Are you attracted to argumentative people?

Question

Whether they're always starting arguments or just quick to engage in them, is that something you find attractive or is it a total turn-off?

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

My husband is an attorney. I am a cop. We are argumentative at appropriate times. Which is to say... at work as necessary.

I have a friend who I've known since 2nd grade. She's argumentative with everyone. I can only handle her in small, infrequent doses lol

She's also an attorney, but unlike my husband, always seems to come off as confrontational and I deal with enough of that at work so having to do so in my personal time is a lot lol

Example conversation:

Me: Hey there's a smoothie cart over there and I got a piña colada smoothie and it's really good.

Friend: Why did you get piña colada? Does that mean you don't like banana? What do you have against other flavors? You should be more open-minded about your flavor options. What if I get a banana smoothie? What then?

Me: Bruh. I decided what flavor to get on the fly as I was ordering it. Calm down 🙄

youngmix · Accepted Answer

Yes and no.
Short term yes, long term no. And it depends on their type of argumentative. Some people are just very well thought out, and anyone can be boisterous or over confident in their intellect despite their ignorance.

If a guy is simply well thought out, then we're good.
If he's still sure of his conclusions despite complete ignorance, then he would qualify for short term attraction. It's okay to not know everything, but some people have a tough time not being perfect.

In the long run, these people get on my nerves. Your looking dumber and dumber every day, because you're wrong about more and more issues that you come across, so you never learn the truth about those issues. I've met a few people like this in college, fun for a while, but increasingly annoying.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I´d go for the last option because it´s not always a good quality. I like discussion and I can really enjoy even if we separate still without agreeing but I can´t have this the whole time.
I think it´s a good sometimes because a person that raises arguments in my view shows that he or she has a point worth fighting for but sometimes it´s can be annoying if a person wants to debate everything.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Turn off tbh. To me an argumentative person is a person who starts arguments for the sake of arguing, or starts arguments over trivial shit, and I can't stand those people, I can't stand jaded angry bitter people who thrive on starting drama.

Someone who is bubbly and kind but corrects people who are mistaken, is not an argumentative person to me though, I like those types.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Apparently I do. I think I’d attracted to the “outspoken” type of guys. The ones who aren’t afraid of speaking their mind and voicing their opinions with confidence and respect. Definitely attractive.

Mona458 · Answer

I am good at explaining things to people who need them but out of love i do not use this skill unless the other person genuinely wants to know with a pure emotionally positive/calm. Being quick to join bitter resentful caustic arguments helps no one. Humans need to be lovingly guided not bombarded with logic even if its perfect logic. (Of course some people will resist loving guidance too) try your best all 💓 also someone who loves you will be patient with your argumentative ways but you should still try to be a loving person if you are argumentative. That is from the Biblical version of love: bearing with anothers weaknesses guiding them lovingly and patiently whilst improving on your own weaknesses.

Fayeleo · Answer

We all love people who has brains, who has constructive opinions but that is different from argumentative. Argumentative is tiresome. You have work, you have client, you have projects, and imagine you come back home facing someone argumentative for big or small things. Nah.. I want a break I want a personality who cheers me up with humors, with understanding, definitely not argumentative.

thatonearies · Answer

I say so. I like someone who can debate with me about certain topics as I love to think and learn about other people's perspective. That requires a person to be a bit argumentative or at least be passionate about what they believe in (who wants a pushover?).

Msputiton · Answer

Never ever would that attract me.

Could you imagine being married to someone like that.
Even saying good morning could turn into an argument.

Him:That's not the proper way to say good morning.

Me: if you say so

Him: it's not, you don't know what you're talking bout.

Me: ok

Him: are you crazy! It's not.

Me: I'm not even arguing

Him: why because you know you're wrong? Because you are!!!

genericname85 · Answer

well depends. if they have great communication skills, those people can be great to talk to. because making arguments needs intelligence. making arguments with the individual psychological state of the other person in mind is a even higher art, that i am far off from having mastered.

FreyaRed · Answer

No, they make often themselves to clowns. Having a thoughtful opinion is okay, but those people seek confrontation with someone they should cooperate like their partners or friends. From my perspective in matter being psychologically attractive for others is their behavior idiotic.

dr_vincentG · Answer

Not argumentative. I would say respectable, good-faith, open to being wrong or/& right while maintaining a heated/passionate, ratchet street-fight quality of banter/debate. Basically good sports-wo-man-ship like conduct, which like chivalry was slaughtered or is now legend...

victoriaxoxo · Answer

I don’t understand people who always want to argue. But I have dated a man previously who said ‘arguing’ was natural and kept the relationship ‘alive’. That relationship was so so stressful and I’m glad it ended.

JasM0 · Answer

Generally, no and I believe that most who say they do aren’t in a good place.

Academically, arguments are developmental for all involved and bring good faith to the discussion. Without good faith, it’s a toxic.

Best of luck!

melanieeeB · Answer

I don't like to discuss, like we can have different opinions and talk it out but I'm not going to talk about the same shit over and over again and people who constantly argu tent to repeat themselves and I find it exhausting

DizzyDesii · Answer

No. I hate arguing and will just walk away after speaking my piece

SolitaryGuy · Answer

Bold to be precise.. Intellectually Ending an argument is attractive.. However starting stupid arguments is totally unattractive and knowing when to argue and when to not is also an attractive trait coz being calm and the silence speaks volumes at those time

pleasestopthis · Answer

Depends on why the arguments start, I believe one can argue when something it's wrong, in which case it's fine but there are people who can't have a single conversation without it becoming an argument, in which case I try to stay away from them.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

It's completely unattractive. I've dealt with people who are like that, nightmare, unless they're defending themselves or someone else.

Still-alive · Answer

if you mean argumentative as in outspoken yes argumentative as in they just like to pick fights over small shit. yeah thats bad

JosyJosy · Answer

I don't like people who love to argue just to do it. But I like people who argue to stand their ground for something they think is right, as long as it's done in a civil manner.

slatyb · Answer

It's exhausting. I'm happy to discuss issues IF the person's views are based on actual facts and not "alternative facts".

ohshee · Answer

I absolutely hate it and I won't put up with it I don't like people that like to argue and I won't argue I'm very quiet I like to be invisible I don't like to be seen or heard LOL and I don't want anybody bringing attention to any way shape or form

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Occasionally. Someone who agrees with you all the time without question would be extremely boring. Obviously constant arguments over minutia would be a problem. Basically someone who isn't a doormat.

Mr1derful · Answer

I hate it and is a complete turn off to me, because I'm one of the most laid back people and hate drama and fighting and can agree to disagree about mostly anything.

humpbackjack · Answer

It’s not attractive at all of course there’s a difference between standing up for yourself and just arguing to argue

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends on if I'm on their side or not. It's definitely attractive if we have similar views, obvz

Vick2727 · Answer

I like a woman who can debate. Who can speak how she feels without getting mad.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s even more annoying when a girl claps her hands while yelling and arguing.

Flower7 · Answer

There are very few qualities that I dislike more than being argumentative.

DonkeyDan · Answer

I don't find people who constantly feel the need to argue at all attractive.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't like arguments but I try to keep things for real and quick to keep things where the argument won't continue to upset me

NathanDavis · Answer

if, by argumentative you mean the "Karen" type... then hell naw, not at all

TadCurious · Answer

Bella I'm not attracted to people like that. They're not pleasant to be around.  😊🙋‍♂️

TwistedSukuna · Answer

My entire family is like this and I've grown to resent it

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Argumentative people are just that... Argumentative and nothing more. Why the heck would I like that?

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'm attracted to women who are my equal and that will challenge me to be better. But women who flat out just want to argue? Of course not.

jobego · Answer

my ex was like that and it was not attractive she was hot but that was it

chilldude33 · Answer

i literally never argue it makes no sense to me why people argue

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Let's say i have been blocked by many girls for the same reason 😂

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Fuck no. If there's an argument, I'm outta there.  Simples...

xJayleenx · Answer

No growing up with a mom like that made me afraid of having a relationship with those people. Luckily me and my boyfriend have never argued

Morri94 · Answer

It's very attractive if they know what they're talking about and have original, yet reasonable ideas, but who would be attracted to an argumentative fool?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

As long as they're chill, yeah. I don't like the angry types.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I'd rather live in the desert, or the corner of some rooftop, than with an argumentative person.

Jintendo18 · Answer

No, especially the type that don’t even listen to what the other person is saying.

qwert1234 · Answer

I am attracted to people who's beliefs and principles aren't easily swayed unless they are proven wrong or a better idea comes up.

BidensRottedBrain · Answer

I like debating because it consists of talking and listening. Arguing is just pointless.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Occasionally it can be good but not if it's all the time

dolemite89 · Answer

no i hate people that argue a bunch just for the hell of it

Anonymous · Answer

Uh, no. I dated someone like this and it's a complete turn off.

dustybiker · Answer

Socially challenged. Pass.

Blackcupcake · Answer

nope I like someone who’s silence is powerful😇

sheikalana · Answer

I hate and avoid conflict at all costs.

MelonSoda · Answer

I don't really like getting into fights, so no.

HighValue · Answer

No. I like a calm, relaxing home life.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

It needs to be in moderation.

loveslongnails · Answer

I avoid them like the plague.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

It’s a turn off to me

KellyKOO · Answer

Oh no I stay away from those people.

jahaims · Answer

Immaturity is not attractive

Citizenkirk · Answer

No, not really 🙃.

Marianna34n · Answer

Nooo

Not_Average · Answer

Not at all

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