Boyfriend lied to me that he has deleted his badoo account but he didn't because he has logged in from my phone?

[Anonymous]

Hello, my boyfriend lied to me that he deleted his badoo dating profile. He has logged in from my phone because at the moment his phone is being repaired. I tried to confeont him oncebut it didn't go well he denied everything and lied to me. It' been a few weeks now and again he's been messaging girls to go out he says to one of the girls that he made this account just for fun... I want to ask you guys how to confront him because this is too much to log from my phone and think that i believe him that he deleted his account. I want him to admit and tell me the truth. Ho do i do this? Please help me.

[kerrylouise]

I had an ex who sounds exactly like this.
He gaslights you. Probably tells you you're paranoid, insecure, that your the one with issues.
Irregardless of what he has to say, the problem is his behaviour and his lack of change. He doesn't take accountability. He simply doesn't care. Why?
If he did he wouldn't dream of treating you that way, because he wouldn't want to risk loosing you, or hurting you.
Confront him about it.
I'd have the page open on his conversations and pass it to him.
Then I'd tell him its over, take your phone, delete his account and remove every trace of his existence from your life.

Oh, and if you have a moment of weakness whereby you persuade yourself you ahould go back to him or give him a second chance. Don't
You know your self worth and it isn't this

[Asker]

I did that the first time i tried to confront him i had picture on my phone and gave him the phone while i was crying he said what's this what's this acting all surprised or i don't know but he denied then first said it's not his account got really angry and we started fighting then he said that's his old account. I asked him to delete it showed infront of me that he deletes the account but actually didn't. The strange thing is that then he said he would not do such a thing to hurt me, started crying and got depressed saying that he can't live without me and that he wanna die. I find this confusing because he pit that show to make me believe him i don't know.

[kerrylouise]

He is gaslighting you and his behaviour is toxic. To start fighting with one another is bad enough but hearing how he emotionally guilts you into feeling bad saying things like he can't live without you is a big red flag.
The sooner you take yourself away from him an the situation, the better.
This must be really distressing for the pair of you and clearly something isn't working.
Sometimes no matter how much we care, an love the other person, sometimes the best thing to do is walk away. Leave it amicably. You both have different ways of dealing with things and you dont see eye to eye. I can't see a resolution to this type of thing unfortunately.
I was in a relationship whereby my ex used to say he would hurt himself if i left. So of course my reaction was no to leave, but thats insane.
Why should i be compromised because of something he is threatening to do or not do.
He has underlying issues that he needs to work on, an you will need to be able to heal after all this too
Just think about all that, think about what you're being put through and how it makes you feel
You deserve to be happy

[kerrylouise]

Another thing, no relationship will work if there is no trust. He has already betrayed you by doing this an then lying when he had a chance to be honest.
Do you really see yourself with this guy for the long run?
Get away from that. Find someone who doesn't lie, or hide, or decoeve or make you question your worth.
Your braught the issue up and he still tried to get out of it and make you feel bad. Who even does that?
Clearly someone who doesn't care about anyone else but their own agenda.
Its sad to say but i think this guy is manipulative and will go through his efforts to make you believe whatever he wishes.
When your with someone who truly cares, you won't have such thing as checking each others phone, or doing this to prove that, etc. It will just flow and be free. There won't be any games or questions. You will know from how they treat you, and how they speak to you

[Anonymous]

Gaslighting at its finest. Dumb him!!! He will continue to cheat on you and hurt you and damage you so bad

[spartan55]

Your approach is all wrong, and guaranteed to fail. You want him to admit and tell the truth... okay... what does that accomplish? Nothing, because he still cheated on you. But let's be real, he will NEVER admit to what he is doing and will continue to gaslight you about it. So, you should dump him. Stop trying to figure out WHY he did it and all the other stuff that doesn't matter and focus on losing the loser. WHY? Because he is an arrogant piece of shit cheater. That a good reason?

[rod23]

If you know for sure he logged in on your phone he's lying, not the kind of boyfriend you want, because he will probably lie again. If you dont want him to use your phone, tell him and put security number in

[boggboss]

U can't if he is going to claim he didn't whilst u have proof he clearly thinks you are a fool and is attempting to make u doubt yourself

[boggboss]

U can't force people to tell the truth hun

[Wonderer12]

Might be time to not have that boyfriend