Do you lower or raise your standards as you get older?

Question

I noticed I'm lowering on looks and personality, but raising on character, consistency and stability.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Regarding looks, I wouldn't call it "lowering" your standards. It makes you sound shallow in your younger years. And while that's likely true, it wasn't in a deliberate (or cognitive) way. Dating should be about learning the type of person that suits you best. Until you know that, you choose mostly based on physical attraction. Hence, unintentionally, shallow.

I think it's better descibed as lowering the value you place on looks. Instead, let's look at it as "broadening" your standards on looks.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Mine hardly change. I've liked what I’ve liked since forever. I just stop allowing people into my life who have a “vibe” but yet dont have the standards. Im done with that shit

Diodoro · Accepted Answer

A standard means that it's the bare minimum that you'll accept.

If you accept something below what you call a standard, then it's not a standard it's a preference. Average person over time will have higher preferences as they age but their actual standards don't change very much.

Standard usually only change to the extent that you change as a person. Usually directly connected to your self-esteem

GreenLanternI0I · Accepted Answer

Me personally it is quite the opposite. During my high school years, I looked like a 10 year old kid lol, now I'm 34 and apparently the way I aged my looks are high in demand. Plus, since I have spent all this time building myself up, both financially, ethically, morally etc... my standards went a whole lot higher, because I know Exactly what I'm able to bring to the table.

MrNameless · Answer

I have to be attracted to them in some way physically, but they don't have to be models/dolls though. Character, loyalty and emotional stability is definitely important

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Not lower or higher, just different. On the other hand, the emotions are more under control, so I can be more objective about it.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

My standards have definitely lowered some in the looks department.

(But I don't want anyone reading this to feel insecure if I choose to date them. Because, keep in mind teenage boys are way too shallow to begin with!)

Avicenna · Answer

Raise. I won't date a woman who has any financial or other issues, with the lone exception being overweight ( because she can lose weight).

DaveToo · Answer

My standards haven't changed over the years. She has to have a vagina, naturally red hair, intelligent, have a good sense of humor, and be pleasing to the eyes.

Aelleden · Answer

I always had mega high standards lol, i've been single for long time too so it should decrease but it keeps raising funnily

Surely · Answer

As you get older. You see less of what you would call unattractive people. But you start looking past the outside towards their inner self and worth. Not necessarily wealth.

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

now i am not sure what do. I know that i can't have my own kids but my other guy that i been talking to didn't want kids.

Fireguy17 · Answer

mine stayed pretty consistent. Now at bar closing time, it came down to did they have a pulse.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Going with normalize. As much as I grown to give a fuck less about social situations, I care more about personal health nowadays. Ugh.

Progressiveness8 · Answer

I never lower my standards if a man thinks he's gonna cheat on me and I won't do it back to you you're wrong fuck me over I'm getting even

Mavie123 · Answer

I care less about looks I care more about personality now <3

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

I think you'll always know who you are attracted to and if care about someone at any age.

TheFlak38 · Answer

that's because you hit the wall and the new generations of fresh young sluts have replaced you.

jahaims · Answer

The last three things you listed are part of personality

Gangactivities911 · Answer

My have dramatically gone up but I’m not sure that’s typical

2021biguy · Answer

Some things become more important but you still have to be attracted to someone.

legalboxers · Answer

at 45.. they are still the same.. someone with a pulse and who's normal

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Oh wow same here, Lets talk on that in DM if you want ;)

Citizenkirk · Answer

I modify them as needed.

poof_22 · Answer

keep your standards high and your expectations low

ChiTown33 · Answer

Yeah that sounds pretty normal.

Tomtom9494 · Answer

I lower my standards so I can succeed

Dora89 · Answer

Yes I won’t put up lot of BS.

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure how that will play out for me.

In_Trance · Answer

raise

LegendaryIcon · Answer

raise

emperor90 · Answer

Lower my standards

Slim57 · Answer

Raise

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

Anonymous · Answer

I raise them.

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