This list is what I have learned over the years from my own experience and wish that I knew sooner.
1. Do not listen to words, rather watch their actions. Actions speak louder than words. People can tell you the most beautiful things you like to hear like "I love you", but if their actions don't back those words, then the words mean nothing.
2. Do not date 'unhappy' people (aka people with depression). That doesn't mean those with depression don't deserve love. It means that they often become toxic to those around them. Experts as well as anyone who has experienced this will tell you that unhappy people will project their misery on you sooner or later. Even if they do not mean it. You want to be a loving partner, not a personal therapist. Because it will DRAIN you. Someone who needs to sort themselves out should not enter a relationship that will force their partner to deal with their problems. And you're not obligated to deal with that.
3. Do not date people who don't love themselves. A person who doesn't love themselves cannot give love to another or don't know how to receive your love properly. You'll end up being the one who gets hurt.
4. Avoid long distance relationships (LDRs). Not only do LDRs fail most of the time, but they also bring more hurt than joy. You'll spend more time longing and wishing than experiencing. Don't buy into the "LDRs are more pure since you get to know the person really well". This is often a facade because people act differently online than in real life. So these people are learning to love an online persona rather than the actual person.
5. Love, but don’t love too deeply. Life isn’t a Disney fairytale and it never will be. The deeper your feelings (especially at your age), the deeper the pain will be when you break up. Which is most likely going to happen.
6. Do not obsess &revolve your life around them. They should be an addition, not your main focus. You both should live your own lives and have your own interests.
7. Careful with becoming sexual. Next to the dangers of STDs and pregnancy, studies show that engaging in sex too early will increase the chance of negative consequences later in life
8. Do not accept disrespect. No matter if it is emotional or mental abuse, racism from their family, mindgames, unfaithfulness, etc. No person in this world is worth getting belittled and mistreated.
9. Take it slow. Don't rush things. Romance is not the only thing in life and will always happen, regardless if you're single now or happen to break up later. You'll always meet someone else and perhaps better than the last
That you should be honest no matter what. Don’t ignore how you’re feeling to spare someone else’s feelings. If they can’t handle your honesty and you two can’t communicate like healthy individuals, then the relationship won’t work out as you’ll end up hiding how you really feel and make yourself miserable. If someone is truly the right one for you, they will appreciate your honesty and try to communicate with you and work out the issue.
Choose wisely. Go for guys who have a good personality, not looks… Having someone with a good personality beats the good looks any day. Having someone you can trust, someone who cherishes you, someone who treats you well, someone who wants something genuine, is what matters most. Have decently high standards for yourself. Know yourself well enough to put up boundaries in what you will and won’t accept.
I learned the way you interact with somebody matters more than their individual qualities as a person and if you don’t feel fulfilled, you should end things
Ok I'm just going to be straight up honest. If you haven't noticed yet you're beautiful girl and it's going to be too many guys that want 2 *DATE YOU* Now here comes the tricky part 99 out of 100 guys that want to date you don't really want to date you we want to get in your pants because you are a very beautiful girl you are very sexy girl and these guys you're going to think of themselves as studs. They're called 2 minutes studs. They will tell you anything and everything they think they have to tell you to get into your pants but once they do, They're off to the next girl they're going to have their 2 minute sex with you and then tell you that your friends did they got into your pants and they are a stud stay away from those 99 guys Now let's pretend that you find somebody that you do like and you have sex there's a moment in time where you're going to experience the moment right before you have an orgasm you going to look into his eyes you're going to know everything that he's thinking he's going to know everything you're thinking that's because two energies have just become one is the most beautiful feeling in this world but understand something it is the most beautiful feeling in this world two energies becoming one don't mistake it as love so many people get caught up in that feeling because they've never felt it before and they mistake it as love what you feel that feeling make it a goal of yours to understand that feeling and what it means it will change your life for the better once you understand that feeling you won't wait for that orgasm part to happen you will incorporate that into your life each and every moment of the day it is not loved it is just too People's Energy becoming one and when you learn how to understand that energy like I said it will change your world. This is even where adults get mixed up they feel that passion that desire that beautifulness with that other person it makes me think that it is love because they just made them feel something special this is why there's so many breakups in this world because people think it's love they crave that feeling because it it is one of the most beautiful things in the world don't get caught up in that crap he will break your heart okay moving on The guy that can look into your eyes and talk to you The guy who will not push the issue of having sex with you The guy that wants to call you all the time and be with you all the time The guy who gets jealous cuz that's it go cuz that's just who he is and he knows the difference between somebody liking you somebody loving you and somebody that wants to be with you and he can't control any of it so he just lets it happen that's the guy you want to be with Okay so now let's say you are with a guy the moment he lies to you it is over with do not believe one more word that he says it is over with get out of the situation now if he yells at you if he touches you in the wrong way walk away and don't look back once you allow a guy to lie to you what you allow a guy to put his hands on you it only gets worse do not even think about going there walk away Runaway you are so much more worth it to do not get caught up in that bullshit. don't be in a hurry. To grow up. Who remember this you are the boss of your body what you say goes not what he says you are the best no condom no sex that has to be a rule number one rule no matter what he tells you you have to say no condom no sex And remember this we all were given a gift when we were bored that gift is the gift of choice we get to choose who we want to be in this life by the things that we say and do your eyes tell me that you're very smart you have a beautiful heart stay that way be your own leader do not follow and you will have a very wonderful life
Just be genuine if you really do love them and if they ask for ya to get pregnant. Stand firm that saying they can make enough money. To support a family isn't the same as doing it. The dumbest thing a woman can do in dating is end up a single mom cause they didn't verify the man they sleeping with is actually ready.
My sister didn't have kids till she verified with the whole family and her husband was ready. As it can take a village in a sense to raise a kid. Know the lifestyle you want and only settle with a man that is at least able to be your rock if your goal in life is to be his equal.
1 - Have fun, and don’t forget people have varying degrees of attachment. You may get more attached which is the more vulnerable side of things.
2 - always have a hobby. Don’t let your partner be your only creative and emotional outlet
3 - Listen to what they say. Even if it’s poorly articulated, or only partially understood by them, small comments can explain complex problems
4 - Don’t be easy to get, and don’t undervalue your time. It’s valuable, and they need to respect you for it
5 - be honest with them and make an effort.
Finally this goes for friends also. Pick people that listen to your hard times, and celebrate your victories. Don’t spend prolonged time with those who don’t. Afford them the same duty.
Whatever bothers you in the first place, no matter how small, if it is repeated, talk about it. Do not let it fester. What you do not like initially under the influence of hormone would become something you cannot stand once the initial passionate phase is done.
—Don’t listen to all of the negativity about dating although a lot of the stuff people say does have truth to it. Go in with a positive mind set and trust that you will meet a good person. —Don’t play into the game playing men cut them off as soon as possible and save yourself some time.
—Take it slow and don’t over think things and start rushing the relationship
I never had Girlfriends in my life coz i was super shy around them , don't know how to start conversation... I always wished that girl should take a first moove but it never happend and here i am single... always...😅. So don't be like me at least... that's what i can say... to you.
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That some people are great actors/actresses. My advice for women is don't get caught up in romantic fantasies you might have in your head. Often we see what we want to see, and ignore warning signs. If you question something or something isn't right about them, or something you don't like, don't ignore that thinking it'll go away or fix itself over time. Chances are it'll become a BIG issues down the road when the initial excitement wares off.
Be friendly but be picky. There's a world full of good people out there. But just because you see someone is a good person doesn't automatically make them a match for you. Also don't let bad experiences break you or harden your heart. Hold yourself accountable for YOUR failures don't blame yourself for OTHER people's failures.
Relationships are like puddings it's on you how you bake it and what flavour you want.
You will only know when you taste your pudding how good or bad it is others reviews don't matter much because it's your pudding
Other peoples experience with their pudding and taste would be very different so don't let others judge your pudding. Be your own judge and make your own experience you will never know untill you try
From my current relationship I would say that the sooner you are yourself and not what you think he wants the better. What you want is a person who wants who you are. If you're goofy, act goofy. You don't want to have to put on an act to be with a guy. My girlfriend and I are who we are with each other.
just stay true to yourself. don't do something if it makes you unhappy. compromise is one thing but relationships are a give and take. it's easy to get caught up in things especially when lust or passionate feelings are involved but relationships are relationships and respect is the most important thing above all else.
People generally make the bare minimum effort to understand you lest they overlook whatever it might take to get you to understand them. Only players and genuinely good people have learned to step up that effort.
I learned that I needed to literally list my values and make those a priority when choosing a long term partner, especially when I intended to start a family. I learned that addiction is more common than I thought.
I've learned never to give in to some loser guilt tripping you into dating them. Once you give in, it's over. Get ready for emotional torture for years to come.
It’s important to make sure you’re mentally stable before entering a relationship. On top of that, it’s also not your responsibility to be another person’s entire support system.
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