Why do people match with you on Tinder but never reply?

[JessieBellll]

I don't get it, they say hi... And that's it
Why match?

[MrOracle]

You don't seem to understand how people use Tinder.

Guys look at a profile pic for 0.5 seconds and swipe left or right - 80% of the time they swipe right (which is "I like this"). Guys swipe right on hundreds, often thousands of girls. They have to cast a huge net, because there is tons of competition for women, and because so few women ever respond back.

Women are FAR more selective, and usually only answer a handful of matches.

When men get a match, they usually take a closer look at the profile (for the first time), and they re-evaluate the situation. If they still find her attractive (and it's not always looks that are the issue - other things in the profile may be positives or negatives), they will usually respond, and if they don't, then they'll often ignore her or even unmatch with her.

Tinder and other apps make it FAR too easy to "shop around" and to open up the search to HUGE areas - with people you'd never normally meet because they aren't local - but it also means that everyone is only interested in the top 5-10% of people, based on looks or money or status or lifestyle. For guys, everyone else gets ignored, and for girls, they get ignored unless they are willing to offer casual sex (or at least lie and imply that they are).

Nothing about dating apps are healthy, and for the vast majority of users, they're a complete waste of time.

[DaveJord]

I do not agree that "nothing about dating apps are healthy". I have had a lot of good dates from dating apps an my current long term relationship started on line. Yes she is a real person and we live in the same town and we spend at least 2 to 3 nights together every week.

But your 100% correct about everything else you have to cast a HUGE net, then see who likes you back then really read the profiles and be selective. The more you do it the better you become at it. The whole swipe left and right thing is all about looks, but when you get hits back on the profile then have to decide if its worth following up or not.

[Adam_INTJ]

Guys swipe right on a ton of girls because not many girls swipe right on them. When your only goal is to get laid with a girl who looks okay, it's easier to just swipe right on almost everybody rather than check out every girl in detail. Maybe after matching, he looks at her profile again and finds some unattractive pictures, or finds some red flags in her bio, like "no hookups."

For girls, as far as I can tell, they're looking for a guy who isn't a nobody, has a cool lifestyle, is financially stable, and seems like he would be caring. After matching, her feelings on a guy could change, because on second look, he seems like a douchebag, her standards could have changed, or she might have found a better guy.

More obviously, men and women might not message back because they found someone else, maybe their phone broke, or they decided to ditch tinder altogether.

I can't speak with any confidence toward why gay guys and lesbians wouldn't message back, because I don't know much there.

But anyway, that's my take.

[Daniela1982]

Maybe they have changed their minds about a hook up. Why is it any different than on GaG? Guys send you a message and all it says is "Hi". I guess they figure that if you were interested that you would reply. But what does that tell you? You are probably sending a "Hi" to 100 people instead of a nice message to a few. They figure their odds or getting a reply is better that way. I usually just say Hi back and that's the last you hear.

[Roguehoneylife]

Honestly I wish I knew. I think it’s bc they like the attention they feel like they get when they have a lot of matches and feel wanted from all the messages. I think they get some sort of satisfaction from “oh look at all these matches I can’t even reply to everyone there’s so many”.

[nonratracereality]

The first 3 words you learn at birth. Life is work. If you're not prepared to go through with it why bother. But that is what people do, laziness, lack of desire or readable interest. As a result there is a great deal of unknown when pursuing internet connections.

[JCrockett]

For guys, online dating (1) is a numbers game, and (2) putting effort into an opening line doesn't change the odds at all.

It just doesn't make sense to put effort into any individual girl, until she's actually shown more potential than just a swipe.

[Anonymous]

I get the same response. I match with a girl, say hi and never get a reply.
I do reply when they talk to me and try to see if we have chemestry.

I mean, I met my ex-girlfriend with that app and she was the one who sent me a like first. We matched and that was it.

But, every other girl I have met there just wants sex like the next day, or right away.
And, I don't want just sex, I want a relationship.

Hope this helps.

[whosnumber1]

haha, I made a post about this here. not necessarily about tinder but girls in genera. this is 85 percent of how all girls are online. my 22 year old nephew (who is a muscular good looking lad) can attest to the same thing. girls will initiate the conversation and then nothing... crickets.

don't get discouraged. it's some kind on online phenomenon. 😉

[molonski2]

You do get some matches that you make by mistake , so often they " unmatch " then work back though the list , I dont use anymore , but I dont wish to meet straight up , I like to suss them out , make sure its all " real " .

[jshm2]

It's called negging and they are expecting you to chase them, rather than the other way round. They will often ghost you though and are a waste of time.

[kareka]

I don't know!!!
If they dont wanna talk why they are on there

[JessieBellll]

Exactly

[LikeALog]

I guess they go with the photo and afterwards read the profile and lose interest or just match everything and wait for a message.

[Aurora1010]

Many guys give a like to many girls just to get matches but aren't interested in talking to all of them

[Prettygurl12]

I feel like dating apps are just for ego boosts and not to actually find a partner.

[slatyb]

They are just perving pictures, seeing who will match with them. They may not be available.

[England4eva]

Because they are matching for ego. Counting how many girls are attracted to them.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I wouldn't know. Have about as little trust for Tinder as for TikTok. Which is to say, almost zero.

[zagor]

Some people swipe left (or right, whichever means accept on Tinder - I don't use it) on nearly everyone. And then don't bother following up on most of them.

[Likes2drive]

Maybe they are being nice saying hi but they have so many other matches that they don’t choose you, have you put your real age on there? I never used Tinder since it’s just for hook ups here

[AviatorTom]

IMHO, Tinder is an app for trolls and people who just like to look at pictures. I never use it.

[kellytheman]

I feel like they just think your pretty and that's why they match. Also they might have no money so they can't pay to reply back.

[clampfan101]

Maybe they’re bots?
Personally I never got a message or reply from anyone on any dating app/site I’ve ever tried…

[larry69]

It happens all the time to guys. I dont understand that ghosting stuff but it reality. The women that do talk just ask for money.

[anton_dee]

Yup, I faced the same shit a few times. It is weird. Maybe they were bored and were browsing.