It depends.
Hiding your vulnerable true self would lead to relationship pitfalls.
With that being said, I think it's unrealistic to list every single feeling and thought you're having to your partner. Additionally, I'd advice if you can take care of something by yourself and it makes you feel more confident as a man, you should.
So to some extent, it's good advice.
I don’t think so. It’s hiding emotions from your partner, which is not good. Being able to express your insecurities, worries, and feelings with your partner is good, and can maybe alleviate the bad feelings. 🤷🏻♀️
Eh, not really. Sure, it's more attractive to have your partner seem to have it all together, but building a relationship on dishonestly never pans out well in the long run. And hiding your emotions isn't going to do your physical OR mental health any favors. A person you share your life with should be a person you can trust.
If you're not yet in a relationship with the woman, then that advice cannot be overstated, otherwise it's not good advice
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I'd even go as far as saying those are words of wisdom. I dislike therapy but I'd choose a therapist over my girlfriend. If I have to speak about my feelings to my girlfriend, I will loose my strength as I'd be seen as unable to comfort her during her down days.
Dont want to go for therapy? Speak to a plant
It’s good advice. Telling her your insecurities will make her insecure and she will mirror back her insecurity to you. This will be a cycle of making each other insecure.
Guys think that she uses his insecurities against him when she mentions it, but I think that in fact she is expressing her own insecurity about it. Her insecurity about being with an insecure man or whatever the topic that you told her is.
30 years ago, I would have voted C.
I am 59 now and have a much better understanding of human nature.
Thus, I voted A because, sadly, I've learned the hard way via The School of Hard Knocks that it is true with the vast majority of women.
No. Communication is so important, and you should feel as if you can be your true self and show your real emotions in a relationship
Yes and no. If you're trying to build attraction and get a woman, then yes it's good advice. Women don't fuck with insecure guys. However, if you want an emotionally satisfying relationship, then it's bad advice. The woman that won't stay if you open up and think less of you aren't worth being in a relationship with. So think of opening up as a way to test women to see their suitability for a relationship.
I want to know but i do not need him restating the issue every day. Tell me once and then go work on yourself
Honestly, if you're in a good relationship, you shouldn't have an issue with telling your partner about insecurities you might have or might be feeling the repercussions of, though once again, if you're in a good relationship, then I'm sure you'd be feeling less of a need to say anything in the first place because those insecurities should somewhat fade whilst in a healthy relationship. Personally, my partner encourages me to speak about how I'm feeling if something is wrong, it's a definite breath of fresh air as opposed to feeling like I have to fight every battle on my own.
Well generally they're just going to think less of you. As another user said..
"I want to break up with my girlfriend, what's the best way?" 'Easy, be really nice to her and tell her about your insecurities and fears. She will dump you in a heartbeat."
"I want to break up with my girlfriend, what's the best way?"
'Easy, be really nice to her and tell her about your insecurities and fears. She will dump you in a heartbeat. "
This is a double edged sword. Depending how you look at it.
When you do this, there is no turning back. The results may or may not be to your liking.
She might become vindictive and use it against you.
Or she might turn out to be a keeper and reassure you.
This is one of the key moments where true girlfriends and fake girlfriends part ways.
In any case, utilize it to find out the truth at your own risk. Choose wisely:
💊Toxic masculinity
or
💊The real deal
It is good advice, as sooner or later it will be used by her as ammunition against you,
If you have a strong group of male friends talk things over with them as women will never understand where you're coming from nor have the same reference points as your male friends.
Depends on the woman I guess.. I don't like it.. I can normally see through it after getting to know the man, but in general I don't want to go around and guess how someone is. Nothing wrong being insecure in some situations, especially being open about it in a close personal relationship.
Maybe in the start if you are exceptionally insecure, but better to try and avoid going into situations which makes you extra uncomfortable.
The votes on this question are a good demonstration of why female input is most often totally worthless.
Women will be deliberately dishonest even when they can express themselves anonymously.
u it's kind of naive to think that such insecurity won't become noticeable at some point though... or, a problem for that matter
It's true if you seem to attract weird sadistic women like I do.
They get of on torturing guys so admitting something that makes you insecure will just make them do it more in my experience.
Lol dude did you just get this phrase from one of juice wrlds songs called all girls are the same 🤣😂
Lol no
That’s how toxic masculinity happens. Don’t go there.
You should always let your woman know when your insecure she might be able too help you and if she starts judging and doesn't comfort you then you'll know she's not the right one.
That's very good advice. Remember women's words are dogshit. The actions show a lot and bad things happen being insecure around women
no. if you're with a woman that you can't be insecure around, you're with the wrong woman.
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