He said he wants Something casual to lead into a relationship. Thoughts?

[anonbrunette99]

[Not_Average]

His priorities are wrong. If he’s interested in who you are, then he should be spending time with you and taking you out. He shouldn’t just say I’ll fuck and then I’ll decide later without any commitment. If that’s not the dynamic in which you’re seeking, don’t settle for it. Good chance you’ll just get rejected and used.

[anonbrunette99]

Yeah I mean who needs to have sex with someone first to figure out if he can have a relationship with them? My fear is he will sleep with me until he gets bored or till someone he actually wants a relationship with from comes along then he would have “hit it” without any commitment and he can ghost me or tell me “we aren’t compatible” and I can’t get mad because I agreed to having something casual first, to see if we could be more. Feels like I’m walking myself into a trap but on the other hand he could just genuinely see himself more physical with me than relationship and he would like to be physical with me and see if feelings grow overtime. but If I do take him up on his over I’m gonna be very careful and also keep my options open and not expect much here

[Not_Average]

If you feel that way, then be forward with him. Don’t setup yourself like that. It will jade you damage your self esteem. Chances are he will fuck you for a month and then move on. Don’t prostitute your body to garner attention from men you like. It’s a bad route to go down. You’re setting the relationship in a trajectory for failure if this isn’t what you want. You have value outside of sex and no one else will see that if you just offer sex without people getting to know you. I’ve been there and done that. Exercise high self value. Don’t give into temptation like this. It’s a trap.

[MrTuxedo]

Completely normal. A few of my past relationships started exactly like that. I see no problem.

[anonbrunette99]

every man is different though he could be saying this with full intention of never have a relationship with me but I guess that’s something I have to figure out on my own

[MrTuxedo]

Exactly.

[Daniela1982]

No, he just wants someone to fuck. When he gets serious he will go with someone who doesn't fuck every guy she dates. Someone he can actually respect. So don't fall for that line unless you want to be his fuck buddy. I wonder how many other girls he tells this to and are in his harem?

[awkward_author]

That's fine as long as you're both able to communicate your needs effectively, assuming this is something you're okay with.

[Here_Now]

Very indesicive or open to manipulations later. Doesn't look too good.

[anonbrunette99]

You think he’ll hit it till for some reason he doesn’t anymore without any commitment

[Here_Now]

Can't be sure but most probably, yes. People with commitment don't talk like this.