What are the concerns of men that date a single mom?

[Anonymous]

[TruthBringer]

Never will I date a single mother.

And here is why:

1. No self-respecting man is going to invest in another man's child. Why should I take care of another man's genetic offspring if I can get with a childless woman who can bare MY own children? Another man's child will never become mine. Not genetically nor lawfully nor socially. The onyl time I would consider taking care of another person's child is if I have to take care of my nephews or nieces because something happened to my siblings. Other than that, not my seed = not my responsibility.

2. 100% responsbility, but 0% authority. Way too many ex-step fathers or step fathers warn about the mother getting in the way of them disciplining the child. When it comes to punishing or teaching the child she says "don't talk to MY child like that!". But when it comes to paying their bills, all of a sudden they become "our child". Miss me with that bs.

3. She is most likely dating for financial help. Single mothers are notorious for this. They settle for a a dude they would never have given the time of day when they were childless, but they do now because they have no choice as they've become the bottom of the barrel within the sexual market. Or in other words, low-hanging fruit. Alpha fucks beta bucks, no thanks.

4. Emotional Baggage & Baby daddy drama. No self-respecting man who can get with a childless woman will bother with this. She probably still has feelings for the guy as well.

5. The children will grow up not respecting the step father. How many step fathers have to complain about the "you're not my dad!" rebellious phase whenever they are being disciplined or are told not to do something?

6. If they guy is a deadbead, that means that either there is something wrong with the woman that he chose to leave or she has a bad judgment skills that got her to bare a child of a bad man. Both scenarios reflect poorly on the woman. The only thing that would not be reflecting poorly is when she happens to be widowed. But then again, all the points above apply.

So in the end, I will be responsible for a kid or kids that is/are not mine and whom I cannot discipline, yet I am expected to invest everything in them. Yeah, miss me with that shit. I would rather remain single than to have that kind of degrading lifestyle. Not that I have to because I have no issues getting with young, childless women as I am right now

[Midnight64]

Exactly I agree. Now it she has a attractive young daughter you can try to get at and smash latter on. lol

[JasM0]

Outside of a widow of children under the age of two, stepfather (literally) equals cuckold in the mind of many men. A man is concerned with the following:


- Poor Judgement: She gave the greatest gift of progeny to a man/men she’s no longer with
- Access: There’s always competition with the father (s) - he’s always an option and the father (s) know this even if she doesn’t
- Priority: Another man’s/men’s lineage is always the priority not you
- Resources: Financial investment in the children is unavoidable with certain low or no ROI
- Parenting & Discipline: Understanding that you’d be a millionaire if you earned a nickel every time someone thought or said, “not your child” or “not my daddy!”


Regards

[Hairylegs222]

I've dated and had relationships with single moms so these were my concerns... Does she have any time for me? Is she a good mother to her kids? How many dads? Can we go on dates privately? Do we get any privacy at her place? How many kids? How involved is the dad or dads with the kids? How much will I encounter the other dad or dads? Is the dad or other dads bad fathers? Is the dad or other dads psycho? How old are her kids? Did she just have a baby lol?

[zagor]

If the kid has issues, like fetal alcohol syndrome or hyperactive, that is a show-stopper. Don't want to deal with that. Otherwise, I would date a single mom if no more than 2 kids.

But if I thought for a moment that she was just looking to improve her financial situation, forget it.

[whosnumber1]

I wouldn't have any as long as her kids respected me. my buddy is dating a single mom and her kids act out and treat my buddy badly and she doesn't discipline them or stand up for him. as long as there was a mutual respect and understanding everything would be just fine

[Wester1967]

Being a dork and doormat, or not.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDgDWAY7UOA

[Lionman95]

My biggest concern would be that I'd also be seen as a father figure by her children and I don't feel ready for that although I'm 26.

[Dchrls78104]

Is she looking for a man in her life, or a father for her children? What about the kids' biological father? How does she relate to him? How do the kids relate to him? (Of course these are reasons I would not date a single mother.)

[dudeinohio]

Right now I have none. My girlfriend has only one teen daughter still at home and she's pretty self sufficient. That means the girlfriend can stay over at my place on the weekends I don't have *my* kids.

[TsAubreyKate]

Baby daddies like don’t try to compare me to him like keep me out of y’all drama “my new man got money he 14ft tall he got muscles and biceps and can fly blah blah blah” shut up keep me out of it

[VikingWarLord]

I only Pump n Dump single mothers.
No way I'd take care of another dude's rug-rat.

[Midnight64]

Yup that's the way lol

[awkward_author]

I would worry about whether or not the child liked me.

[Tellme]

I don’t think I’d have any concerns. As long as she is emotionally sorted everything out with the baby daddy.

[Anonymous]

Not having any time to go out because you have to watch your kid and also probably replacing the father I may be paying for some things for the kid too

[CuriousMufuxka]

Their shitty child/ren.

[DevinAM]

Is she open to another child?

[Chthou95]

Who the fuck wants to date a single mother

[lycanthrope3]

Will the dad cause problems