Would you marry or date someone that came from a broken home/didn't have a good home life throughout their upbringing?

[Lucy68]

[Datboi65]

No chance. Coming from a broken home isn't an excuse in my book to be dysfunctional. I look for specific values, and I won't compromize them for anyone. If you come from a broken home, at some point in your adult life you will have to take therapy, surround yourself with better company and cut the toxic people out. Unless someone makes that change, I cannot be with them. Also, for women usually the issue of promiscuity is irreversible. Coming from a broken home could mean sometimes that they might be a single mother, or have an incredibly high body count, which I am not willing to deal with, even if the person has made the change. Some people have more tolerance than others, that's fine. I just cannot see myself in that situation. The truth is that your environment does affect your chances of marriage, as harsh as that might sound, but the changes you make in your life will not only benefit you, but they will benefit your offspring. If a single mother for example was able to turn her life around and take therapy and be less combative, settle for a decent family-oriented man who is willing to take care of her child, there more chance that the child will grow up in a better household than their mother. However, change comes from within. Nobody is going to save you but yourself. Also, understand that not everyone will be OK with you even after the change, which is also within their right, but you want to look for those who don't have a problem with your past and transformation, even if you have to settle for someone that isn't your ideal in terms of wealth. If you have less choices to make, choose wisely.

[Sarahr123]

I come from a broken home an am a virgin at 23. Your pathetic excuses are generalising and tend to only apply to certain communities of girls. Usually poor White girls in the US and sometimes UK.

[Datboi65]

@Sarahr123 "Generalization" is basically an observed pattern of behavior that is true for a lot, but not all. Does it have to be the majority? That's debatable. However, it is common enough that we can see it. Yes, white women aren't special. Even those that do come from broken households are still likely to be promiscuous. Then again, I never said that "all women who come from broken homes". Now, exceptions don't make rules. If you are a virgin, you are ahead, because most family-oriented men look for a woman with the same ideals, and one of them is waiting for marriage. You can take therapy and cut the toxic people out of your life. Best of luck.

[Dear_Panda]

OMG, I just scrolled through so many people's opinions. They are so many narrow minded people here.

Yes, I will date or marry someone from a broken family. If they had a bad past, doesn't mean they don't deserve a future.

[Lucy68]

Yeah some of them I just decided ah screw it I'm never going to find someone moment. Thank you for your kind words. I just want a happy little family someday, unfortunately according to some I guess I don't deserve one. Go figure.

[Sarahr123]

Of course. It’s not their fault and they’d probably understand me because I also had a broken home. Why would this be a dealbreaker? I’ve never heard it being a dealbreaker before. Only assholes would even think like this.

[exitseven]

I am the product of a broken home and I never really saw a loving relationship close up until I got married. At first I did not know how to deal with it.

[Sarahr123]

@exitseven yeah same I have never seen a loving relationship. My grandparents were divorced and my mum’s parents have a very unhealthy marriage though still together and my dad’s dad married many times and still has wandering eyes and my own parents had a very toxic abusive marriage until it ended when we were tiny tots. I think it made me a better and stronger person to witness all that eary on. I am more resilient because of it. It made me careful and I know exactly what to do and what not to do because I have seen pretty much the worst.

[jennifer_bloom]

I will date a guy that is depressed or anxious but not a guy that is abusive or neglectful towards me and my feelings.

[bamesjond0069]

Sure. in my opinion the best girls I've dated come from fucked up families and they realize its fucked up and want something different. Its girls who come from mostly good families who insist on doing it the same even if some of it is bad which i think is more of a problem.

[Faerum]

Absolutely, my parents divorced less than a year after I was born and Im confident in how I turned out.
I think people who came from “broken” households would fight harder to have a lasting, meaningful relationship with the right person.
I dont want my children to go through what I did and I believe that makes me try harder in my relationship than I would otherwise.

[Anajuxr]

Agree!

[ringmaster696]

Coming from a broken home means absolutely nothing in itself as long as the "pieces" loved like they should. I have no problem dating such a woman. I don't know why anyone would think that that means they are incompatible, or the other is just not worth anything or whatever. I feel like those people are more important, because they already survived a few rounds with hell.

[Wester1967]

At this point no. I dated tons of single parent or no parent women. All disasters. Because my narcissist grandmothers refused to allow me and my father to contact my grandfathers. Total absolute disaster. Sorry if it hurts your butt, but you need a daddy and a granddaddy. If you don't have either, save your bile and get therapy

[crmoore]

Yes. There are many more important things that have much more impact on my appeal for her. That, at least in essence, is more or less negligible. That's not to say there couldn't be byproduct from that that could have a larger impact on my appeal in her, but that in and of itself isn't really an issue.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't.

I come from a family where my parents stayed together through good and bad because, unlike so many people today, especially women (sadly), they had real commitment. That was the example they set for me and my siblings.

I have seen time after time that children from intact homes as well as those from broken homes tend to follow their parents' examples. I believe in true commitment and will only marry a woman who does, too.

[Lucy68]

And that's what I'm afraid of happening to me😔

[Opinion Owner]

Are you saying you're afraid you won't find a good partner or that you will end up getting divorced?

[Lucy68]

Both

[Opinion Owner]

In the end it is really up to you and how you approach relationships and marriage. You have complete control over your attitudes. There's no reason you can't have just as high a chance as anyone else of finding a stable and lasting relationship. I wish you the best.

[Lucy68]

Thank you and I have learned what to do and not to do if and when I settle down to hopefully have a little family of my own someday. Again thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you. Just the fact that you were concerned enough about it to ask this question tells me you'll have what it takes to make it for the long haul.

[Lucy68]

Thank you for your kind words and I hope you have a great day. And Merry Christmas and happy holidays.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you! And Merry Christmas and happy holidays to you too.

[DizzyDesii]

Yes as long as they dont let it affect them from being a good husband/parent to their future family

[Dchrls78104]

That would depend on the kind of person she shows herself to be. If she's decent and a Christian, yes; if she carries her bad upbringing on her back like a turtle its shell, being rude or mean to others and making the excuse that she grew up tough, then no.

[Cubus]

It's all about her personality. If she was a kind person, I loved her, and she loved me - then sure. I think it would make her want to have a better family, than she had.

[exitseven]

I am the product of a broken home and I am glad somebody took a chance on me.

[Shiningtempest]

@Lucy68 I will never date or marry a woman who came from a broken home/didn't have a good home life throughout their upbringing because I consider it as a red flag/sign of incompatibility. Thus, I won't date or marry a woman who came from a broken home even if she's mature & has a successful career.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah, I'm a person with a difficult upbringing and get better along with people who know what I'm talking about
And no I'm not dysfunctional or whatever

[Naxwi]

If they don't let it define them and gain the agency to do differently then I see absolutely no problem with it. Where we start in this world is random, what we do with it is up to us.

[Anajuxr]

Of course I would... even cause I have this family historical too. I'm actually searching for a companion like this.

[Mark987]

100% it all depends on how they act.. I know a couple that got married she was rich and he was from a bad upbringing and they turned out AMAZING. It all depends I guess

[MikeTheBartender]

In this day and age I wouldn't marry anyone. I don't care what kind of home they came from, it's just too much of a risky institution. Especially if you are a higher earning male or female.

[slatyb]

Of course. People don’t have to repeat the bad heavier of their parents.

[slatyb]

behavior... my father was mostly absent in my life. I was present.

[TheBootyChest]

Yes I would. I wouldn't reject someone who is trying to have a better life.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah no problem.

we would have things in common then

[Browneye57]

It's a giant red flag honey. For a lot of reasons. It's not a deal breaker in and of itself, but other things can be manifested from it. Proceed with caution.

[Miristheiss]

Yes... unless she has too many issues and it hurts us having a relationship.

[Blackcupcake]

yeah those things don’t define the person, unless they adopted the bad traits that led to the home being broken/toxic/dysfunctional

[Leonharted]

I'll do you one better: I married someone like that.

[SnakeBoop]

My partner proposed to me, so some definitely are up for the idea XD

[ChkltCat]

as long as she is well behaved by herself, I don't mind. Most of girls like that are quite matured for their age. And the ones who are stubborn, they become weirdos. Parents are to blame for that.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sure! As long as THEY'RE a nice person. I'm marrying HER, NOT her family!

[Dan_cColt]

F*ck no don't need that baggage figure it out like therapy, medical help, etc than progress through a healthy relationship with other people.

[Mangospacho]

Sometimes they make the best partners because they don’t take advantage of people who love them like the people they grew up with.

[OddBeMe]

No, they’re damaged goods and lost forever. jK. Actually, you’ll find the most empathic person there.

[Pharez]

Of course
Those once tend to appreciate love given to them in a relationship because they never had it that much

[noohair]

Some people are not born with the same advantages as you. but the overcome and are as good as anyone.

[EaterPeter]

I am not sure, that's tough one. I have fallen head over hills more than once. You know how that goes.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Guardian45]

Possibly. I look at the person, their qualities, our communication and compatibility. The rest doesn't matter.

[Joshua0213]

Yeah I had that too so would love to help her through it

[AkshiJanjua]

Yeah it isn't their fault that their parents were not good

[FamilyGuy2020]

Why wouldn't I marry the person I fell in love with regardless of growing up in broken home?

[Anonymous]

I've seen people from good homes turn out to be druggies, alcoholics and trouble makers... so yeah I would it doesn't mean everyone turns put bad.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Yes.

[AmandaYVR]

Yes.

[roro_hlbi]

Bad idea and I'd be careful but maybe.

[ChiTownLov]

Why not? Everyone needs love!

[call_me_scar]

Of course it's not like my home life was perfect

[Andres77]

um... that might be why i'm on my third marriage.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, I would; absolutely. That's not their fault.

[WowwGirl]

Yes as long as their life was together

[emperor90]

Yes i would love is love no matter what

[Twalli]

Yes, my girlfriends was adopted.

[LegendaryIcon]

maybe

my dad did

[888theGreat]

Marriage will fail 9/10 Times

[exitseven]

No it is more of a 50/50 split.

[Amur8711]

If they turned out good themselves then yes!

[lycanthrope3]

That life would not define them

[Yellovv]

What you mean exackly?

[Anonymous]

Sure.

[jahaims]

I did

[dudeinohio]

Sure

[Sugar_7]

Yes, why not.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sure

[Anonymous]

Why not?

[Abdulwahh]

Yes i would

[Jmmmfi4]

Describes me