supposed to be doing and everything has to be on time everything has to be just right in order for us to grasp a hold of that moment

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Answer 2

clampfan101 | 3.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Love is many things. Predictable is NOT one of them. lol
It could be one, the other, or a bit of both.

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clampfan101

1 mo
I do believe everyone’s able to find it/be found though!
Lilas

1 mo
I wish! I've single so long. And everytime I'm about to start something with someone our values, and intrests just don't match...
clampfan101

1 mo
I’m single myself. I had a girlfriend,(We found each other. Mutual love at first sight!), but she passed away just before we tied the knot… But I know I can find someone to spend my life with eventually! I just hope it’s before I turn 40yo at this rate…
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Lilas

1 mo
I'm sorry for your lost! I hope you find love and happiness soon.
clampfan101

1 mo
Thank you. Best to you, too.

Answer 3

clampfan101

I do believe everyone’s able to find it/be found though!

Answer 4

Lilas

I wish! I've single so long. And everytime I'm about to start something with someone our values, and intrests just don't match...

Answer 5

clampfan101

I’m single myself. I had a girlfriend,(We found each other. Mutual love at first sight!), but she passed away just before we tied the knot… But I know I can find someone to spend my life with eventually! I just hope it’s before I turn 40yo at this rate…

Answer 6

Lilas

I'm sorry for your lost! I hope you find love and happiness soon.

Answer 7

clampfan101

Thank you. Best to you, too.

Answer 8

OlderAndWiser | 8.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

"I heard a knock at the front door and, when I opened it, there was love!" Have you ever ACTUALLY heard of that happening?

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Lilas

1 mo
I often hear it; I just want it to knock into ne now 🥲
OlderAndWiser

1 mo
Perhaps you were hallucinating! :) :) :)

Answer 9

Lilas

I often hear it; I just want it to knock into ne now 🥲

Answer 10

OlderAndWiser

Perhaps you were hallucinating! :) :) :)

Answer 11

WhatTheHeckkkk | 395 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

I think a little bit of both. Sometimes it can come to us so randomly, but sometimes we actively search for love.

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Answer 12

jennifer_bloom | 4.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

My friends who found love say they met their lovers when they were not looking for them.

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Answer 13

Desconhecida | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

"Love is like a butterfly. Chase it and it runs away from you. Leave it and it comes to land on your shoulder."

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Answer 14

AmandaYVR | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

We find it. Definitely.

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InferiorElegy | 836 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

It depends on the person. I've been told to do both of these things, it's so fucking retarded.
"Only way you'll have love is if you go out and find it" - former friends. "You have to stop looking for love and it will come to you" - same former friends. Then those same former friends "why did you stop looking? You won't find love by not looking"
In my eyes all I can say is love doesn't exist, at least not for everyone, not for me.
I am fine knowing I'll never be with someone because at this point in life I wouldn't know how to be a boyfriend I don't have a single bit of experience as one unlike 99% of guys who started dating in their early teens.

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Lilas

1 mo
True! one must be emotionally and psycologicly ready if they want a real and commited relationship, age is diffrent to each person; I've been dogging realtioships for for 6 years now either was in a bad place or didn't find the connection or love with anyone... I'm in a better place now; lets see what life hides for me...

Answer 16

Lilas

True! one must be emotionally and psycologicly ready if they want a real and commited relationship, age is diffrent to each person; I've been dogging realtioships for for 6 years now either was in a bad place or didn't find the connection or love with anyone... I'm in a better place now; lets see what life hides for me...

Answer 17

Aerissa_Jade | 209 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

It is a little of both, you have to be out there, you can't just stay home all the time. That does not mean you need to be asking out every single person there is.

I say both, cause some of my very best relationships, were found by friends that set us up.

Others I found myself or was hit on. The big thing is being available, think about how much effort your willing to put into finding someone and how hard that is. Then think about how someone else feels the same way.

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Answer 18

Anonymous

It can happen in either direction, but in my case, I found love. I had to look for it, and I was lucky enough to find it. But there was one time in my life where love totally found me. I wasn't looking for it. I didn't even want it. But there it was, right in front of my face and I was powerless to ignore it.

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Answer 19

LrningthisLife

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Both. What you seek is seeking you too. That said, when we actively 'search' for love we 'find' it in unexpected places and people, sometimes not. The saying, 'love comes when you aren't looking' is mostly true as well

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Answer 20

St37xy11

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Either way. You can't sit around in your house and never leave for anything but you shouldn't throw yourself at everything that wears pants or a skirt.

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Answer 21

OddBeMe | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Love is an emotion. Not some karmic force from rom-coms. Treat dating like I do my business. The more potential clients I meet…the more likely I’ll make a sale.

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Answer 22

varan69

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I think, I think that when you look for it its harder and it looks like it just won't happen to u but when u dont then people in life start coming up to u without expecting it. So to me loves finds you

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Answer 23

AngelMegumin | 80 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Neither. Love is nourished by people investing into their feelings.

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exitseven | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I think it is more a crap shoot than anything you try to consciously find.

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JosyJosy | 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

In my case it found me. Cause I stopped dating and met a guy through friends

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Shiningtempest | 252 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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@Lilas We would have to find love because love never finds us.

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Lilas

1 mo
Well I guess we do, one must put an effort into things they want!

Answer 27

Lilas

Well I guess we do, one must put an effort into things they want!

Answer 28

Baredog69

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Love is kind of random. I believe it's like we're all walking around and there's millions of cupids with their little arrows and they shoot them straight up in the sky and at one point you will find yourself stabbed in the head with a f****** arrow.

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Answer 29

Cubus | 233 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Love does find us. You can't predict, when it happens.

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Answer 30

WowwGirl | 645 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

If you want to find it just stop looking for it. For some reason it always shows up then.

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Answer 31

Anonymous

Well women find love
With guys love finds us. Because guys have little say in the matter.

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Lilas

1 mo
How? Is a man forced into a relationship?
Opinion Owner

1 mo
No you misunderstand. It's kind of like supply and demand. There are less women willing then there are men wanting. So men have to look while for women it's as simply as deciding whether or not their just interested. Guys have to actual work at it while with women it's whether they're just present or not.
Lilas

1 mo
Kinda agree on that with you! Men and women look for different things! It does work that way for majority of people as well...
But I believe people in love will invest (40/60%) at least to make things work and to keep the love alive...
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Opinion Owner

1 mo
I think it's that women generally feel more deeply then men in the early going of a relationship. I think if you showed a woman 10 men she might form an interest in 1 or 2 of them. While if you showed 10 women to a man he's more likely to form an interest in 9 of them.
Because I think women form some sort of a bond with a guy emotionally before they're ever even going out.
I'm not saying guys don't or can't have feelings but I guess what I'm saying is I think women date a guy in her mind before she ever actually dates him. While guys actual have to experience it before they feel it
Am I wrong on this? Or am I close to accurate because that's the way it feels to me.

Answer 32

Lilas

How? Is a man forced into a relationship?

Answer 33

Opinion Owner

No you misunderstand. It's kind of like supply and demand. There are less women willing then there are men wanting. So men have to look while for women it's as simply as deciding whether or not their just interested. Guys have to actual work at it while with women it's whether they're just present or not.

Answer 34

Lilas

Kinda agree on that with you! Men and women look for different things! It does work that way for majority of people as well...
But I believe people in love will invest (40/60%) at least to make things work and to keep the love alive...

Answer 35

Opinion Owner

I think it's that women generally feel more deeply then men in the early going of a relationship. I think if you showed a woman 10 men she might form an interest in 1 or 2 of them. While if you showed 10 women to a man he's more likely to form an interest in 9 of them.
Because I think women form some sort of a bond with a guy emotionally before they're ever even going out.
I'm not saying guys don't or can't have feelings but I guess what I'm saying is I think women date a guy in her mind before she ever actually dates him. While guys actual have to experience it before they feel it
Am I wrong on this? Or am I close to accurate because that's the way it feels to me.

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