Is it possible to find a girlfriend if you don't go out much?

[JessieBellll]

I know guys who don't meet girls and don't have lot of friends. How do they find gfs?

[MrOracle]

it's not impossible, but it's incredibly unlikely. Which is one reason why people try dating apps, but relationships almost never happen via dating apps, and for most guys, NOTHING happens in the real world due to dating apps. Dating apps are for the top 10% (and an *occasional* exception) to get casual sex from lots of women, and for lots of women to get a lot of attention from a lot of guys who they never intend to have sex with or even meet in person.

Meeting people out in the real world is the only thing that works, but, yeah, you have to actually make the effort and go outside.

[JessieBellll]

To what places?

[MrOracle]

You're going to have to figure that out for yourself, based on what you've got around you. Where are single men in your target age range likely to be? Restaurants, movie theaters, gyms, activity clubs, parks, out walking their dog, pool halls, bowling alleys, and, yes, in the UK, often in pubs. You've got to adjust where you go and where you spend that time based on who you're trying to find - don't go to a college bar looking for 40 year old guys, for example.

[jaybee281]

I do truly think that that problem would be fixed by going out more and looking more attractive - Now I'd say "online" but women online are very picky (especially if they're looking for a serious relationship, and rightfully so of course) - and how picky women (most, especially if they're very attractive, again rightfully so) are means he has to beat the competition which is a bunch of other dudes who are swiping right and might be more attractive than he is - Doomed plan..

[JessieBellll]

Going where?

[Ginevra1998]

You probably need to go out and approach women you find cute. Its difficult online. Live your life and you might see a woman of your taste, then just go and talk to her (as long as its in the day, don't scare us when it's dark, its our biggest nightmare)

[Somegirl678]

i know some guys approach women randomly on the streets, u could have a go at that lol

[Honestguyopen]

I would suggest picking activities you enjoy and be loyal to the places you go where there is a mixed crowd. This way you can run into someone and then it's about striking up or holding a conversation

[JessieBellll]

Good idea

[AndyOh]

On-line, dating sites, sex boards... and a Whole Lotta Luck!

Better odds if you just get out and do things you like. Maybe the stars will align and you bump into a gal who takes an interest in you. We hope anyway.

[DarkWinterNights]

Probably much harder, but possible. You still have to be actively looking though. nearly all of my hobbies are traditional male-dominated. The few that aren’t- some outdoorsy, hiking and camping aren’t exactly sociable activities.

[Fireguy17]

It sure is.
Join one of the better dating sites, where you have to pay to join, not one of the hook up sites.
The vast majority of those people are also looking for the same thing.

[Pj1981]

Sure it is. I hardly ever go out and I don't do online dating. I have a couple times but I haven't in 4 years

[JessieBellll]

How did you do it

[globetrotter22]

It can be a long time girlfriend or they met them online. Or they just got lucky and met them through happenstance.

[nonratracereality]

Through meeting in person or through a phone call or email transmission.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Yes, espacially now. with the internet and all the apps, websites,...

[exitseven]

I have heard that people can meet online. It is probably harder but it has been known to work.

[kellytheman]

I find that they might get lucky once and might find a girl that they are compatible with when they finally go out.

[DaveToo]

When you get the answer to that, please feel free to enlighten me.

[clampfan101]

Are they making them up? lol I can’t think of anything else.

[shanshu]

That's why online dating was invented, I have no luck with it, I suck at dating, no girl finds me attractive

[Jerre]

Hard to say for me. I go out a lot and never have trouble finding a girl.

[JessieBellll]

Where do you find them

[Jerre]

Mostly in our local pub. People tend to gather there for drinks, dancing and meeting other people.

[Likes2drive]

Yeah through dating apps or friends if you don’t go out

[Den1971]

Always. There's girls every where. Stores, stop lights, gas stations

[Better_off_here]

you can meet someone anywhere if you leave the house for any reason you will run into someone you may like after all.

[TheAfrikan]

Probably we meet girls once we do hit into our hobbies or rather once they show up in the course of our hobbies.

[najekim]

Some ask family whether they know of any single ladies available.

[OddBeMe]

They don’t. Luckily I’m already married so I can be happily introverted.