Guys, if a woman is being cold to see how interested you really are, what would you do?

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Depends if I'm actually invested enough emotionally to bother addressing it at all. If she's just some random I happen to be talking to, but nothing's really at stake so to speak, then I might just be like "ok, you do your thing, but I'm out, bye bye", and wash my hands of the whole situation.

But if I actually feel more invested in her, and I know she's just making a mistake in how she tries to elicit more investment, then I'd call out the behavior in a matter of fact way, and let her know that although I like HER as a person, I DON'T like the strategy she's employing to try and twist my thumbscrews. And if she wants things to progress any further together then she needs to drop the precocious brat act and just play nice. I did a version of this conversation a couple times before, and in one case she totally flipped, was apologetic, respected me more, and we ended up dating for 2+ years. In the other case, she got weird about it, doubled down (perhaps thinking I was bluffing?), and so I just faded out on her. Then a few weeks later she starts messaging me wandering why I've faded and trying to play sweet, but I saw through it and just politely said some version of "pass" lol

[Anonymous]

I don't waste my time or energy pursuing women who make it clear they are not interested. I wouldn't know whether they are playing games or not. But some guys continue to pursue a woman even though she shows she's not interested. I'm just not one of them.

But I do have a question for you women. Why do you play this game but also complain when men continue to persist in their advances after you seemingly make it clear you're not interested? Do you not see the problem you create for yourself, and the blatant hypocrisy you display to men?

[OlderAndWiser]

If a girl plays games with me, I'll let her go find boys to play with because this man wants a woman who doesn't play games.

[MrCommodore]

This has happened a few times with me, where a girl is hot/flirting and full on with attention, then she turns cold for no reason for a few days.

In those circumstances I just don't let it bother me, I just act normal and don't chase after her and don't ask what's wrong.

If she flirts with other guys in front of me, that's a red flag, so I no longer consider her as girlfriend material after that, but will still be friendly and cool with her.

[loveslongnails]

I will only pursue for a limited amount of time if a woman is cold or rude. If she's going to play that game before we even know each other, I can only imagine the games she'll play once we do. By not fighting for her attention, like all the other guys will do, she'll be more attracted to me and wonder why I'm not in the mix. Then she'll have to come after me and, here's a novel approach, be sweet and welcoming!

[LegendaryIcon]

This sounds lke a girl I've known for 10 years, approx.

Like, for example, she'll watch more stories, and she'll read my texts, but, she'll then leave me on read. She'll like my photos and she'll tell me where she works BUT if i try asking her when she works, she doesn't answer

She seems to only do 50% of the work. Why?

[Lionman95]

No to be honest I mostly don't get when a woman is into me.
I honestly don't know when a woman is playing cold but actually interested in me I most times rather interpret as a sign that I just thought that she's into me but actually isn't.

[Sevenpointfive]

being a cold bitch doesn't work too well on a guy. it does work being a cold asshole that gives her no attention.

but the game is stupid because you play it carefully or lose quickly

[VanillaSalt]

Fuck that bitch I’m not fighting for you. If I gotta play games your not worth my god damn time manipulation isn’t cute it’s stupid childish games.

[Phoenix98]

That's a waste of my time which is finite. And I’m not gonna play that game.

if you won’t show me you interested then don’t be surprised when I go and find someone who will.

[Stevepro68]

No and guys that do are generally aggressive alpha gamers. The type of guys girls complaint the most about. You get what you pay for in this life.

[Vikkrram]

Nope i would take it as my rejection and would think that she is not interested in me... ya it will hurt me... but i would try my best to moove on.