Why do boyfriends give other girls the satisfaction of looking back at them?

[Anonymous]

Dont they know they only do that to see if they can take the boyfriend away from the girl?

[20yearsolder]

It sounds like you're extremely insecure, If your man is happy in the relationship that he's in then you don't have anything to worry about. I've been married for 30 years, I still look at beautiful women but at the end of the day I'm going home to same woman

[Asker]

Yea my mom says the same thing but THE WHOLE POINT is giving other women that satisfaction that he could possibly be taken

[20yearsolder]

You want a gloss over the fact that two people have told you bluntly that you're insecure. Get over it. Guys are going to look at other girls. You're allowed to look at other guys. That doesn't mean you're chasing them.

[Asker]

🤔 ask any girl. They see it as disrespectful

[20yearsolder]

I can't argue that it's disrespectful. The person that you should be pissed off at is him not the other girls. You tell your man that I don't appreciate you looking at other women when you're with me. If you want them go have them and we will no longer be in a relationship

[Asker]

See now you're going back and forth... either it is okay or it isn't so I'm sticking to what I believe

[Asker]

Thank u

[20yearsolder]

I'm saying the dude should be able to look at a woman. Should he do it blatantly in front of you, know he shouldn't

[Beautyforeverybody]

I think you may be overthinking this. Of course it is normal for you to feel bad if your boyfriend constantly checka out other girls but if he truly loves you, no girl can take him away from you

[FlutteringFeelings]

If the guy is intentionally making eye contact with another girl then that’s disrespectful. If he glances because he see’s a beautiful woman then I would beat yourself up about it.

[FlutteringFeelings]

WOULDN’T *

[Asker]

How can I tell the difference?

[FlutteringFeelings]

Example #1: The two of you are walking side by side. A woman walks by and he looks at her and he doesn’t look away until she finally passes by. (Red flag)

Example #2: The two of you are walking a side by side. A woman walks by and he glances then instantly looks the other way or redirect his focus else where. (Green flag)

In certain situation a woman that may be physically attractive may pop out of anywhere and his eyes goes in that direction. Perhaps, a woman with a skin tight clothing or her butt is big may be in vision. Instead of him continuing to look he’ll look the other away to avoid any trouble.

The trouble can be the woman thinking he’s interested, you seeing him and you get the idea that he’s flirting, or being caught in temptation. There is nothing wrong with looking but the moment the guy acts on it by clearly staring a woman down then it’s disrespectful. Listen to your intuition because I’m sure it won’t lead you astray.

[Asker]

He says things like I want him to be blind. Or he does things like if a man is staring and googling at me then he will intentionally stare at at a woman to make me feel bad. It's a red flag for sure

[FlutteringFeelings]

Yes that’s a red flag lol

[kyleelyn199723]

If a boyfriend makes it known that he stares at other women especially around his girlfriend, then he doesn’t deserve a girlfriend.