He lied to me about his identity?

[Anonymous]

So I was dating this guy for 4 months and I already had my doubts about him. He has a few businesses but his money came from illegal things such as drugs. I have not opened myself up for years and when I met him I instantly felt this soulmate connection, I can’t even explain it. I came to find out he was not who he said he was. He lied about his name, religion and ethnicity. He was playing with me all along and it hurts so bad. He was trying to get sex but I did not give it to him, something always felt off but I still loved him.. I know it sounds toxic, it was. I confronted him and blocked him. It still hurts a lot, how can I get over him?

[RearEntryGuy]

The fire of Love (eros aka romantic lust) is very difficult to extinguish.

I know because my first still burns inside after more than 20 years.

And yes, I agree with many Opinions, be very cautious.

A broken heart is bad enough if he plays you. But if you have to spend time in jail because of him, you may become mad.

Hence I echo with many here: cautious, move on.

Yes, it's painful when there is attachment. And yes, it's blind. But don't let the Law restore your sight. You can do better.

Hard words I wrote. But out of sincerity.

[charlietom]

First: I'm proud of you for getting out of this relationship. Con men like that are incredibly manipulative and charming, I have a penchant for them myself.
Second: To get over someone, I usually do this-
1. Journal about how you feel. Just write it down, get it out of your head.
2. It's okay to cry, do so if you need to. Do not shame yourself for it, do not blame yourself either.
3. Reconnect with friends, or go make new ones. Spend quality time with those you platonically love.
Third: DO NOT go back to this man! There may be a time you feel weak and like you need him, I promise you don't. Remember how he hurt you when he shows up again, be strong. (When I feel the urge to call my ex, I call one of my parents instead or set a timer for two hours. When the timer is up, I rarely want to call him still.)

[kyleelyn199723]

Time will only heal things. I think you need to come to terms that you weren’t looking for a guy that is a drug dealer and just use that as a guide to move on from him. If you ended up dating him, you would probably be putting yourself in situations that are Illegal and further more have a big possibility of going to jail yourself for being involved with a drug dealer

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Eventually you will get over him , life kinda plays pranks on us can't do anything accept and move on.

Know that at least you had a chance to choose someone or deny and that's power most people don't have 🙂

[TommyMountainFigure]

Simple. You get over him by thanking your lucky stars you never gave him what he wanted, or then you'd have REALLY felt terrible.

[Berethor]

You dodged a bullet, a rape by deception, good move girl.

[Jamie05rhs]

He wasn't who he said he was. Therefore, the person you fell in love with didn't actually exist. You need to really let that sink in. That's the important thing to realize here.

[awkward_author]

Understand the person you fell in love with never existed in the first place, process that, and heal. Only then can you move on.

[Drumlin2001]

Avoid any contact and give it time. Sounds like you've had a lucky escape

[ashish804]

by getting with anyone another

[In_Trance]

smh... not sure what there is to get over