What dating single mothers is like from a man's perspective. Agree?

[Anonymous]

This is analogous to playing a video game, being presented with the option to play on easy mode or hard mode, and selecting hard mode. Except, the difference is, when you when the game on hard mode, it's acceptable to tell others of your feat and receive praise for your acknowledgment. However, when you date a single mom, regardless of a positive outcome, you still looked at like poorly from other men.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't think badly of any guy who dates a single mom.

You are thinking about dating as a means to collect a trophy and get bragging rights with the guys. And in that scheme, single moms are not trophies. They are like consolation prizes for the guys who really don't have enough pizzazz to compete in the dating market. "Yeah, she's kinda cute, but she's got a rugrat from banging some other guy, and real guys don't need to settle for a woman like that!"

If that's how you think about dating, you aren't going to get much satisfaction from dating.

[Asker]

Okay, I see why you drew the conclusion that my view of dating might be as a means to collect a trophy since I concluded my reasoning with how dating single mothers versus winning a video game is perceived by others.

Let me clarify, you can delete that part of the post and the fact remains, you are still deciding an option that brings with it many potential issues versus dating non mothers.

[OlderAndWiser]

But you should judge a woman for who she is as an individual and not on the basis of her inclusion in a particular group. They are not all alike. Some of them are widows. Some of them were married, started a family, and were abandoned by their husband. They are not all sluts and losers; SOME of them are but many of them are not.

[Asker]

So it seems like you are still on the subject of how they are judged rather than acknowledging the point I made that it can introduce unnecessary issues that dating motherless women do not.

That's okay though, I'll respond with my agreement that they certainly aren't all alike. Widows are far different cases than the ones where the woman chose to have a man's baby and then later decided to leave him.

[OlderAndWiser]

The problem that I encountered when I was much younger and I dated single moms was that they introduced me to their kids too soon, I got attached to the kids, and they got attached to me, too. It's a horrible and absolutely unnecessary complication when it's time to break up. The single moms I dated did not have drama with their kids' father, as I avoided dramatic women regardless of the subject of their drama.

[Asker]

Completely agree and the kid sees another man coming and going in their life, which will obviously affect them later in life.

There are certain things you expect in good mothers, such as that theyre kids will always come first and that they will protect them as humanly possible. Good mothers would not introduce someone quickly because of the excellent point you made, and also because they haven't spent enough time qualifying the man to determine if he's safe for this children to be around in general.

If a woman does introduce a guy too quickly, MASSIVE red. flag

[Asker]

I'll give your response most helpful for the good responses

[OlderAndWiser]

All of the points you made in conclusion are lessons I learned the hard way!

[bamesjond0069]

Dating does have a winning and losing aspect. The moment you give up this view then you don't mind losing. When you lose you have low self esteem and value. What man purposely chooses to publicly humiliate himself? Sorry but that's disgusting and why cuckold men used to be publicly shamed. When some dude tells me he's with a single mom or does poly with his wife banging other dudes, yeah I won't associate with him because he's literally the lowest of the low. He's like a man covered in shit on the side of the road saying how being clean is only in your mind and it feels great to not care... except I care and that dudes a moron. So while y'all wife up a single mom ill continue to win trophies. Objectively some women are better and some are worse. If you don't believe that, find some old fat gangbang skank with a bunch of kids and marry her, you do you. I'm just going to laugh and think you're fucked in the head.

[OlderAndWiser]

@bamesjond0069 You have rossly exaggerated and distorted what I said. Obviously, we have different values and different goals in dating. Tha's okay. And if you need to feel that, between the two of us, you have found the superior position, that's okay, too.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[RavVid]

Its a bit like that. Depends on how they have become a single mom. Divorced or where they just careless?

The child can be quite resentful of you and you will never be #1 with the mom. It will be costly supporting her child.

So yes it will be hard yards.

[Fireguy17]

I have and it was fine.
The kids are more important to her than you will ever be so keep that in mind.
there will be soccer games, ball games, track, whatever that may mees up your plans, so you may just need to be a part of that.

[TroyDT2]

1. A single mom who is self-sufficient and has well-behaved children is easier than a high-maintenance drama queen without kids.

2. I don't give the first F what other dudes think about my dating habits.

[misogynistic_pig]

Single moms are only for casual sex, never for a long-term relationship.

[Anonymous]

it's a bad idea in general. There is always gonna be something about the kid. Understandably so but it's gonna impose additional expenses in all directions.

[Anonymous]

Most men are not responsible enough to be with a woman who has a child. Some can barely look after themselves.

[KrakenAttackin]

Spoken like a post-wall Karen single mother.

[Avicenna]

Responsible men take care of their own instead of letting some single mom use him as a sucker to cover up her bad choice of a deadbeat man.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Avicenna Women don't let "responsible men" get balls deep in them, they are too busy being filled with the seed of Chad and Tyrone.

[Avicenna]

@KrakenAttackin: As Long as she can get some sucker to help provide, there’s no consequences

[KrakenAttackin]

@Avicenna That's exactly right, except that she despises the Simp and is angry every time she looks at him because he is not Chad.

[Avicenna]

There is truth to that

[bamesjond0069]

Single moms are for the lowest of low men. Fuck sure, date no way.