Based off your experience, when you fell for someones personality rather than their looks, did you last? (Page 2)

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So i just dropped a new mixtape, I mean mytake, but I realized i left out one guy. He was the one person who had a personality that i was more attracted to than his looks.  He was such a great guy and I do feel I loved him just as he loved me. But remember, I said I need to be IN LOVE to surpass such flaws. What I felt for him was sadly not unconditional. By month 3, I left him for someone who I was previously into before having met him. The person i left him for was someone I had wanted forever and someone who had the personality of the guy above, yet he also had the looks. He had one upped the man. Yea it probably sounds shallow, but I just have to go for someone who I am initially attracted to both the looks and personality of. Otherwise, i probably won't stick around for long. But after having hurt that man, I’ve chosen not to put another guy through that pain just because he may have had a great personality.  So I’m asking this because I constantly see people saying looks dont matter. But have you lasted with the person who’s looks you didn't give a damn about?  #FeelFreeToList #WhoDoYouLove #LooksDoMatter

YollyM · Answer

Personally when I COMPARED the duration of my past relationships where I fell for the person's personality (and not necessarily their looks) and When I fell for the person's looks (and not necessarily their personality).
The relationships where I fell for the person's personality lasted longer. But honestly without comparison, they only lasted a little while. It's important to fall for both looks and personality.

exitseven · Answer

okay- I met somebody who was only average in the looks department. She was really talented and funny. We became friends and hung out a lot. The truth is that the more I got to know her, the better looking she got to me. I fell in love with her and we were together for 4 years.
I still have a picture of her from when we went to Montreal. I look at that picture today and I wonder what I saw in her in the first place.

Likes2drive · Answer

Looks matter, there has to be some attraction , just personality doesn’t work, I’ve tried that a couple of times and it didn’t last

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

that I am not my ex boyfriend did change into a toxic after year of relationship broke up with him. after found guys that I wasn't attractive to in real life and another guy already has a girfirend. the guys on facebook. some werids other were not. other one guy didn't even borthing putting a time or date and day for it. I now been texting new guy and has called me more then once on the phone.

lancecantee · Answer

The longest lasting and best relationships I've had were with people I was mentally attracted to, which is a big part of how you live and function together, including shared hobbies. The times I was with someone mostly from physical attraction/chemistry, it may have lasted, but not as enjoyable.

kellytheman · Answer

I have fell for a girl personality more than her looks for awhile but for some reason we started to drift away. I feel maybe our personalities were still evolving and her was one way and my went another way and for awhile we didn't like each other as much anymore.

MountAverage · Answer

I couldn't and wouldn't ever date someone with only one or the other. I might hookup with someone based on her looks primarily, but even then I'd have to find her nice and get along with her somehow. Looks alone will never be enough. Personality alone will never be enough either, because I'm a visual person and I need certain visual stimuli to feel sexually attracted to someone.

It will always be some kind of mix of both things for me, never just one or the other.

Quigly · Answer

In todays world everyone is going in different directions with their life. Being in a relationship is easy, long term can be difficult. Most of my relationships have separated having nothing to do with not getting along with a girl, Just a bad set of circumstances in the way. Changing jobs, moving away etc, etc

ElvenMr · Answer

Physical attraction needs to be there to some extent as well. I don't mean she must have big boobs and ass. I need to like her looks, not too muscular or not too fat. I prefer sportier looking girls i think still. And i'm happy lol.
And i need to like the girls's voice as well to be really into her. It seems like it's a big deciding factor for me.
Her personality is maybe a bit more important then her voice tho.

JosyJosy · Answer

I don't fall for looks. Sure looks do matter but if you're handsome I'm not going to be like "O GOD, TAKE ME AS YOUR WIFE" no. Time makes me catch feelings for you, so personality. A cute guy is just a cute guy and that's it.

menina · Answer

I've never been on a relationship but I'm pretty sure that if I had a relationship based on personality it wouldn't last. Looks are 100% important to me.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I fall for intelligence and personality, looks are secondary but I think beneficial because the smart ones who look good and have been focused on merely for their looks are glad someone actually realizes they have a brain

Lynx122 · Answer

It's a difficult situation. I think it is possible but it can also not work. Sometimes no matter how much you like someone as a person you don't love them but sometimes it does work so you have to just figure it out.

RobT312 · Answer

Yeah, fell in love with her personality before her looks. Liked her looks too but it was her personality that made me want to date her. i guess it worked, going on 5 years...

NathanDavis · Answer

all my relationships lasted years... and they were never based on the looks, not as a priority they happened to be attractive though, but that was no coincidence either... lol

Jessica405 · Answer

Been with my guy for 5 years 3 months. I became his partner because of his personality, thoughtfulness and kindness. Same values and interests.

ItsMeElliana · Answer

I love his personality so much rn that his looks are just a + to him

MysticDevice · Answer

It did. She wasn't the prettiest but she was the coolest in my book. About a year and a half it lasted. Considering the average till then was 4 weeks that was pretty darn good.

VarddaanKaushikk · Answer

I Fell In Love with a girl's Personality 2 Years ago , Not that she isn't Good Looking , God She's Gorgeous ! But her personality was so Pure , Genuine and Positive that I couldn't help but fall in love with her. We've been together since then !

weysally · Answer

it was my husbands personality that attracted me first to him,

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